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11. Posted by UnknownWanderer (Budding Member 11 posts) 36w

I had no idea that was you, that is awesome.

I know traveling likely wont change much but i feel like it would allow me to grow more self-reliant and to be able to reach my dream of seeing the world.

somethings you point out have given me somethings to think about.

I honestly feel like this is a good point in my life where i can travel, and I at least want to try.

I am thankful for all the good advice you have given me. you have given me somethings to think about, that haven't crossed my mind .

i still have a 2 or 3 years before i able to travel. what you said here "So don't let cost become so important that you lose sight of why you wanted to travel in the first place. I would rather enjoy 4 months in places that interest me than survive for 8 months in places I have little or no interest in. Longer is not necessarily better."
seems like more appealing and achievable way for me to travel.

12. Posted by Sander (Moderator 4834 posts) 36w

I am sitting here chuckling to myself UnknownWanderer. The post you link at the end of your response, was written by me.

Hah, that's just great!

Here is another thought for you if I may offer it. Travel is not likely to change your life.

For what it's worth, travel for me did change my life. That is, the life I lead is shaped in innumerable ways due to having gone travelling, fresh out of university, and is qualitatively better as a direct consequence of travelling.

Now, I don't actually disagree with the spirit of OldPro's post. Travelling did not give me an epiphany, no hallelujah moment. I did not become a different person overnight. I did not learn ancient mystical wisdom while studying at the feet of a wise person from exotic destination X, nor become the most celebrated person in any social group just by virtue of coming from (or having been) abroad. I'm still an introvert, and still uncomfortable when in the midst of a large group of people I don't know.

But what did happen was that I spent over two years away from anyone who had preconceived notions of who I was, what kind of things I could be expected to do. For over two years, I could make up my own mind every single day for what I was going to do that day, and there'd be no one to judge me for it or even know about it. And over the course of this time, ever so slowly, some things which I had always done fell away as just not being something I actually cared about. And other activities, which I undertook just for the heck of it, resonated with me - with me personally, just for me, without anyone to tell about them - and grew to be a part of who I now am. I have new favorite foods, taught myself an absolute love for long and strenuous hikes, developed actual skill at photography, and have very fond memories of many gorgeous sunrises (but also the knowledge that mostly, I don't care to get up for them). :)

I encountered myriad hurdles and obstacles along the way. Things I'd never dealt with before, and was not prepared for. Minor things, trifling things - but all the same, scary stuff I wasn't prepared for. And I just dealt with them, because that's what you have to do. I made mistakes and paid some costs, but much more, I succeeded. And all of that helped my self-confidence tremendously. Where once I would have shied away from things because of unknown factors and possible problems, I now trust that I'll be able to deal with whatever crops up.

In Australia, I happened to become a freelancer, because due to their tax system, that's just the easiest way to deal with doing some contract work, and so the entire IT-sector there is set up for it. 11+ years later, I'm still a freelancer at home, and massively successful at it for any definition I care about. I'd never have even considered the possibility of daring to go that way on my own if I hadn't had that experience while travelling, and now it gives me the freedom (and money) to continue travelling to my heart's content.

I'm a better person because of travelling. It gave me a timeout and freedom from everything. And that was exactly what I needed to "discover myself".

There's no guarantee that something similar will happen to you, UnknownWanderer, but if you pay attention to what you yourself want, I wouldn't discount it as a possibility either...

13. Posted by UnknownWanderer (Budding Member 11 posts) 36w

this is one things i hope could happen when i go aboard "But what did happen was that I spent over two years away from anyone who had preconceived notions of who I was, what kind of things I could be expected to do. For over two years, I could make up my own mind every single day for what I was going to do that day, and there'd be no one to judge me for it or even know about it. And over the course of this time, ever so slowly, some things which I had always done fell away as just not being something I actually cared about. And other activities, which I undertook just for the heck of it, resonated with me - with me personally, just for me, without anyone to tell about them - and grew to be a part of who I now am. I have new favorite foods, taught myself an absolute love for long and strenuous hikes, developed actual skill at photography, and have very fond memories of many gorgeous sunrises (but also the knowledge that mostly, I don't care to get up for them). :)

I encountered myriad hurdles and obstacles along the way. Things I'd never dealt with before, and was not prepared for. Minor things, trifling things - but all the same, scary stuff I wasn't prepared for. And I just dealt with them, because that's what you have to do. I made mistakes and paid some costs, but much more, I succeeded. And all of that helped my self-confidence tremendously. Where once I would have shied away from things because of unknown factors and possible problems, I now trust that I'll be able to deal with whatever crops up."

the decision to travel is a big risk for me, but i have this nagging desire to travel, the thought of finding out more about myself and what i am capable of doing on my own. iv'e been asked "why can't you just do that here" and i don't really know why, maybe its a lack of interest or the fact that i would still feel trapped in a safe bubble here. I don't really have the words to explain the exact feelings i have to why i feel the need to travel to find myself but i feel like whatever ends up happening rather it be good or bad will help me.

i don't know if any that makes sense, i'm not really good at explaining these kind of things. but thank you both for taking the time to help.

