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21. Posted by maybe (Full Member 7 posts) 11y

Go for it of course! I've always thought about waiting, but what if more commitments ruin your chance of ever dropping everything to go travelling?

You could always start small. I told my mum (whom I'm really close to) that I was going to go to London and around Europe to pursue my dreams. She was a little upset at first..but I convinced her in the end. It First it was a 2-month holiday, and then I'm now back in London for the full 2 years I'm allowed for my work visa. It was all a little risky of course..I didn't have enough in my bank. I took up a loan (which is easier to pay off anyway when I get my salary back in pounds), made sure I have enough in my bank back home so I can pay off my insurance premiums still, quit my job and here I am in London. Happy that I finally made that leap. And now I'm just keeping my fingers crossed that I can get a work permit to continue staying here after my visa runs out. And am looking at the possibility of flying my mum over (for a short holiday at least).

And even if things don't work out, (with job or with life or whatever), at least I could look back one day and know I did something not many people (people I know at least) do..and it was a good run still having lived a different life. So yeah, stop waiting. You just need some good planning.

Cheers!

22. Posted by csfreixo (Full Member 83 posts) 11y

About all opinions posted here are the same!! I'm gonna play the role of the black sheep: don't go! Think about the live you have been constructed!
Did I persuade anybody? I dont think so..
The only thing that do never come back is the time!!! This is the path to enlightment: face the time!

cheers!

23. Posted by cikusang (Respected Member 1361 posts) 11y

About all opinions posted here are the same!! I'm gonna play the role of the black sheep: don't go! Think about the live you have been constructed!
Did I persuade anybody? I dont think so..
The only thing that do never come back is the time!!! This is the path to enlightment: face the time!

cheers!

Cassiano... Give me some moral supports!!!

Looking for your stamps...

Regards,
Lee

24. Posted by vampyren (Budding Member 39 posts) 11y

You already know the answer and are looking for confirmation or encouragement. I know what I've done in the past regarding dropping everything and going. If it felt right deep, and I mean deep, down in the gut, I did it. But no-one else can tell you if now is the right time. Be brave and listen to your own intuition.

If it helps, a student of mine once quoted someone somewhere as part of an English lesson : "Success is never permenant. Failure seldom fatal. Its trying that counts".

I don't know if that is actually relevent to your dilemma. But anyway, I wish you well!

25. Posted by jwoodson (Full Member 10 posts) 11y

I feel that if you wait for the right time you will never go. I sold my house, quit my great job,threw on a pack, and flew into Russia... after a quick stop in Finland I am in Estonia and making my way through Eastern Europe. Last year I left everything and went to Central America. I have no regrets and hope to continue seeing the world! Dont wait... just go.

26. Posted by silvercann (Budding Member 38 posts) 11y

When i was 16, my mom's best friend died. I still remember her saying, "we had all these plans to travel when the kids were grown and we had more money". i took it to heart and hopped on a plane to Europe with $126 to my name! It worked out fabulously, and two years later I finally went home - my parents have zero money and seven kids so not a dime was from a family handout. I had been to nearly 20 countries and tons of memories. I wouldn't change it for the world, even knowing that my friends have kids ready to graduate from high school and i don't have kids yet. the thing is, the longer you wait, the more it will cost you. as i get older, i'm less likely to be content with a $10 room in Hong Kong that is clean but small, or taking the local bus in Nepal filled with kids that don't wear diapers, or walking two miles in the 100 degree heat in central asia. Then it was fabulous, now i'm getting too old to be as adventurous, plus now i have to worry about things like health insurance lapsing. when you are in your 20's and early 30's, you don't care. go now! the rest of life will wait for you and you'll catch up to your friends in terms of material stuff -- look at it like this. they may have their pleasant valley sunday life set at 30, kids, house, job, nice car, etc., but that's it now until they are in their 80s because they are stuck with the house, cars, kids, etc. if you travel now, you can always get back to life and accumulating stuff

27. Posted by meekychunky (Full Member 80 posts) 11y

I couldnt have put it better myself dgerards!!! Those words are soooooo true. Fortunately i am still young and my boys are now grown up. I have moved out of my house and sold almost everything i owned.

At my young age ive been fortunate enough to have done everything mentioned above, ive had the nice house, car, career, kids and family life ... and i got bored, there isn't much that i havent done apart from travel. Yes, ive visited many places on holiday but i wanted something different, so decided to travel.

I totally agree with dgerards, do it now whilst you're young you life will wait and once you do settle down with the house, job, family it will be the same for the next 20-30 years!!

Monkee

28. Posted by redrabbit (Budding Member 19 posts) 11y

Quoting cikusang

I am struggling all over when to achieve my dreams or I'll become a dead fish after all... am thinking to sell off my house and car and let the insurance lapse... still have education loan to settle... and the biggest obstable is : my parents. My brother and I are coming to a consensus that the right time will tell us when to start this thing

Everytime I would think this: Or I'll earn more and save more and wait till my parents have pass away and leave everything behind me after that and start my RTW OR straight away off all things here and just pack and leave away....

Help!

Confusing Lee

Hello, I've been in your position before. I read a philosical (sp?) artical about Regrets, and the article said that he asked some older people to write a report on what they would do differently if they had to start their life over again.

