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31. Posted by mtlchica (Respected Member 922 posts) 11y

Quoting Zhou

Then I may have to thank the Chinese government for adopting the "one-child policy".--However, if I`m married with a guy who is also single-born, we`ll be able to give birth to two.

Really? I didn't know it worked like that. So if one of you had siblings, you would have to stick to the one-child policy, but if neither of you do, you're allowed to have two? Interesting...

32. Posted by Zhou (Full Member 126 posts) 11y

Theoretically, yes. However, even now people don`t always obey the rule if they`d like to pay the fine. The policy is also on the way of being loosened because of population reality.

The problem is: do a couple have enough money to raise more than one child? Just think about the cost of living, education and everything else..

33. Posted by MattXIII (Full Member 272 posts) 11y

I can't stand travelling with people i know! It's bloody awful! "Oh, no don't wanna do that, come on hurry up, oki i've seen enough of this let's go elsewhere,no i don't want to eat there".


I enjoy travelling alone, i've got a younger sister (felt like an older one as she always used to be a good foot taller than me).
UIt's funny aswell, she was always the popular, pretty one and my childhood consisted of skipping playtime to work on theatre productions and keeping generally out of others way. I wasn't unpopluar or anything, i was the kid that you knew existed but didn't bother bout.
NOW: My sister is a cook at a mental hospital with a boyfreind who drinks to much and lives in a caravan (not a gypsy, it's on some blokes land and it's alot cheaper than a house).
Me? I'm off travelling the world, got qualifications coming outta my ears (not all good grades mind you ;) ), living well away from home and is now the popular

But anyway

I don't like travelling with peeps i 'know', but ya meet loads of people along the way so your never really alone.

34. Posted by cookieyum (Inactive 75 posts) 11y

I also think it's really hard to find compatible people to travel with - i don't think it's because i'm a difficult person to get on with but when you're travelling with someone you really see things in both of you that you hadn't noticed before, not all of them good. I spent 4 days in prague with my best friend and 6 weeks in south america with my sister and although i had an incredible time on both holidays i'm quite keen to see how things compare travelling alone. I was quite shocked by some of my friends opinions on race, class etc. and there's no place for narrow-mindedness when you're travelling so i got quite angry with him. There are so many decisions to make travelling; what are you gonna see today, how much are you willing to pay for something,do you want to spend all day getting a sun tan or getting some culture...Keeping everyone satisfied is not easy.
I just think having the freedom to do whatever you want whenever you want without having to please someone else sounds really appealing (and maybe a little selfish!) And i guess travelling alone kind of forces you to meet new people too. But then other people have worries about travelling alone - my mum for instance! Being a very responsible young woman ;) I wanted to go backpacking solo around Portugal this summer but mum, bless her, wasn't so keen. So we came to a compromise - i'm off to see my friend in brisbane instead and then have a few days in sydney on my own. Looking forward to feeling all grown up and making my own decisions!!

35. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 11y

That's another great reason to travel alone - you can't blame anyone else for anything. No "well, you didn't want to go" or "you were whining" or "you were so disagreeable I figured you wanted to skip it".

When you're alone, you're accountable only for yourself. Which means you're going to be pretty honest and upfront about what YOU want and YOU need (and you can't pass the buck!). I like that feeling of seeing the complete "truth" in every circumstance. It's easier to do when you're on your own.

That feels almost too philosophical - does it make sense???

36. Posted by mtlchica (Respected Member 922 posts) 11y

Quoting tway

That's another great reason to travel alone - you can't blame anyone else for anything. No "well, you didn't want to go" or "you were whining" or "you were so disagreeable I figured you wanted to skip it".

The best way to avoid situations like the skipping one you described is to talk to your potential travel mate before hand and see what they expect out of the trip. Then go ove the "must see" places for each of you and if your travel buddy is willing to split up for a day so you both can see everything you want. I don't think I would travel with anyone who wasn't keen to the idea of splitting up. Not just to make sure I get to see the sites I came to see, but also to give me a break of constatly seeing the same person 24/7. Sometimes you just need some "me time."

37. Posted by mtlchica (Respected Member 922 posts) 11y

Quoting mtlchica

Then go over the "must see" places...but also to give me a break of constantly seeing the same person 24/7.


38. Posted by noemagosa (Full Member 355 posts) 11y

I am NOT an only child (have a younger brother) and enjoy travelling solo. I also had a couple of long week-end away with a good friend of mine... As long as I'm discovering new things, and have the same interests (or similar), that'S fine with me!...

39. Posted by ChIqUiTtA (Respected Member 278 posts) 11y

to each his own...;)

40. Posted by MartinH (Full Member 67 posts) 11y

I had no theory per se, just a ponder, something I do a lot of I guess (day dreamer!) , I'm glad it sparked some interest though.

Something I find quite amusing is that, on the whole I know very few people who are an only child per percentage of people I know, no figures, but its just a general feeling, I often feel quite different being an only child as there aren't many who identify with it for me, but on this thread there seems to be quite a few coming forward, maybe just because its the subject matter, again its not factual but I wonder if say a travel site forum has more only child matches than other types of forums? (something hard to substantiate or correlate)

Again, more ponders, whilst I don't agree fully in pigeon holing someone based on trends, background, creed, race etc. I do find it interesting and how these lead to stereotypes.

Howabout parenting from the only children, would you raise an only child having been one yourself? (god willing that all can freely choose such a thing). I think I'd have atleast two, more than that scares me silly, in fact thinking about kids scares me silly.. what am I doing!

DAMNIT, i'm away with the fairies again, Oooh look ice cream.