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Reactions from people when you told them your plans?

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11. Posted by Wocca (Inactive 3745 posts) 11y

Who knows what dark connotations underpin that label from a colleague? More than likely, you've been the subject of discussion(s)amongst others ... if you're being referred to in such a manner

12. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 11y

Quoting Wocca

I'm very wary whenever someone refers to me as a "man of the world".

Yeah, I know what you mean. I've visited, what, 9 countries - out of almost 200? How does that make me a 'woman of the world'? Plus that expression always comes out of somebody's mouth with intended italics: "oh, a woman of the world".

I read a quote on Ralf Pott's (sp?) Vagabonding Web site, about one constant traveller whose family and friends would tell her "oh, I live vicariously though you." To which she'd respond, "why? you've got your own life!" I liked that one.

13. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 11y


I wouldnt worry about it! They are just jealous of your slightly bohemian expatriate lifestyle. As Hunter S. once said

"Don't take any guff from those swine man!";)

14. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 11y

I agree with Tway's assessment of why other's look negatively on someone else's travel plans. Though, lack of ambition, etc. on their part may also play into it, I think fear is closer to the core of the issue. I have never travelled "far and wide", so I can not speak on that level. I can say that no matter what trips my husband and I do take, there is someone who has to point out the negative side of our travel plan and/or destinations. It's not out of fear for our safety, but more their own fear of "plunging" in and doing it themselves. They project that fear on to us instead.

I also believe that telling friends and family of your travel plans is important - if for nothing else but to let them know what area you will be touring at particular times. But, unless you're the type to just head off "all willy-nilly" on a trip, they don't realize how many hours you have spent and all the work, research and planning you have actually done to make your travels a success before you even leave. They only hear as much as you have told them, so that is all the information they have to work with. They allow their imaginations to fill in the blanks, and not necessarily correctly.

This trip is yours and yours alone. Do it. Enjoy it. And, come back with great tales of adventure to wow them all when it's over.

15. Posted by Wocca (Inactive 3745 posts) 11y

Especially when I'm actually travelling, and there are other English native-speaking westerners around ... I want to be just anonymous. This is where the TP name cards are useful to distribute. Anyone wanting further information, could then be referred to the TP webpage.

16. Posted by Twinkle (Travel Guru 1112 posts) 11y

I think parents are all the same, obviously the worry factor is the thing that presses them most!My Mum is still in denial despite the fact its less than 5 weeks to leave and keeps making comments like "Dont Go, stay here while you are safe!" my Dad on the other hand is all for it and thinks its fantastic!!!!!Theres my mates who are full of encouragement and saying how much they admire what Im doing, then theres my other mates who make cheap jibes about being a student and saying the whole "it must be nice " comment, when in reality Ive spent my year out (in between my 2nd and third year at Uni) working 60 hours a week over seven days a week!!!!So I think Im totally justified in deserving this!!!!At the end of the day,it doesnt concern anyone else, you have to follow your heart!!!!!Im soooooooo excited!!!!!

17. Posted by daveh (Travel Guru 1027 posts) 11y

I think the older you get, the more you give up to go travelling (established careers, property). As i'm pretty well travelled anyway, no-one is surprised when i go off, what has surprised people this time is that i'm giving up a good job and selling my house, and have no idea when or if i will ever come back to the uk to live. After the initial surprise that i'm doing it, most then comment that they're surprised i didn't do it earlier. Everybody i know has been full of encouragement and support as they know i'm not the type to do anything like this without giving it some serious thought. Of course mum is the exception, but after i brought up the subject of her negative views, she admitted that she expected me to do this at some stage and is fully behind me (i think she senses a few exotic holidays on the horizon)

18. Posted by Wocca (Inactive 3745 posts) 11y

I have a niece that used to keep asking me " When are you going overseas again, so I can come and visit you?"

19. Posted by newguy (Full Member 197 posts) 11y

Reactions from people when you told them your plans?

"Hey get me that Hard Rock T-shirt..hmm..let me see,Oh and that so and so banned video..(thinking thinking)what else?! eh some porn magazine like playboy?"

20. Posted by lil j (Travel Guru 1303 posts) 11y

Oh i remember this a few months ago when i first came out with the idea and my parents didnt believe it for a second, everyone else outside the family were brill and gave me loads of encouragement!

It came to the night when i just decided to book my ticket, online, and i text a few ppl but my parents didnt know until the day after!! hehe-i laugh at that, now they are supportive-it took a while for it to register with my dad, but he's giving my advice and even offered to take me to the airport!!

This means more to me than they'll ever know!