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11. Posted by john7buck (Respected Member 458 posts) 11y

Along those same lines, I used to wait tables in New Zealand and one of my favourite things that has stuck in my head came while waiting on an older American couple. They were complimenting me on the choice I had made to travel at the age of 26.

Something to the affect "We now have all the money in the world but no time. You may have little money, but you have all the time in the world".

Not sure if that makes sense (it sounded better when he said it), but the moral is that life is short. If you don't do it now, you may never have the chance again. Hope that doesn't sound too much like a shoe commercial!

12. Posted by TravelMc (Respected Member 93 posts) 11y

Lee,
Why do you have to give up everything? If you are planning on never coming back then it makes sense but if you intend to come home then why not rent out your home while you are gone? Sure - sell the car and the extras you can replace any old time that cost if you're not using them but it doesn't have to be all about starting over. I left a house load of furniture and gear spread around my family and I know that I have something to come back to (when I eventually come back!)
I think you should speak with your parents. They will miss you and they will want you to come home but they will also support you and enjoy hearing all your travel stories and getting postcards and souvenirs in the mail! With email and webcam you can contact them easily any time. And you can always jump on a plane and go visit!
The reason so many of us have apparently found it so easy to just go is that we haven't cut ourselves off and we don't intend never seeing our family and friends again. We go home when we can, we call and email all the time and we write - even if it is just 'love you miss you wish you were here' on a post card! And if youre lucky your parents will see your travelling as a great excuse to come and visit you and do a little travelling of their own. Mine did and almost all of my friends have had visits from their folks too.
Talk to them and let them know your plans and how often you will call and that you maybe want to come home for new years or their wedding anniversary or just for a visit in your first year or so away! But most of all get out there and do it.

Its only travelling - its not like your leaving the planet!

TravelMc

13. Posted by cikusang (Respected Member 1361 posts) 11y

Thanks to all of you! Tho this question has sweeping around my mind since secondary schooling life (should be around 17-18 years old) and it's a great for my heart to suffer every single night.

Actually I have an old house, which is left from my grandpa and we are living on it without paying the tax for years as it's belonged to the government NOT US. and another problem trigger me is since my mum doesn't want to stay with dad (their relationship is totally bad) anymore and she was so happy to know that I and my younger brother had bought a house since 2004, that she might be leaving her dreadful marriage. I had a thorougly talk with mum this morning and she said she didn't mean to stop us (both I and my brother) to look for our dream but she expected us to have a house (no matter what size it is or even to rent) for her, just staying away from my dad that is all her hope. (and besides she is suffering the blood disorder this year)

Now I and my brother have a clearer mind: get a cheap and small house fitted only for her (even a used-house which she doesn't care much) and then we will fly off. That's all.

So now, I've set my mind in getting this done as fast as possible. Days after I am going to be 27 and the time is very limit and the dreadful part would be the determination and courage to be sustained. Now thing is clearer.

Will update this from time to time.

Thanks again.
Lee

14. Posted by bob flinn (Full Member 173 posts) 11y

Hi there Lee,
The time is now...
a few things to consider.............don't sell your house.......you can rent it out and the income from that will go into your bank and be a back-up if you find funds running short;or towards paying off the student loan.
Your future life with the career, possibilities of marriage and a famliy are all things that are way ahead of you. Many of these things may even be better and richer by the RTW experience you gather meeting new people and understanding other culture.
Plan to pay your way wherever you can,earning when you can; live in hostels, eat sensibly in good lower cost places that will provide nutritious meals.
Do it now,talk to me on my home e-mail we can carry on from where we left off in your last planned RTW trip...and we can take things forward from there.

15. Posted by Abbytaxis (Full Member 137 posts) 11y

Quoting cikusang

I am struggling all over when to achieve my dreams or I'll become a dead fish after all... am thinking to sell off my house and car and let the insurance lapse... still have education loan to settle... and the biggest obstable is : my parents. My brother and I are coming to a consensus that the right time will tell us when to start this thing

Everytime I would think this: Or I'll earn more and save more and wait till my parents have pass away and leave everything behind me after that and start my RTW OR straight away off all things here and just pack and leave away....

