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1. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 11y

I'm in a bit of a dilemma. Now that I've taken the step and set the date to leave, I'm wondering how soon I should let my boss know that I'm high-tailing it.

In a normal situation, I would probably give about 2 months notice - only problem is a member of the company is a relation, and if I start to tell my family and friends about my plans, its going to get out pretty quickly. So, I really should do my boss the courtesy of letting him hear it from me first.....shouldnt I?

The thing is I suspect that the minute he hears it, he's going to start picking on every little thing I do, and acting as if my work is slipping because I dont care now that I'm leaving...that would be his style...

My family are advising me to request a year's leave of absence from the job, so that I have something to come back to, plus it would seem as if I wasnt leaving the job because I hated it (i.e. that I wanted to come back).

Not sure what's the best course of action. Personally, I dont see myself coming back to this line of work, and the free spirit in me just wants to sail out the door come January and never look back. But if I'm smart, I'd cover my ass and not cut the ties completely....its a reasonably well-paid job and I'll find it hard to get something similar when I return...

if i return.....

Any advice anyone?


2. Posted by Pardus (Respected Member 2356 posts) 11y


request the years leave - it doesn't mean you HAVE to come back! You can still tell them you're not coming before you're due to start work again. And that way it looks as if you're still interested in the job...

3. Posted by Mikey B (Respected Member 181 posts) 11y

I guess the worst scenario is that your boss finds out from someone else. So if there is a strong likelihood of that happening it’s probably best to tell him.

What is it that you do exactly? I actually thought you were employed as a full time TP monitor

As long as you don't make any promises about coming back into the job after a year it makes sense not to burn your bridges. You can always agree to get in touch a few months before you're due to return to confirm whether you're keen to re-join the firm.

Also it's best to keep the boss sweet. You'll be relying on him for a reference at some point in the future.

What's the worst that could happen? He could take away your internet access! Think very carefully

4. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 11y

Lol! Wise words and well-spoken.

It's good to get the feedback to be honest. You're both right I think. (God, i really dont want to have to tell him. Ugh...dreading it.)

I'm a Technical Writer / Assistant Editor for an e-learning company. I'm being groomed at the moment to take on an Editor position, but its something that's much further down the line. I've done a lot of soul-searching in the past year about leaving the job, and I'll spare you the long-winded conclusion. Suffice to say that this might be the only opportunity I get to do this trip, so I have to not think too hard about what I'm giving it up for it.

Probably right about the not burning bridges bit.....

Thanks for the advice,

Confused Ev

5. Posted by hidi6514 (Budding Member 34 posts) 11y

I gave my boss 8 months notice! Only cause I couldnt keep my mouth shut in the office so had to tell her first!

She was fine about it said it gives them plenty of time to plan ahead and also what may occur when I get back.

Not saying you should but worked for me!!

6. Posted by steff (Travel Guru 1160 posts) 11y

Quoting samsara2

The thing is I suspect that the minute he hears it, he's going to start picking on every little thing I do, and acting as if my work is slipping because I dont care now that I'm leaving...that would be his style...

Ev, if he is such a nasty guy you can only be glad you don't have to work for him much longer and you never know you might get the job offer of your life while travelling.

I'd tell him as soon as possible so you can offically look forward to travelling ;)


7. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4138 posts) 11y

I'd sound him out about the year's leave in the near future. Just tell him that you're thinking about it for early next year, that nothing has been booked, that it is only an idea and that you are sounding him out.

If he agrees to it then that's fine. If he doesn't, then you've planted the seed in his brain and from there I'd give him the 2 months notice.

8. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 11y

Technical writer? Jeez, do you know how in-demand technical writers are? I'm betting you could get yourself a job in just about any English-speaking county in the world (and quite a few non-English speaking ones). Worse comes to worse, there always looking for them here!

I'd go with the 1-year sabbatical, too. Don't burn your bridges is great advice; you never know who's going to be working where when you least expect it. Plus a good word from an old colleague can make a big difference somewhere down the line. I'd play up the "I do like this job but I need a break and still want to come back" angle. It's still the truth. Well, mostly.

9. Posted by galka_mak (Full Member 169 posts) 11y

Surely you should tell him and ask for the year leave now. And I don't know working rules in Ireland but maybe your dilemma will be solved itself and he will find someone else to fill your place I'm kidding and understand you well... But how I want to be at your place now! You should be so happy by your present days so it's no time to worry about the future! After a year of such great experience maybe you won't even think about returning!
Anyway I think it's better to stay in good relations with all people who you know so you should be very soft and kind in you conversation now. Hope everything will be ok

10. Posted by Thinehost (Budding Member 6 posts) 11y

In your shoes, I'd put out feelers about a year's sabbatical first; then you've got the option of handing in your notice or coming back to work for the same company. .... An unlikely, but interesting thought, is that the company you work for could have a short-term contract wherever it is that you're travelling to