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Your bf/gf cheated you, will u give him/her another chance?

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1. Posted by Abbytaxis (Full Member 137 posts) 11y

Just want to hear your comments guys. Whether serious reply or not voice it out!

2. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 11y

Hoo boy... my personal feeling about these kinds of questions is that you never know what you'll do unless it happens to you. Right now I'd say uh-uh, no way, pack your bags and don't let the door hit you in the arse on your way out. But - who knows? I'm off to knock on wood now, by the way...

3. Posted by Cupcake (Travel Guru 8468 posts) 11y

Usually a bf/gf cheats because something is lacking in the relationship...(or they are just horn dogs;) ) I would try to figure out what the underlying problem is and work on that...IF the relationship is worth the effort. Then again, they could just be a chronic cheater....then I would say, get used to it, or get out.

Good god, I just reread what I wrote and realize it is of no use to anyone :( Just go with what your head/heart/guts tell you...

4. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 11y

Sorry, I know it's probably just me... But by cheated you - cheated, as in cheated you out of money, etc or cheated on you, as in slept with someone other than you??? In both instances, my answer is generally the same with a few adaptations depending on the type of cheating.

Either way, s/he would be gone. Done. Over. A non-girl/boyfriend.

If it is cheating your out of something, and depending on what that something was, they would be gone but not without replacing what has been taken. I can be tenacious in that respect. There are times I have found it better to forget about what I have lost just to be rid of the relationship. Other times, I have gone to great lengths for restitution. In both cases, the person involved was not trustworthy enough to continue living with or dating.

If they have cheated on me with someone else. Again - don't let the screen door hit you in the ass on your way out. Maybe some of it comes from age and experience - having tried to work things out with someone who had been unfaithful. No matter what the underlying problem was, they chose sleeping with someone else rather than addressing it all with me. If I was that important to be in a relationship with, then I should have been that important to discuss the problems with. Once more, the trust thing has been violated and no excuse is good enough to justify the action. There are far too many other available people in the world - so sticking with one that can't keep their clothes on - forget it.

5. Posted by mim (Travel Guru 1276 posts) 11y

Quoting CupCake

Usually a bf/gf cheats because something is lacking in the relationship...(or they are just horn dogs;) ) .

Sorry Ros I just dont' agree, I think it's a lack of self control, I hate it, cheating is so selfish. It happened to me and reading this I don't think there was anything lacking and if there was it should have been discussed, it's just you know, if you wanna be with someone else just bu**er off and do it, don't string ME along while you take the time to decide

no?!

6. Posted by mim (Travel Guru 1276 posts) 11y

and in answer to the question, it would depend....i was willing to give my ex a second chance, so yes but trust is so important it depends on how YOU feel right?

mx

7. Posted by AlexT (Respected Member 245 posts) 11y

I used to be pretty open-minded about this topic but having had the second chance bite me in the arse, I'd say if it happened again they would be gone... its much easier and alot less stressful to just move on in my opinion... I mean really, how hard is it to have elf control? But thats the beauty of humans, no matter what life throws at them, theyw ill keep finding new and improved ways to stuff up and put themselves through torture

God that sounded so pessimestic ;)

I'm really an optimist at heart

Cheers,
Alex

8. Posted by FionaNZ (Respected Member 903 posts) 11y

Quoting AlexT

I mean really, how hard is it to have elf control? But thats the beauty of humans

9. Posted by IronChef (Full Member 1076 posts) 11y

Cool me a hopeless romantic or somethin' but why do people think its alright to cheat? I think we just have way to many choices and it is too easy to just give up. I just learned a little bit about some of my astrology and found that I am a Taurus/Ox(Chinese) - and that I can be real cold real quick when it comes to affairs of the heart. Guess this would explain why when I was able to completely cut off my ex when she did this. There were other things going on but ....

I think almost anything get be worked out and that a real couple should try but if you're out and about messing around with someone else - thats where the line gets drawn. No second chances. If it happens once and you let him/her get away with it aren't you just leaving the door open for the future affairs

10. Posted by Cupcake (Travel Guru 8468 posts) 11y

I just think that each situation is different....there are so many variables! Follow your gut.....because what might be right for someone else...may not be right for you....