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21. Posted by poiseivy (Inactive 9 posts) 11y

Hi people,

I'm agreeing with everone here, follow your dreams. I'm planning my first RTW trip. I've recently finished university and I'm carrying on working for Orange retail (mobile phones). I have been told that I could really progress in my job. But it's far from what I want to persue. I've been in the retail industry since I was 18, and it's getting a bit boring now. I have no family (of my own) or morgage, apart from my boyfriend who is supporting me 100% and wouldn't mind coming. We both want to go into the media industry where our degrees lie. But has proven to be very competitive here. My boyfriend is in the middle of setting up his own business within the industry, while I continue to work and plan my trip. Even when I come back broke, I would move back to my dad's. But don't think I could face working for another retail outlet. I've even been thinking of working and living in another country, where they seem to appreciate your degree. Here it's more of the experience you have and less of the qualifications. And it's not about working in retail til im 65.

Ivy

22. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 11y

To go off on a small tangent... my boyfriend said to me yesterday "I feel like I have to justify everything - why I'm staying in Canada for the summer (he's from Ireland), why I want to come back and live here, why I don't go home and get a nice job and settle down, why I don't call home more often, why, why, why...".

I think that's the crux of it. Sometimes you feel like you owe it to people to justify the reasons you choose X over Y. Other people have their own expectations of you, and if you deviate you often feel like you have to explain why.

When my sister returned from 4 years in NZ, my grandmother said "Thank God! I prayed every day that you'd come home." Jeez Louise - she might as well have said "You were lost, and now you're found!!" My sister deviated from my grandmother's expectations, and my grandmother somehow held her responsible for the discomfort this caused.

All to say: it's hard to choose travel over a career, I think, because it means you're going against other people's expectations... maybe even your own, original expectations. And it's scary to think about coming back and wondering if you've somehow "failed" the game of life (pardon the cheesiness). We all want to go off with everyone's blessing, but when it comes down to it, we've only got our own reflections to face every morning.

23. Posted by stephy (Full Member 51 posts) 11y

hey...
dont understand me wrong but it is great that u also have thoughts like that.
bout the parents: it is your life and usually they want the best for u, that u are happy. mine are not happy that they hardly see me, but after some time they have realised that i cant be happy living a life like theirs, and they have accepted it. ( It was really nice when they presented my the lonely planet on a shoestring for south am at chrismas as a symbol)
well, travelling is great for experience, thats why i do it. Might sound weird, but arcitecture comes and goes, after some time i guess cities become the same,but never the people and the situations you get confronted with. and u learn so much, also languages...
and hey, here is some thing for your curriculum , you see, and also cultural understanding...so at least something for the job.
BUt still, i feel like escaping from my real life, i cant decide what to work after my studies, also not what i really wanna study...
so i go , experience, wait the knowlwdge come, but i fear it isnt so easy, hm?
for my next trips i ll look for some job to connect with the trip, may be then i feel a little useful.
ANY IDAES? importing cheap things? naja...

and bout the boy or girl friend...
one of the reasons i quit with my boyfriend was becausé we didnt hare this passion, we never would have. Together travelling and hassle? alone and jealousy?
may be she can acomagny u for some time.
Is will may be tighten up but dont forget that people change in one year- and when u are haveing soo many experiences while traelling u do al ot.....But i dont want to be too negative, it is just difficult.
The same with friends. U came back, different, and reaslise they are not, all the same, no broader horizon....sad

well...i am going to leave everything behind in 2 years, after i have finished my uni, or a part of it. dont know what ill do after.
i thought bout travelling instead of 7 months 1year longer, but this was soo spontaeous and long, i was too scared.

ok, i assume this is VERY confusing....to read,
well i am ...u get more experience, but obviously u dont get cleverer ;)
no kidding

follow your heart, not because it is the best way, but because u ll always regret if u didnt , an du ll never know how it could have been.

24. Posted by cikusang (Respected Member 1361 posts) 11y

and bout the boy or girl friend...
one of the reasons i quit with my boyfriend was becausé we didnt hare this passion,

I read a quote saying this:" To get into a relationship is to develop your admiration on each other BUT to maintain a relationship is to have a same direction on incoming prospects"

Many people nowadays failed because of the latter :same direction on incoming prospects.

Not easy to make it works but it worths to a single try!

25. Posted by stephy (Full Member 51 posts) 11y

dont understand me wrong, it wasnt the main factor, one out of many...i just say it makes it a little more diffcult.
no, if everything else i fine, i wouldnt quit......
but i was 19 after more than 3 years...and i felt like needing more exerience...discovering myself, my live...too young for such a strong relation....and many problems like jealousy...

no it wasnt so easy, that he just didnt share my passion

26. Posted by cikusang (Respected Member 1361 posts) 11y

but i was 19 after more than 3 years...and i felt like needing more experience...discovering myself, my live...

AGREE!!!

27. Posted by stephy (Full Member 51 posts) 11y

:)--- and i never regretted it, since i was thinking a lot bout this step

i think this is also why we shoud do what we want- no regretts afterwards!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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