Usually when dealing with a death or some sort of loss...people have to convince themselves that it happened for a reason. It is a coping mechanism. As are most things we feel. When dealing with feelings or emotions it is impossible to remain scientific as it is all subjective to the individual (how they were rasied and everything that has happened to them since birth shaped how they respond and react to most things) I should stop now...if I go off on a tangent about belief systems...I might step on some toes..and I like the people here too much to do that!
Some interesting thoughts!
Trying to pin-point our existance is an endless journey. Instead I would consider more important to live right "now". There is no past or future, no destiny fate or chaos. Only right now.
I think sometimes it is good to think about destiny and fate so it can stretch the imagination.It's like movies like "The Matrix" that really make you think about all the possibilities.
But I think Brendan you are right and that you have to live for the here and now.
I also think there is some truth to this [quote]
we create our own destines... mapped out by certain circumstances
Good point, and I think dreaming about the future and remembering the past are important things - as long as one doesn't live in the future or past. Dwelling on them through out their lives.
If anyone of you chance to learn Chinese, this is the first word you MUST learn:
There's no 100% explanation or direct-translation to take its whole meaning into other foreign languages; in English, some would say it is 'destiny' or 'fate' (it's still inapproapriate theorically nor practically).
If there's fate in this world, there could be a strongly 'yuan' or dimming 'yuan' between you and another person/object/incident/consequence/spiritual element.
For myself, when I 'see' the route to my dream, I would do whatever to achieve that. I am a determinant but is prepared to accept failure and changes and even unpredictable 'not-at-all'.
Am I believe in fate? (As MASSAGEUK's say, more questions to come; I agree on Brenden's say: work for the life now)