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21. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 11y

That's really interesting Susanna - I never realised that about Swedish people. Irish people are probably the total opposite - they are nosey and want to find out everything about your life, career, seed, breed &generation in the first 5 mins. (well, a lot of Irish ppl anyway )

You're so right really - what does it matter if someone else thinks you're dull! At least you made the effort!

It's not something I find easy to do myself - break into someone elses conversation, but I better start acquiring the skill if I'm to enjoy my travels

22. Posted by Q' (Travel Guru 1987 posts) 11y

Quoting snatterand

Being Swedish, I had a lot of problems with this when I started travelling. In Sweden, people usually don't interact. "I'll just mind my own business" is what everyone seems to think. Looking into another persons eyes (if you don't know that person of course) is absolutely forbidden, and for example in the subway, people don't smile and don't talk. Even in the rush hours, you should pretend that you're all alone!

Really? The reputation of Swedish people here in Canada is that you're all very outgoing, party people. Lots of fun to be with.

23. Posted by Clarabell (Travel Guru 1696 posts) 11y

wow...

Looks like almost everyone has this....If I can travel on my own anyone can, cos I'm really shy and awkward normally.

There's been horrible painful moments when I've had to go up to people and say "do you mind if I sit here?" or whatever but it's always worked out and ended up with good company. I could never ever do it at home!

Its much easier to get to know other people who are alone.

The worst thing is when people act like they feel sorry for you because you're on your own. I hate it. I'd rather be on my own than be treated like a charity case by the type of people that can't even go to the toilet without a friend.

24. Posted by snatterand (Travel Guru 454 posts) 11y

Quoting Q_Zhang

Really? The reputation of Swedish people here in Canada is that you're all very outgoing, party people. Lots of fun to be with.

I suppose that only happens after a couple of beers. ;) Swedish people drink a lot while travelling... Also, the Swedes that you have met are travelling Swedes (taken you haven't been to Sweden of course). That's a huge difference... (I really don't like generalizing like this, but on the other hand it is about my own country so it's slightly less unacceptable. I suppose.)

//Susanna

25. Posted by Q' (Travel Guru 1987 posts) 11y

Quoting snatterand

I suppose that only happens after a couple of beers. ;) Swedish people drink a lot while travelling... Also, the Swedes that you have met are travelling Swedes (taken you haven't been to Sweden of course). That's a huge difference... (I really don't like generalizing like this, but on the other hand it is about my own country so it's slightly less unacceptable. I suppose.)

One of my teachers/friend is Swedish. I also know a bunch of people who did a few years of work for SAS airlines over there. Most of what I know about Swedes comes from them. Sweden and Norway are on my list of places to definitely visit. Must finish my degree and become employed again before I can do that though.

I suppose you're right about the Swedes I know about are not your "everyday" Swedes. I wonder what the reputation of Canadians outside of Canada are? Or the reputation of Chinese people outside of China.

26. Posted by evakan (Full Member 188 posts) 11y

Quoting Q_Zhang

I wonder what the reputation of Canadians outside of Canada are? Or the reputation of Chinese people outside of China.

Or the reputation of Americans outside of America!!!!!

27. Posted by snatterand (Travel Guru 454 posts) 11y

Well, maybe I was being unfair when I was generalizing about Swedes being shy and restricted. Though, I still think being Swedish was what made me really shy and restricted...

Actually, I went out for a beer with a friend from uni in Auckland yesterday. He's German, and he's in Sweden to do a master's program. One interesting question he asked me about Sweden was: "when is it okay to greet people in the street in Sweden?" He had found it really hard to approach people because he didn't manage to make eye contact with anyone! He had tried to ask for directions and most people actually looked scared, or at least as if they thought he was crazy...

That was his opinion on Sweden, and he's German - I actually didn't think the difference would be that big.

Pretty sad actually.

//Susanna

28. Posted by anglosurma (Respected Member 106 posts) 11y

i thought i was the only one when going to a new hostel i to feel lonely n feel as if everyone knows each other and im never gunna meet anyone , i get thoughts in my head saying just go home you know everyone there , but i cope with it sometimes by just being content with my own company .

29. Posted by snatterand (Travel Guru 454 posts) 11y

I hope I haven't made everyone dislike Swedes now...! We're nice, just a bit shy!

//Susanna

30. Posted by Q' (Travel Guru 1987 posts) 11y

Quoting snatterand

I hope I haven't made everyone dislike Swedes now...! We're nice, just a bit shy!

//Susanna

Absolutely not. Why would you think that?!? I was just talking to a friend about how nice life is in Sweden.