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31. Posted by Cupcake (Travel Guru 8468 posts) 10y

I saw the series "The Human Animal, by Desmond Morris" years ago....absolutely loved it!! Totally facinating to look at humans from a totally biological point of view.
http://www.films.com/id/10834/Desmond_Morris_The_Human_Animal_A_Personal_View_of_the_Human_Species.htm

32. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 10y

I haven't see the BBC program, but I have seen the Desmond Morris series. I agree with CC, it was really very good.

I'm always surprised at the number of people who can't wait to get married, then continue to try living their lives as though they were single. I don't mean by having affairs, but rather an unwillingness to adapt to their new situation. You won't ever change the other person, you accept them and all of their little eccentricities.

I married the first time as an escape route from a rocky relationship with my parents. I was 19 and it was the wrong road. My ex was controlling and abusive, but I stayed 8 years because I didn't see any escape. Obviously, an opportunity arose and I took it. I vowed I would never, ever marry again and I was quite content being single. It allowed me to be "selfish" for awhile - that is, I got to make the relationship rules.

I also met Beerman during that time - now 22 years ago. Due to our own circumstances, we got to be friends first. When both of our "significant others" became insignificant, we took things a step further. Still stuck in my "never again" fantasy, I had no need to get married. Things were wonderful just the way they were. Beerman can attest to that - and he also changed my mind. We will be married 16 years on CC's birthday. There is no one else in the world I would rather be with and I can't imagine a day without him in my life. ;)

33. Posted by Cupcake (Travel Guru 8468 posts) 10y

Do you know how nice it is to read a story with a happy ending??
You have made my day Isa! You and eermanBay are absolutely inspiring!!
(I love you two! :) )

34. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 10y

Quoting Isadora

I haven't see the BBC program, but I have seen the Desmond Morris series. I agree with CC, it was really very good.

I'm always surprised at the number of people who can't wait to get married, then continue to try living their lives as though they were single. I don't mean by having affairs, but rather an unwillingness to adapt to their new situation. You won't ever change the other person, you accept them and all of their little eccentricities.

I married the first time as an escape route from a rocky relationship with my parents. I was 19 and it was the wrong road. My ex was controlling and abusive, but I stayed 8 years because I didn't see any escape. Obviously, an opportunity arose and I took it. I vowed I would never, ever marry again and I was quite content being single. It allowed me to be "selfish" for awhile - that is, I got to make the relationship rules.

I also met Beerman during that time - now 22 years ago. Due to our own circumstances, we got to be friends first. When both of our "significant others" became insignificant, we took things a step further. Still stuck in my "never again" fantasy, I had no need to get married. Things were wonderful just the way they were. Beerman can attest to that - and he also changed my mind. We will be married 16 years on CC's birthday. There is no one else in the world I would rather be with and I can't imagine a day without him in my life. ;)

Isa, to know you is to love you.

You rock

35. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 10y

Quoting Cupcake

Do you know how nice it is to read a story with a happy ending??
You have made my day Isa! You and eermanBay are absolutely inspiring!!
(I love you two! :) )

Quoting james

Isa, to know you is to love you.
You rock

Thank you both!!! And you didn't think I could work magic... Mwahahahahahahaha!!!!!
Though, come to think of it - I could have thrown a protection against marriage spell... Nah, it's better the way it is! Sometimes the magic really does work. ;) We just realized very early on that we were better and stronger together. We've been through our share of storms - but always from external forces - and they haven't broken us yet! We're always able to laugh at the end of the day, which is important.

36. Posted by mally (Respected Member 199 posts) 10y

ive been married 30 year yes to the same man. wouldn't change anything good or bad for the world . we know we can trust each other with everything. just remember the motto now a days is you don't marry for money you divorce for it! look at paul mcartney how dumb can a dub person be. money doesn't give you sence

37. Posted by Q' (Travel Guru 1987 posts) 10y

a friend of mine believes no one should get married until at least 30. you can't know what you want until at least then.

38. Posted by Jennifer G (Budding Member 725 posts) 10y

Marriage........when I was in my 20's, yes, i wanted to get married to someone, now, in my 30's, i dunno who to marry then

39. Posted by Jase007 (Travel Guru 8870 posts) 10y

Marriage:
2 weeks to get into
2 years to get out of
20 years paying the bloody thing off

Every man should get married once in his life, as no one man deserves to go though his entire life happy

40. Posted by loubylou (Travel Guru 664 posts) 10y

Quoting Jase007

Marriage:
2 weeks to get into
2 years to get out of
20 years paying the bloody thing off

So true Jase!

I'm now approaching 30 and have been with my boyfriend for 11 years. We are totally committed to each other and know that we will be together forever. But people think it's strange that we have no desire to marry and have kids! I don't know why but it annoys me when people judge and say we mustn't really love each other because of this! Maybe one day we might, but we just don't see the need! I've also heard that getting married changes EVERYTHING? is that true?

Marriage and relationships in general nowadays (I sound like my nan!) are taken far too lightly, the amount of people we have seen get married, have kids, divorce and re-marry in the time we have been together is astonishing!

I never ever dreamed when I was a little girl about getting married etc and have often joked that if we did get married, it would be in the middle of winter or abroad and I would wear pink...just to teach people a lesson about bugging others about how they live their life!

[ Edit: Edited at Jul 12, 2006 1:17 AM by loubylou ]

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