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Reactions from people when you told them your plans?

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1. Posted by andifras (Full Member 55 posts) 11y

Hey just wondering. My mum is in denial at the moment and i don't think my dad really has a clue (unless my mum has told him) what i am doing but he will be the same. Others i have told are like mmm yea that's cool as if they don't expect me to do it. Some have been great! ooo i want to prove them all wrong. !!! the main thing is my mum and dad so i've told them in advance so they got a while to deal with it! I've never been so focused and determined to do something in my whole 22.5 years! go me!

2. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 11y

Hey Andrea!

I think everyone who decides to abandon their so-called life to go travelling comes up against this from someone close to them. I know exactly how you feel.

When I told my bunch I was going around the world, they thought it was another one of my mad schemes that wouldnt come to fruition! (cant say I blame them for that, I'm always coming up with new and slightly outrageous plans.. ) But I have to say I have a very supportive family, even if they dont always agree with what I'm up to. They realise now that I'm very serious about it and that its going to happen, and they are becoming quite interested in where I'm going and what I'll be doing. I can see my mum worrying about it and trying not to say anything....and I think it must be difficult for parents to see one of their family undertaking such a life-changing experience...worrying about all the things that could very well go wrong.

Other people arent so great though, and the majority of "friends" will point out all the negatives/laugh at you/place bets that you wont do it I was talking to James about this in another thread and he quite rightly pointed out that most ppl find it hard to deal with because it exposes their own laziness/lack of adventure, and they just become jealous.

I think the thing to remember is that no-one really knows what a trip like this means to you personally. They can point out all the what-ifs and possible dangers, but all those might be risks you feel are worth taking.

At the end of the day, it doesnt really matter what anyone else thinks (and that includes family). This is the time of your life when you're allowed to be a little bit selfish, so go and do what you want to do while you still can.

E;)

3. Posted by john7buck (Respected Member 458 posts) 11y

When I decided to travel for a year, my parents were pretty cool about it (they planted the travel bug in me in the first place), but there were definitely people who either couldn't comprehend what I was planning to do, or just outright doubted I would do it. Americans in particular, I believe, are "concerned" about the outside world and many thought I was nuts. I went to a friends wedding days before my departure and I remember speaking to the grooms sister. She asked how long I planned on being gone and I told her as long as possible, but probably a year. She told me that she gave me two months before I would get homesick and find my way home. Those words rang through my ears several times in my travels, and when my money ran out 13 months later and I was forced to return home, it was with some satisfaction that I had proved some people wrong and had the time of my life in the process.

Good luck, safe travels.

4. Posted by Wocca (Inactive 3745 posts) 11y

The last time I left my own country (Australia) in 2002, most people I knew were very interested. The main questions were:

Where are you going?

How long will you be away for?

5. Posted by andifras (Full Member 55 posts) 11y

Cheers for the replies.

Yea i'm not really bothered about what other people think but in a way i am. I just want to prove them wrong! The people egging me on have been great and listening to my plans which is good. The main people will be my family though. lol my mum says she will come out on holiday to visit me if i do go (lol). I agreed as we have relatives in Brisbane area to make her feel better lol

I gave my mum the booklets etc and she skimmed them and said "I wouldn't want to do that" but i just said "Everyone is different". lol she knows i'm being senisible with my money etc and i mention it all the time. lol at least she cares i suppose!

6. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 11y

Quoting samsara2

I was talking to James about this in another thread and he quite rightly pointed out that most ppl find it hard to deal with because it exposes their own laziness/lack of adventure, and they just become jealous.

That's a great point. I have a friend who takes little swipes now and then ("oh, that wouldn't interest you, a woman of the world", etc.) - me who's never gone for more than a few weeks at a time, let alone a year.

Plus she makes more than me and could travel if she bloody well wanted to! But, gripe aside, I think the "scared" factor gets in the way. So instead of being able to say "that's exciting - I want to do that" it comes out as being too busy/broke/stressed/burdened with responsibilities to take the leap.

7. Posted by Wocca (Inactive 3745 posts) 11y

Quoting tway

"... I have a friend who takes little swipes now and then ("oh, that wouldn't interest you, a woman of the world"..."

I'm very wary whenever someone refers to me as a "man of the world". Especially work colleagues

8. Posted by moolieness (Full Member 48 posts) 11y

when I first told people about going away for a year I was pleasantly surprised by all the positive comments from family and friends alike. My mother has always told me to enjoy myself before I settle down so thats what I am doing. My dad on the other hand is just kind of ignoring the whole issue as he doesnt want his baby girl going away for a year.

I must say I was surprised that so many of you had negative comments as that has not been my experience at all. I say blow a raspberry to all the negative people and go have the time of your life.

9. Posted by john7buck (Respected Member 458 posts) 11y

I should add that the "satisfaction at proving people wrong" is more a pride in yourself for the changes you've made, the people you've met and the things that you've seen. The people who doubted you in the first place, probably won't be able to comprehend what you've pulled off anyway. I can tell you this, they won't have changed in the least while you were away barring those who get married and/or pregnant.

Am I starting to sound bitter? Man, I need to go traveling again!

10. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 11y

Quoting Wocca

I'm very wary whenever someone refers to me as a "man of the world". Especially work colleagues

Oh no! Is that a bad thing??? I told Rich I thought he was a man of the world!! YIKES!

RICH, I PUBLICLY APOLOGISE!! I meant it well.