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1. Posted by Nella179 (Budding Member 4 posts) 25w

Hi
My name is Nella & I am 24 years old.

Living & working in UK ;)

I've always wanted to travel around the world but never found anyone else who would like to do the same!

Is there anyone who has same ideas? Would consider getting together & come up with something?

2. Posted by Mattfozz27 (Budding Member 49 posts) 25w

Hi Nella

try not to worry about not finding anyone to go with

im planning on going at some point later this year, on my own, but there will be plenty of fellow travellers who you will meet.

where do you want to go? ill be in se asia for 4 months, oz and nz for 2 months and 5 months in south america

Matt

3. Posted by Nella179 (Budding Member 4 posts) 25w

Hi Matt,

M sure you right but I would prefer to go with someone else :)
It will be my first trip so m bit worried

Wanted go around America, NZ
Maybe Canada & India

4. Posted by Mattfozz27 (Budding Member 49 posts) 25w

thats totally understandable

i went on my first solo trip to thailand and cambodia for 1 month a few yrs back, ages 30 and yes it was dauntiing, but it changed my way of thinking and how i should appreciate life more

i then did 2 volunteer trips in south africa and been to malaysia, singapore & the philippines with my friend last year. all this has pushed me to travel the world

would love to do some of america and canada myself, but maybe on another occasion

india is definitely a place that you need to go with others though ill say that

5. Posted by OldPro (Respected Member 212 posts) 25w

I can understand that some people would prefer not to travel solo and others prefer solo. To each his own in that regard. However, what I can never understand is why someone would want to look for a travel companion online.

What I mean is, suppose you find someone online, trade some messages, etc. Maybe even have a few Skype calls back and forth where you can see each other. You seem compatible and so agree to plan a trip together. A trip you expect to take you around the world over a relatively long period of time.

Then the time comes, you meet up and head off on your trip. Within 2 weeks you realize you are not compatible as travel companions at all. So you split up and go your separate ways. But it isn't like online dating where if the first date doesn't work out, there is no real harm done and you just throw your hook back in the water and try to catch another fish.

When it doesn't work out for a long term travel companion, there you are 2 weeks in and on your own. Exactly what you did not want to be doing. Nor can you just throw your hook back in and hope to catch another fish. Rather than a first date from an online dating site, it's like a trial marriage from a first online dating site date.

For that reason alone, I would not contemplate planning a long term trip with someone I did not know very well to begin with. Even the best of friends or couples have found that long term travel ended their relationship. You live in each other's pocket 24/7 and that is not an easy thing to do. Travelling together is actually a very good test of how strong and compatible a relationship is.

My advice would be to find someone to travel with long before you try a long term trip together. Try a weekend together, then a week, then a couple of weeks.

6. Posted by Andyf (Travel Guru 639 posts) 25w

Oldpro, you repeatedly use the forums to complain about people doing things in a way different to you, in a way that looks like you're criticising them. You've had them bite back, but you don't learn, you just argue with them interminably as though you're trolling. Previously you've done this on travel gear, planning, travel money, and now travelling companions. Be a grumpy old curmudgeon if you like but I think your manner is off-putting to people asking for assistance. I don't like to think that people are put off posting because they're going to be bitched and moaned at.

7. Posted by OldPro (Respected Member 212 posts) 25w

Andyf, you are entitled to your opinion of me as a person, however wrong your opinion may be. You are not however entitled to voice it here as personal criticism of me if I understand the forum rules properly.

I wrote about what my thoughts were on looking for a travel companion online and offered my advice to the OP based on that. You can disagree with my opinion on that SUBJECT if you wish and give your opposing opinion on that SUBJECT if you wish, along with your advice to the OP.

There is nothing in my post that refers to the OP personally in any way 'off putting' as you put it. What YOU read into an opinion of something is YOUR problem.

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