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"It's all about the anticipation" (some fatherly wisdom?)

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1. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 11y

I think my Dad is trying to depress the life out of me so I'll stay at home.

He's done a lot of travelling himself, both in his youth and with his career. He's now 50+vat and is taking the very luxurious position of maintaining that the best part of travelling is all in the anticipation of what its going to be like.

When I said "Oh come on Dad, you dont really mean that!", he said "No, its true. One city is the same as another at the end of the day - they are all just places"

He's wrong, isnt he?

2. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 11y

I'll swap you with what my Dad would probably tell me: "Be nice." That's his answer to everything!

But back to the topic at hand - he may be right in one way: you'll find people as receptive as you are, wherever you go. Who you meet is a reflection of who you are. So I predict you'll have a great time!

3. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 11y

Ev, your Dad is both right and wrong...

The anticipation can be more exciting than the trip itself, especially if you are a well-seasoned traveler like your father. It's rather like the been there - done that point of view, so he is passing on his wisdom to you. Because he does not want you to go, he will not tell you how exciting his early trips really were. It's a Dad thing - pure and simple.

And, he is somewhat correct in the one city is like any other city perspective. Large metropolitan cities are very much the same in some ways. But, each one is unique for what they have to offer also. New York, Chicago, London, Paris are all similar. But NY doesn't have the Eiffel Tower and London doesn't have the Shedd Aquarium.

The only way you are going to find out if he is right or wrong is to take your trip. That will tell you if you actually see things through his eyes or through your own. He just loves you and is trying to have you learn through his experiences. Every parent tries it and rarely does it work. Go! Have fun!

4. Posted by Cupcake (Travel Guru 8468 posts) 11y

I totally agree with Isa.....the anticipation is one of the best things about travelling! I love the planning, the day dreaming, the thrill of a new place/new sites/new people....But I also love the feeling of been there/done that! I do get a little of the 'day after Christmas' thing when I return...(Its over?!?!) But then you start planning the next one! :) Tina is also right on about it being a reflection of yourself....and I too believe you are going to have the time of your life!

5. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 11y

Yeah, I agree with you all. I'm not worried that I will find he's right - from my previous trips, the actual trips themselves have always surpassed the expectations, and I think Dad would class himself as a tourist (shorter, organized trips), so we would be coming from different standpoints anyway.

But, I was surprised that someone who had been around so much had this view - usually, experienced travellers say the opposite.
Maybe he's just world-weary

6. Posted by Cupcake (Travel Guru 8468 posts) 11y

Quoting samsara2

Maybe he's just world-weary

I have heard of those....I just didn't know they truly exsisted ;)
That does sort of depress me though...I hope that never happens to me...I think there will always be places I want to go, things I want to do, people I want to meet...at least...I hope so :)

7. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 11y

Quoting CupCake

Quoting samsara2

Maybe he's just world-weary

I have heard of those....I just didn't know they truly exsisted ;)
That does sort of depress me though...I hope that never happens to me...I think there will always be places I want to go, things I want to do, people I want to meet...at least...I hope so :)

I would think it would happen more often if you traveled to the same destinations time and time again. A close friend of ours works in video production. She is on the road more often than she is home. She loves the travel, but some cities (Paris and London for sure) have lost their luster for her. All summer her schedule has been home long enough to do her laundry and pack it back up again for the next flight. She is world-weary at the moment. She'll be home most of Sept. for the editing stuff. By the end of the month - she'll be "chomping on the bit" to hit the road again. (She's 48 and been doing this for 15 years.)

Sometimes, you just want to sleep in your own bed too.

8. Posted by Q' (Travel Guru 1987 posts) 11y

samsara2

You know that's a really good question! I'll let you know what I think after I've visited every city!

9. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 11y

That's overly-helpful of you Q! Thanks! I'll wait here so, will I?

10. Posted by SeeTheSky (Respected Member 558 posts) 11y

i dont know how that would be possible. maybe just becuase im absolutely struck with wanderlust. but to answer your question, id say hes wrong, totally. thats like saying "all people are the same" theres different cultures, personalities indivually, besides the physical difference between every place. so in short: the world will be a new and exiting place every single day so long as you see it as a new and exiting place.
it varies from person to person, just like everything else. his take might not be yours.
evan