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11. Posted by Desiretotravel (Budding Member 10 posts) 3y Star this if you like it!

Oh! Thank you Sander! I did not know that previously. I am a new user of this website [:

12. Posted by CheersT (Travel Guru 2552 posts) 3y Star this if you like it!

Good luck.


13. Posted by Rianda (Full Member 71 posts) 3y Star this if you like it!

Do you really want to travel? It does not matter where you go, overseas or at home there will always be that chance of not being safe. Buy your passport and the plane ticket and go where you want to go. Happy travels.

14. Posted by Desiretotravel (Budding Member 10 posts) 2y Star this if you like it!

Terry - Thank you.

Rianda - Yes. Unfortunately it isn't that simple.
Even if it was, I'd have no way to get to an airport. It takes an hour and a half to two hours to get there from where we live and I do not drive. I have severe anxiety behind the wheel to the extent of panic when other cars are present and unfortunately - there are no empty back roads that lead all the way to the airport.

I appreciate everyone's input and responses but I'm looking for a way to reassure him that I would be safe not for people to tell me to just do whatever I want. If it was that simple (maybe it is for some, not for me though), I'd have done it by now.

15. Posted by CheersT (Travel Guru 2552 posts) 2y Star this if you like it!

"... but I'm looking for a way to reassure him that I would be safe..."

And thus you're returning to my original point... 1.) It's the UK, not some unstable developing country. 2.) It's Cumbria for crying out loud, not Oakland, Oroville, Stockton, Richmond, Antioch, Modesto, Vallejo, Emeryville or any of the other of dozens and dozens and dozens of California towns that suffer from violent crime.

Your Dad is not being rational.


16. Posted by hasbeen (Travel Guru 1239 posts) 2y Star this if you like it!

You say your dad wants sold proof of your safety.

Is there anywhere at all that he would consider safe for you? Find out where that is & compare it to Cumbria.

What does he require as solid proof?

Is it the fact you are meeting someone you have met off the internet that worries him? That would worry me too but a few precautions should be enough to satisfy you & him


17. Posted by Andyf (Moderator 806 posts) 2y Star this if you like it!

If you can't puzzle out getting a bus to the airport without your dad driving you there, you may be better staying at home.

18. Posted by Desiretotravel (Budding Member 10 posts) 2y Star this if you like it!

Andyf - Unfortunately bus isn't an option. We don't have one that will take me that far. They also cost cash-money. I don't tend to have cash on-hand.

Steve - I think it has everything to do with that. He worries quite a lot.

Terry - I don't really think it's about the place - after another conversation about it. It seems more like it's the fact that I'd be meeting someone from the internet that I've never met in person before and also that I'm a young female who would be traveling alone to meet this person. I'm not sure if he's more worried about something happening to me before I'm able to get to her or if he's more worried about the fact that she's someone I only know online - albeit for almost 12 years.

To all:
We've come up with a semi-solution. He's willing to compromise in the sense that if I agree to participate with YWAM a few times (organization that travels abroad to different orphanages and works with the children) to gain some travel experience and general life experience, although he'll still worry - he'll be more open about the personal trips I'd like to take. Although that means I have to wait longer than I'd like to for the personal trips ... it's a start and YWAM has bases all over the world. 1200, I believe. I'm sure there's at least -one- near the area of Cumbria my friend lives in.

Thanks again to all!

19. Posted by Rocky90 (Budding Member 3 posts) 2y Star this if you like it!

It sounds like he's mainly worried about you meeting someone new, but you could meet someone new where you live now and not know their background. You seem to be putting up as many obstracles as he is, with regrads to using public transport to get tpo the airport etc, if you can't afford that then how can you afford to travel to the UK?
I personally think that at 23 you don't need him to '├žompromise', you reassure him and then just get on with it. Maybe he could skype with her some time, or she could send photos of where she lives. Then the only way you can reassure him is to keep in regular contact when you go, agree to have a set time when you get in touch wityh him. It'll be hard for both of you if it's the first time you've been abroad but you're old enough to do it.

20. Posted by Desiretotravel (Budding Member 10 posts) 2y Star this if you like it!

Rocky90 - I agree. We've discussed it a few more times and his concerns seem to be meeting someone from online and that I'm a young female who would be traveling abroad alone. He's worried about abductions and the such. A lot of people think that my age determines whether or not I should be able to do something but unfortunately that's not the case. I do appreciate your suggestions for Skype and photos though! I was also thinking about having her write him a letter or something. We (she and I) discussed using the free viber texting app to keep in contact with him if in fact I'm able to get his approval to visit as well as Skype, e-mail, Facebook, etc. I'm not sure how I'm putting up obstacles? They're already there, lol. I was just looking for advice on how to get around them. As for being unable to afford public transportation - I think that you misunderstood. I said that it would cost cash, I don't keep cash on me. I have a credit card which unfortunately won't pay for a public bus or transit up here. And our bus/transits are local-only which I mentioned previously. I'd be able to afford my UK trip by saving up for it and ensuring I had the available credit to purchase a ticket. I wasn't planning on going right this second. Perhaps during a summer when I won't be starting a semester or won't be in the middle of one.

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