14. Posted by OldPro (Respected Member 281 posts) 36w

Travel can indeed by an enlightening and broadening experience. I agree with that completely and would also say it has influenced many things in my own life. But the key word I think is 'influenced'. It didn't change ME, it just allowed ME to become more known to myself.

It can't for example make someone who is not self-confident into a self-confident person. That has to already have been IN you to begin with and the reality is that it is not in everyone to begin with. Some people will never be self-confident. I use that as just one simple example.

So I would say that travel can help you get to know yourself better but it cannot change you in any basic way. You are who you are.

On a somewhat related side note, I do think that younger travellers today are too reliant on safety nets and those can get in the way of allowing themselves to grow and learn. I mention this based on a particular comment by Sander.

"I encountered myriad hurdles and obstacles along the way. Things I'd never dealt with before, and was not prepared for. Minor things, trifling things - but all the same, scary stuff I wasn't prepared for. And I just dealt with them, because that's what you have to do."

Contrast that to a post on a travel forum I read a while ago which read something like this: 'My daughter and her boyfriend are in X and her credit card won't work in the ATM. She has called me to ask what to do and I as her Mother am posting here hoping to get an answer so that I can then call her on her cellphone and give her the answer. Can you help us?'

Obviously, the daughter and her boyfriend were not 'just dealing with the problem, because that is what you have to do.' Their immediate response to a problem was to 1. Use a cellphone and 2. pass the problem on to someone else to solve. Not much growth likely for them I'm afraid.

15. Posted by aboolatjipetro (Budding Member 2 posts) 36w

Hello friends,please i will like to know if there are new and worthy travel agents,the likes of booking.com are outdated ,they just send your credit card over to third party,please advice.
Thanks,
mary.

16. Posted by samwellportia (Budding Member 2 posts) 36w

When planning to travel, travel now! do not say travel later! it go on forever. ill say. travel wherever, for just a week or two, so you'll get to know the real picture of travelling. you can, atleast apply for travelling jobs. for example being a seaman, who'd travel around on board cruise ships or others. and distinguish travelling light to loaded. something like that, but asking on blogs might help you or not, depending on the intake. but hey, travelling is life. its not always enjoyable, but the memories in return are the best! its not always the pictures or items bought. :) happy travelling friend :)

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18. Posted by UnknownWanderer (Budding Member 11 posts) 36w

Quoting samwellportia

When planning to travel, travel now! do not say travel later! it go on forever. ill say. travel wherever, for just a week or two, so you'll get to know the real picture of travelling. you can, atleast apply for travelling jobs. for example being a seaman, who'd travel around on board cruise ships or others. and distinguish travelling light to loaded. something like that, but asking on blogs might help you or not, depending on the intake. but hey, travelling is life. its not always enjoyable, but the memories in return are the best! its not always the pictures or items bought. :) happy travelling friend :)

Thanks for the reply. yeah travel now is good idea but don't have the funds right now. i have decided on a backpack and looking at other gear i will need. boats are kinda off limits for me, sea sickness sucks, seasickness pills help but not much with me. I've read a lot blogs like nomadic Matt and others. plus the wise words of oldpro and sanders.

i came across this poem by Charles Bukowski which really inspired me-
your life is your life
don't let it be clubbed into dank submission.
be on the watch.
there are ways out.
there is a light somewhere.
it may not be much light but
it beats the darkness.
be on the watch.
the gods will offer you chances.
know them.
take them.
you can't beat death but
you can beat death in life, sometimes.
and the more often you learn to do it,
the more light there will be.
your life is your life.
know it while you have it.
you are marvelous
the gods wait to delight
in you.

19. Posted by jeffreyty002 (Budding Member 20 posts) 36w

Well, the best way to enjoy life to the fullest is to travel around the world. If you don't have enough budget you can always save and schedule your travel at the right time within your budget of course. Don't be overly addicted to travelling if you think you cannot support it. Again, it is important to save 1st and then make that meaningful travel happens. In my case, I travel for like twice or thrice a year and I want to explore Asia first since its cheaper than going to Europe for now.

20. Posted by cocohouseboats (Inactive 1 posts) 35w

This is interesting. Now, i will provide you some tips for travelers. This will be useful in your journey.

Bring a travel first aid kit.
Don’t pack clothes that require ironing.
Never pack something that you haven’t worn before.
Bags with wheels are amazing.
Never spend too much.
Mingle with local people.
Take precaution to take clean and healthy food while traveling.