I understand everyone os different and that no one can ever really put themselves in my shoes but heres my problem. I have been with my girl friend since I was 18 and I am npw 24. Last january I felt like I had to go travel. I wanted to take off for atleast 3 months but she didnt want to come. Has no interest at all. Shes too busy with school, wants to get married this year, kids next year. Anyways I settled for a month in thailand. I went and it was great but I only had time to see the south. Anyways its been a year now. As far as shes conserned I have fulfilled my need to travel. But for the last month its back 10 fold. It sucks. I love her and want to marry her. But I dont want to jump into all this responsobiloty and never get my dream trip. #firstworldproblems
I understand where you're coming from. You have this dream to see the world but you're held back by "responsibilities and obligations." This is going to sound selfish, but you need to do what makes you happy. I completely agree that a life without love can be a lonely one but if you put all your ambitions and dreams aside, how happy will you really be?
Yes I agree. Much easier said then done. If I cant shake this feeling in a month then Ill find a way to make it happen although it will be hard to ditch my job. Finally got a good company to work for! But I think it would be worth it
I think that feeling to continue traveling will always be there if it's something you love. And i think you're smart to give your life with your girlfriend some time, instead of acting on impulse like some people lol
Hit the road. Don't look back.
What they said.
Plus, DON'T get suckered with kids till you're certain it's for you and it's the right time. Plenty of time for it later, and it's the one mistake in life you can't rewind and undo.
If she doesn't understand this, you don't have a balanced partnership, you're just a "husband" slotted into her plans. A compromise would be starting a family a few years down the line. (My starting point in negotiations would be 35! ;-) )
Welll I was planning to waot a month to say anything but she found some travel things. I was looking at. Started asking me what this was all about and how she cant go through another 5 weeks. I wanted to lie but I just suck at it. So after awhile of her pressing me I finally said im just not sure about getting married inwithin a year. Mostly because I want to see more of the world before I settle down. She was devistated! I feel like such a dick. Hope im doing the right thing. I just know I would carry a lot of resentment if I dont...jeezzzzze sorry for blabbin!
She sounds selfish, petty, short sighted, really selfish and completely oblivious to your needs. The fact that you're only interested in one big trip and not a complete life change makes the situation even more bizzare.
Run away now.
If she loved you, she wouldn't want to hold you back from your dreams. I would just go.
Have to say I agree with Terry and think it sounds a lot like Andy's suggestion of slotting in to a plan.....
That being said, feel very awkward discussing what appears to be a broader relationship issue (you are clearly on different paths with different goals/interests) and not just a travel thing . Good luck