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I'm worried my relationship will end! Advice please?

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1. Posted by Steviesmith84 (Budding Member 2 posts) 32w

Hi guys. Im after some advice although more reassurance. So my girlfriend and I have been together for 6 months now and are very in love. She has been away travelling for a few weeks of 6 months and as it's very hard and stressful for us both so we decided to give eachother some space. I.e text occasionally and 'officially' not be together. We did this because of the pressure and stress and will meet up after the 6 months is up and see what's what. We will stay in contact and have no actual commitment u til she is back. I guess I fear she will lose her feelings for me and or meet someone else while she travels. I guess I could too but I do love her very much. What are your thoughts please? Will
It work? Can it work? Have never done anything like this before.. Thanks Steve

2. Posted by CheersT (Travel Guru 2422 posts) 32w

Your post doesn't make any sense.

You've been together for 6 months, but she's been travelling for a few weeks of that six months so the two of you decided to take a break? Because of a few weeks of travel? Huh?

Why is her being away for a few weeks so stressful that you've basically decided to break up during that time? A few weeks is nothing.

Lastly, I'm curious if you've ever travelled.

Cheers,
Terry

3. Posted by CheersT (Travel Guru 2422 posts) 31w

I've sobered up slightly and have re-read your (confusing and disjointed) post a couple more times and with all due respect I don't think there was ever a, "very much in love" relationship between the two of you.

Together for a few months... then she splits to go travelling... all commitments are instantly dropped... you only communicate every now and then by text...

Sorry amigo, you've been dumped. Man-up, get over it and get travelling on your own!

Cheers,
Terry

4. Posted by Andyf (Travel Guru 640 posts) 31w

Ever the cynic Terry! :-)

It could be that she's in the middle of travelling, focusing on what's in front of her, and a needy insecure boyfriend back home needing constant contact and reassurance is being a nuisance, much as she loves him.

So she says let's hit the pause button, not because she plans to run off with the next tanned surfer dude, but so he's not so annoying that they aren't speaking in six months.

No way of predicting the future, but I'd take what she says at face value. She currently plans to resume the relationship after travelling. You know her - is she practical and honest?

5. Posted by JaneAir (Budding Member 3 posts) 31w

Everything will be as it must be, do not worry!

6. Posted by Steviesmith84 (Budding Member 2 posts) 31w

Thanks guys I appreciate your input..

But yes me and her were in love and she had already booked to travel before we met. We have both like everyone have had some very rubbish relationships and ours was perfect and most of the stress was caused by the fact that she is going away.

I have been travelling and would like to go again yes but I was single so am unsure how to act hence the original question.

She isn't dumping me as she would have done that before she left, we wanted it to work but was too tough with the time difference and stress.

I hope we can stay in contact and pick up up again when she gets back. I am being needy which is very out of character so will back off and go from there.

Thanks again, Steve

7. Posted by CheersT (Travel Guru 2422 posts) 31w

Good luck.

Cheers,
Terry

8. Posted by harshaleng (First Time Poster 1 posts) 31w

hi ,nice to meet you there.When I read this it's just like reading my own story since me and my boyfriend also facing the same problem like you do , I really understand your mood right now since my boyfriend and I just meet each other a few months after I have made this working holiday visa plan ,and we are happy and no argue at all before ,but as long as I got here ,he just can't stop worry about everything and always argue about things that he can't really figure out in his way ,but I don't blame him for being so insecure since I am kind of a care free spirit girl but we do love each other ,we always been contact with each other everyday and i definitely want to back to him as soon as I make my dream come true,so i believe you two will find your way to figure this out ,if you do love her just give her some space but still keep in touch not just act like you are just some normal friends who want to send a message time by time, you miss her ,tell her. and still trust her about the feeling to each other ,everything will be as it must to be,indeed .

Cherrs

9. Posted by mytravelshanti (Budding Member 5 posts) 31w

Good Luck my friend and enjoy your life and always be happy every moment and be strong for handle any problem.