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11. Posted by Lugor79 (Full Member 70 posts) 11y

Quoting roadtrip2

To anyone who's either visited or lives in the US, which place/state would you consider the friendliest and most hospitable to Asian visitors? I'm thinking about visiting but have heard some stories about racial discrimination and am wary. Any suggestions?

I'm Chinese and I live in the states. I have travelled throughout the US and Canada. What I have found is that people aren't that intolerant. What they have issues with is cultural shock. What I mean by this is you can not come here and expect it to be like where you are from. For example, I'm Chinese so I'll use that as an example. My roommate just came from China (he's a great guy...) but he has some annoying habits that are perfectly normal in China. He chews with his mouth open, he makes a lot of noise chewing and eating, speaks with his mouth full, he sometimes clears his throat/nose and spits it onto the sidewalk and he will negotiate anything- even prices at the Mall (which I've been told can be done....). I'm used to seeing habits like this in China, but here its not that acceptable. I guess what I'm trying to say is that first you have to respect them and they will respect you. Show interest in what they do and say. Contrary to what a few other people have posted, I have some of my best experiences in small town America. One of my best experiences was when my buddies and I were doing a bike trip. On the way up we stopped at a local deli bought some sandwiches and struck up a converstation with the owner. On the way back, we stopped by again and the guy gave us some free food (and converstation). You would never find this type of hospitality in a big city.

America likes tourists, it loves to travel and learn about the world, even hicktowns. Though I'll warn you, some of them will have odd misconceptions and they do stereotype (but don't we all?).

Personally I like Baltimore, it is Charm City after all. Come to the US, I'll garuantee that no matter where you go 90% of the people here will be as (un)friendly to you as they are to the next guy.

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14. Posted by Calcruzer (Moderator 1989 posts) 11y

Well, my reply is going to sound strange--but I would say that Utah (Salt Lake City) is the most hospitable. The reason I say this is that the Mormon culture (I'm not Mormon, by the way) encourages all of their members to visit lots of places all over the globe--usually as missionaries--and the Far East has been a key place they've been exploring a lot. I think this is related not only to their religion, but also to them wanting to increase trade all over the Pacific Basin.

Also, California has a massive Asian population in addition to their Latin American population, so the state is very culturally diverse.

But really, most states don't have a problem in this regard except in a few areas where a lot of jobs have been outsourced overseas (Michigan and Ohio come to mind here). In limited pockets only in these states, there are some people who see Indians, Asians, and even Mexican-Americans as the "enemy" who are taking away American jobs for cheaper wages, and putting people here out of work.

While many people here may be upset with the "outsourcing" issue, they mostly blame politicians or the companies involved, not the foreigners directly. And the law here in every state is very clear--discrimination of any sort is illegal.

P.S. I should also point out that Vancouver in western Canada is very Asian-friendly--and has a large Asian population.


15. Posted by mtlgal (Full Member 1179 posts) 11y

I'm Chinese and I've never experienced any overt racial discrimination in North America. If I go to a small town I do get stares, but nothing more than that. I'm sorry to say that I feel more discriminated against traveling in Asia than in North America (I get mistaken as "local" sometimes; some people in Asian countries treat "foreigners" a lot better than "locals"). The only instances that I ever felt discriminated against in North America are by some hardcore separatist French Canadians because I'm an Anglophone (i.e., English-speaking). You really shouldn't be wary of traveling to the US. While you're at it, you should make a trip up North to Canada; just remember to come in the summer if you don't want to freeze your butt off!

16. Posted by rbyslipahs (Respected Member 349 posts) 11y

What I have found is that people aren't that intolerant. What they have issues with is cultural shock.

Can't agree more, Lugor!!

And thanks for the nod to small towns!

I am from a small town in southwest Kansas, I now live in a city, and have traveled to both Europe and Asia, as well as most of the US. One thing that I have learned is that racism isn't a one-way street (and I really am not trying to offend anyone). I've been on the receiving end, although I'm pretty sure I've not been on the giving end (at least tried hard not to be). I have noticed, though, that it does tend to be more of an issue when someone makes it an issue. We used to have a big problem with racism at work, but mainly because the wrong people were reading too much into innocent actions. After being surrounded by it in many different forms, I've learned that racism doesn't die unless you let it--one big difference between my generation and a few generations before me.

Enough said on that. The US is one of the most diverse places on the planet, because we're all relatively new to the country when compared with the rest of the world. It's a wonderful mixture of anything you can think of! And small towns tend to be safe havens. You may get curious looks, but people are so much friendlier and more willing to help should you need something.

17. Posted by tovarich (Budding Member 12 posts) 11y

In my opinionnduring my travels in the USA I would say Seattle and S. Francisco. Vancouver (Canada) was the town we visited with the highest concentration of Asians. Paul

18. Posted by IronChef (Full Member 1076 posts) 11y

I think everyone is on the same page here. Larger cities are much more hospitable but they do have their seedy areas that you can stumble into. San Fran for example - Market Street is an incredibly popular street to shop and tour. But, if walking, you can go right into the Tenderloin which is pretty ghetto. The same thing with going through New York - you still have to have some street smarts.

And no offense intended here but the South and particularly alot of the good ole boys are still stuck in pre-Civil War. Stay north of the Mason-Dixon line and you should be fine.

19. Posted by moscowmetr (Full Member 267 posts) 11y

ah, im quite embarrassed and ashamed of being American, more than ususal, after japanese public speakers in DC speaking about surviving the Hiroshima/Nagasaki bombing, were harranged and harrased about Pearl Harbor by a crowd of American idiots!! (PH was NOT a US state at the time but a militay base)

Im afarid that Rascism, Ignorance, and Hatred are applied to all races in America , not just Asisans.

20. Posted by Blitz198 (Full Member 99 posts) 11y

Hawaii and California have a lot of Asians, so I'd say you'd fell most comfortable there (just a guess) but I'd say you can go anywhere. Its not like you'll get beat up or majorly harassed because your asian. (I hope , or else I'd be dead wrong) No offense ment, but people might call you a "chink" or something stupid like that.