Help!

Confusing Lee

Our dreams are there to help us keep our vision and purpose. It sometimes take time to reach all of those things. You're still young and your life's not bad after all. Do not just run yet to whatever situation you are in right now. Settle some things first then go. Think of investment that will help you establish yourself and your mom while you're abroad. Use all your resources (and you're not bereft of that)that you can think of. You have a house, you can rent it out. Re:your insurance, don't let it lapse just like that. YOu already put investment in it, don't waste it. You can still continue that while you're out somewhere.

I hope you will have a very meaningful and wonderful RTW. Looking forward to one of the most exciting event to happen in your life. Stay in touch!

16. Posted by Abbytaxis (Full Member 137 posts) 11y

Quoting bob flinn

Hi there Lee,
The time is now...
a few things to consider.............don't sell your house.......you can rent it out and the income from that will go into your bank and be a back-up if you find funds running short;or towards paying off the student loan.
Your future life with the career, possibilities of marriage and a famliy are all things that are way ahead of you. Many of these things may even be better and richer by the RTW experience you gather meeting new people and understanding other culture.
Plan to pay your way wherever you can,earning when you can; live in hostels, eat sensibly in good lower cost places that will provide nutritious meals.
Do it now,talk to me on my home e-mail we can carry on from where we left off in your last planned RTW trip...and we can take things forward from there.

Awww!!! You are a wise man! Kudos!

17. Posted by meekychunky (Full Member 80 posts) 11y

Do it now!!!!

Life is far too short to wait until tomorrow. I am giving up my home, my furniture, my car, my job and my boring, routine lifestyle to do something ive been wanting to do forever. Im going with a view of never coming back, finding somewhere i love sooooooo much that i will want to stay.

I am leaving behind my to grown sons who fully support me and also hope that i find somewhere where they can also move to. There is alot to see out there and very few people go off to do it. Live for today!!!!!

Good luck
Monkee

18. Posted by steff (Travel Guru 1160 posts) 11y

Lee,
I'm not exactly going travelling, but I'm leaving Germany behind me for the next 19 months at least. When I first got the chance offered to go away I first wasn't sure about whether to do it or not. Then, I realized quickly if I don't do it now I do it never.
I'm still a bit scared about what's lying ahead of me in Madrid and Melbourne, but I also know I'm going to miss out on a new lifetime experience if I stay at home. How could I, way to curious for that ;).
Best of luck with the house and your future decicions.

Steff

19. Posted by cikusang (Respected Member 1361 posts) 11y

Thanks a lot!

I guess will give myself to see hwo things are done till this coming October and decide what to do next. The house is not worth for rental as it's not up to the market's demand and I would rather to allocate the money in student loan than insurance... guess my brother will stay here and we will look for a smaller house for mum...meaning I'll have to stay and work to settle the whole home loan before I leave.(of course we have come to a budget that we are afford to)

Life is cruel but that's part of it. I never have a thought to have my own family in future so that's a strong point and advantage for me to leave as if I will do it one day. (like my friends' say, I am running away from commitment..hehehe)

I do not want to become a very well plan fellow with every single day is fulled of digitals and numbers...

waiting and waiting...and mum showed her first sign of approval yesterday after we talked for another long time...still will let her understand how do I feel about life...

The sun is getting brighter.
Lee

20. Posted by kellyb78 (Budding Member 58 posts) 11y

I sympathise with your situation totally, although my parents would always support any decision I make regarding travelling I know they would not want me to go! But my parents have stated that I am old enough to make my own decisions and its my life now so I have to start living it the way I want to! Plus they always know that i'll come back at some point wether it be for a holiday or for good! I think I have made my decision to throw caution into the wind and go as if I keep thinking about it I'll just find more excuss to change my mind (if that makes sense!) Go for it!
If you ever need any help or a chat you can always message me!

Kelly

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