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1. Posted by cikusang (Respected Member, 1361 posts) 24 Aug '05 20:27

I am struggling all over when to achieve my dreams or I'll become a dead fish after all... am thinking to sell off my house and car and let the insurance lapse... still have education loan to settle... and the biggest obstable is : my parents. My brother and I are coming to a consensus that the right time will tell us when to start this thing

Everytime I would think this: Or I'll earn more and save more and wait till my parents have pass away and leave everything behind me after that and start my RTW OR straight away off all things here and just pack and leave away....

Help!

Confusing Lee

2. Posted by FionaNZ (Respected Member, 903 posts) 24 Aug '05 22:42

Lee,

Metallica say it well "Carpe Diem Baby"

I realise that parents put a lot of time, effort & money into their children but it does not mean that we are indebted to them for life. At some stages I think my parents have thought she's never coming home, but on the other hand they are proud of what I have accomplished, my independence (well sometimes), my adventurous nature, my ability to change, adapt, bounce back.... all things they had a huge hand in teaching me!

Life's too short to wait, GO FOR IT

3. Posted by IronChef (Full Member, 1075 posts) 24 Aug '05 23:04

Quite a thought. I've dreamed of going to Europe to work and train in some incredible restaurant - like 3 Michelin star - just to see another part of the world. Just to experience life outside of the USA. I've travelled and lived over most of the country now but still haven't taken that next step to go overseas. I feel like my recent move to California from Virginia might be a step towards this. Although, I am pretty happy here right now. I am sure in a while my wanderlust while stirke up again and I will have to think of the same thing. I really don't have any good advice for you. Except that you have to be happy. If this is something that you want to do and dream of doing - then go for it. Our minds are our own worst enemies and can really hold us back. It is so easy to create fears and worries. You will never know until you try. And don't forget you have a whole bunch of friends here at TP that will support your trip. Even hope for some great pictures and weblogs.

Best of luck and keep us updated on the plan.:)

4. Posted by summer910 (Respected Member, 1342 posts) 25 Aug '05 01:32

Like the others said, go for it. You don't want to wait and wait and then start regretting you never achieved what you've always dreamed of doing. Sometimes we're our own worst enemies, with the way we procrastinate (I know I am, but I'm trying to make a real effort to get things started). So yeah, if you think you've more or less covered the bases, go for it. I'm sure your parents and friends will support you.

5. Posted by snatterand (Travel Guru, 454 posts) 25 Aug '05 03:16

Hi Lee!

I agree with everyone else here: go for it. You seem to be really keen on exploring the world, and the worst thing you could do is just wait for it to happen! Couldn't you just explain to your parents that "this is what I want to do in order to be happy"? Usually, parents are a lot more understanding than their children think they are. Have you tried telling them that you want to leave?

//Susanna

6. Posted by salsachick (Inactive, 77 posts) 25 Aug '05 03:42

Hi Lee, it's Joanne. I went to Australia on my own when I was 19 for a year and I am so glad I did it. I have 2 young children now, so travel isn't as easy, but I have been to Italy twice in the past year and hope to return in the next 6 months to carry on practicing my italian.
I'm lucky as my parents are helpful. I know they weren't keen for me to travel to Australia at a young age,but they didn't make a fuss.But it was something I really had to do.
I think you sound like you are really keen to travel, and to find peace in your soul you will have to do it. Some people are travellers and need to go and explore.I hope you are able to find a way to do this as it is your dream.:)

If you have a good travel plan perhaps this might put you parents minds at ease about you travelling.It will make you look responsible (and parents like responsible kids!!!!!!!;))

7. Posted by areinstein (Travel Guru, 2787 posts) 25 Aug '05 08:07

Lee, I have no regrets in my life because it has turned out well but if there is one thing I could change is that I would have traveled around the world a bit more before I settled down and acquired so many financial responsibilities that tied me down. I have no children yet and I've been married for over 10 years, main reason...I want to get most of my travel out of the way before I really cant do it any longer...or at least for awhile.

The right time to leave is when you have NO responsibilities tying you down and the longer you wait, the faster they will end up in your front door. For me, it sort of happened overnight, before I knew it, I was married with a mortage, car payments and college always as a priority. I just couldnt pick up and leave. MORAL TO THE STORY: LEAVE NOW BEFORE IS TOO LATE. The life you have right now will be waiting for you when you get back and like me, who knows...maybe there is a better life waiting for you in another part of the world. Good luck Lee!

8. Posted by Q' (Moderator, 1987 posts) 25 Aug '05 12:19

The thing to do is to sit down and plan. What are your long term goals? Do you want kids, family, etc.? Do you want a steady career? Academic, financial or professional goals? How long and how much effort will it take to achieve those goals? The reason you should consider these things is that any one of those things could put an end to your RTW plans. But visa versa as well. Since RTW trips have their own requirements.

It's not all that difficult. You have approximately 40-50 years left in your life inwhich to do everything you want to do (Beyond that we're all going to be dead). Divide it up. Factor in time to build the skills/funds/etc. necessary to comfortably achieve your goals. Factor in your health and energy as time progresses as well. You must be brutally realistic. Are you really going to work on a PhD (as an example of a goal) at age 60?!? Is RTW something you can do at age 40??

I know, it all sounds emotionless. But I know when I get lost over something, some cold logic usually gets me back on track. The most interesting thing is that you'll find you have less time to do things than you think. Which tells you the sooner you do them the better. Hope that helps.

9. Posted by IainOB1 (Budding Member, 30 posts) 25 Aug '05 12:25

Everybody I talk to, about the fact that i am going to pack my job in sell my car and head off travelling with no plans of heading back, all have the same reply, that they wish they had done it when they were younger. They always say how it's too late for them. I really didn't want to be in that position later in life feeling that i had missed something that i knew would be one of the best experiences of my life. I thought to myself whats keeping me here, what interests me here and what will i be doing in say five years time. All the answers were all nothing or the same as usual.
So my advice is go while you have drive, ambition, an interest to learn and a thirst to experience other things, people and places.
This is out time

Happy travels

10. Posted by IainOB1 (Budding Member, 30 posts) 25 Aug '05 12:27

This is OUR time

i should have said

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