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relationships aaaaaaargh

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1. Posted by Reece Sanford (Travel Guru 1368 posts) 11y

and im not even in one.
i hate being piggy in the middle.
i get a text from one mate saying hes going to dump his girlfriend (shes my best mate) and that i cant tell her that hes going to just leave without speaking to her because shes been getting naughty photos from another man and she has'nt been telling him the truth.

so what would you do.would you keep quiet knowing that she will be distraught when he leaves because shes just been stupid and didnt tell him about her past so he doesnt get upset or do you tell her hoping they sit down and talk and work it out?

2. Posted by beerman (Respected Member 1631 posts) 11y

I subscribe to the Hannibal Lechter School of Relationship Counseling.
All problems in a relationship can be solved over dinner, with fava beans and a nice chianti.
Ideally, tell them both that you will not take sides. Tell them that they are both grown-ups and they COMMUNICATE their feelings to each other. Then, step out of the way so you aren't hit by some flying small kitchen appliance.

Mrs. Beerman here...

I still subscribe to the theory that you keep your bloody mouth shut. It is not your relationship even though they are both your friends. If by any chance in Hell they work this out, and you have told him unfavorable things about her, YOU, (YES YOU) will be the one with poo on his face. Best intentions are fine, but in this situation - those intentions will also put you out of favor with both parties.

3. Posted by FionaNZ (Respected Member 903 posts) 11y

Txt your mate & tell him not to be such a Merchant Banker
and that if he wants to end his relationship, have the balls to
tell her!

4. Posted by beerman (Respected Member 1631 posts) 11y

Wasn't Merchant Banker the Indian film-maker who just died?

5. Posted by Wocca (Inactive 3745 posts) 11y

There were some interesting comments in ... Should good friends share everything ? ... which could be relevant to this thread

6. Posted by Reece Sanford (Travel Guru 1368 posts) 11y

Quoting FionaNZ

Txt your mate & tell him not to be such a Merchant Banker
and that if he wants to end his relationship, have the balls to
tell her!

Totally agree with him telling her but if she had come clean in the first place it wouldnt of happened.

7. Posted by Reece Sanford (Travel Guru 1368 posts) 11y

Anyway i told her last night and she threw every bit of abuse at me possible and said im trying to split them up.Then i told them to stop messing about and talk to each other like adults and im glad im going away now to get away from them.
After more abuse at me i then get 2 apologies and thanks saying if it was'nt for me they wouldnt be together now and they have sat down and sorted things.
Praise the bloody lord.

8. Posted by areinstein (Travel Guru 2788 posts) 11y

I love happy endings .