The general comments were:
- I would spend more time outside
- I would spend less time worrying about money and more time enjoying life
- I would follow my instincts more

The conclusion was: Don't regret the things you've done, regret the things you haven't done. It said that you could be killed the next day, so you should enjoy life whilst you can and follow your heart - not your bank account!

29. Posted by zags (Respected Member 370 posts) 11y

Hey Lee,
Perhaps it's a common problem amongst us Asians?

Just a few months ago my husband got a job offer in UK. After many considerations & discussions we decided that he take the offer. The company was working on his work permit, when his father got a stroke.

It's even hard to decide which hospital to take his father to, because they live far from the city. (That's our main concern.)

Considering his parents' health, their being totally dependent on my husband, especially because they are alone & without any other family living near around the city, we had to cancel our plan. Can't just "dump" our parents.

In our case, it would be easier if the job offer was from a nearby country and his parents would move to the city near my family, but his father won't cuz likes living in the small town.

So I think you just have to find the right way to compromise so that you get what you want without "really" leaving your parents.

30. Posted by cikusang (Respected Member 1361 posts) 11y

Hey Lee,
Perhaps it's a common problem amongst us Asians?

Yes, thats what in my mind!

In our case, it would be easier if the job offer was from a nearby country and his parents would move to the city near my family, but his father won't cuz likes living in the small town.

Yea...say if your husband will be working in Malaysia or Singapore or Brunei, then decision will be entirely different.

I just can't bypass the first obstacle of Alchemist - the parents.

I and my family, after weeks of arguing and warring, we had came to a conclusion: get mum a small and affordable house (of course I'll work very hard these few years to get the thing(house) paid off). Then, I will sell off my car and other unnecessaries and leave. (never cross over my mind to get married and have a family so I have nothing to lose)

That's it. There's no more objection from them.

A friend, under UK Working holiday maker called me last early morning saying she has been to France, Holland and Italy and will later target on Scotland and Ireland.

Started to count number 12 till 2 on the clock and hardly to get asleep...imagine that feeling...been years to struggle...and am 27 now..just had my birthday celebrated but really no mood coz my dream hasn't come yet...

so will stick to you guys here to sustain my flame on RTW...

Thanks to all the postings...appreciate that.

The list would go on:
1. Fiona (FionaNZ)- your words are killing!Haha

2. Lance (IronChef) - and your new pet too, hehe!

3. Jun Lei (summer910) - short, sharp, sweet!

4. Susanna (snatterand) - I like this quote:"You seem to be really keen on exploring the world, and the worst thing you could do is just wait for it to happen! "

5. Joanne (salsachick) - you are amazingly a good child!

6. Anne (areinstein) - know you will always read my thread, thanks

7. Quan Zhang(Q_Zhang) - our TP's newest debator,hehe!

8. Lain (IainOB1) - "This is out (our) time." Love that.

9. John (john7buck) - your words reminds me of the my favourite french movie "Amelie", interesting!

10.Cara (TravelMc) - your first sentence is very catchy...you sound like my mum! (some parts)Thanks!

11.Robert(bob flinn) - thanks for your continuous support and your friendship!

12.Abby (Abbytaxis) - "...You're still young and your life's not bad after all...." That's a strong reason for me to die later...

13.Shakila(monkee) - Sound very determinant! Don't worry! As long As i am still alive, my life won't be as dull as letting it become a routine and a dead fish!

14.Stefanie (steffbo) - “Then, I realized quickly if I don't do it now I do it never.” Steff, I did study apart from my family for 3 years in Borneo. (altho it's still not to be considered as studying abroad but I missed those moments very very much! Everything seems so 'live' when you live on your own way)

15.Kelly (kellyb78) - "If you ever need any help or a chat you can always message me!" - you sound like one of my closest friend in the real world!

16.Maylean (maybe) - a sweet name and sweet expressions. Good planning? Yeah, perhaps...

17.Cassiano (csfreixo) - thanks for the 'opposite'! You are the proponent of Albert Einstein!!!

18.Jon (vampyren) - "You already know the answer and are looking for confirmation or encouragement." You sound like another good friend of mine...and sort of vegetarianism...just a wild wild guess

19.Jill (jwoodson) - what if my mum died as she has severe blood disorder now? I am the only son who can really chat with her for hours about our past stories and many things whereas the rest brothers are rather busy rushing for money and their own family? Life is tough but i take it as a challenge...don't worry...thanks

20.Debora (dgerads) - inspiring text!!! Can imagine that.

21.Gary (redrabbit) - I explained that to my beloved mum many many times before and I am still doing it now...hehe...

22.Zindy (zags) - your word is the closest to mine. Miracle! If one day I leave, that will be physically 'leaving' but not in my heart...always people will judge their happiness according to things that are visible...will that be another thoughtful mind like Fatima in the Book"Alchemist"??? Haha..too demanding...

AND NOT THE LEAST, THANKS TO OUR ADMIN AND MODERATORS FOR PUTTING THIS THREAD ON THE FRONT PAGE. I KNOW THERE'S OTHER VIEWERS WHO DOESN'T POST BUT DO CONCERN, THANKS AGAIN.

I believe, there's always hope in every corner.

So do you.

Speechless now,
Lee

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