I'm getting it a both ends. One side (mainly consisting of mum etc) is saying that going travelling is a waste of money and you should be saving for house, car etc. Fair Enough. The other side (consisting of friends) say go for it as you only live once etc. I'm 22, renting a flat and in temping (because i don't want permanent work because i want to go away next year and i get comfy very easily!)
It's like agghhh!!! Nowadays everything is so expensive. Mainly houses etc I mean if i go to travelling I will have to start again and stay with my mum and find somewhere to rent, job etc On the other hand going awaay is a once in a life time experience. I'm saving at the moment to go away next year and i look at my savings and think could I be spending this on saving for a deposit on a house. Nowadays attitudes are so different to things it's just what are other views about this??
I'm def going travelling next year if i save enough money as i know i will regret it but still a niggling thought about having to "start again" mmmm
Andrea, maybe you can take some of the views in my thread:
Andrea - there comes a time in your own life where you need to make the decisions that are right for only you. Parents are going to give you the advice they think is best for you... But, it is just that - advice. As the saying goes - it's worth what you paid for it. No, I'm not saying that your family is wrong - but only you can decide what you are willing to deal with before, during and after your decision.
Honestly, do an advanced search and you will find cikusang's and other threads dealing with the same issues. I can probably find 5 (or more) without doing a search. You have to ask yourself what you want to do and then do it. But, regret is something that is very hard to live down and the experiences of traveling are things that will not only stay with you, but act as an education in life as well.
Listen to what people, including parents, say - roll it all around in your head - then make up your own mind about what you want to do. The world has never suffered from too many "rebels".
You have years and years to get weighed down with mortgages etc
Get the travel bug out of your system while you are still young, free and healthy!
I'm in the same boat. Almost wto years ago I made a conscious decision to start saving for a house. Worked for a bit but I like to travel too much so I am experimenting a bit now. I tray to save even more so that I can afford to travel a bit. The more I save the further a house seems away though. I pretty much have the deposit saved but nobody would ever give me a big enough mortgage to buy a house anyway on my income. This just makes taking off for a year or two even more tempting. I think I will probably take off for an extended trip in 2 yrs when I finally finish uni (again). Until then, I will just have to settle for short trips every now and then.
My advice is to take off travelling if you have nothing holding you back aside from saving for the future. It really won't set you back that much in the whole saving for the future thing...
I was in the same situation. I am in a relationship and it was a toss up between staying with my man, settling down - getting into more debt and not going travelling and going overseas (the one thing I always knew I was going to do). I have decided that I am going to go overseas - but it was a hard decision there for a little while. If I stayed - the future of my relationship (with the love of my life) is certain, but I would always think 'what if....' of the travelling side. Now that I am going I understand that the future of our relaionship isn't rock solid, but like everyone says 'you're only young once' and travelling is something I have always known I was going to do. I don't want to be saying 10-20 years down the track - 'I was going to....' and 'What if I...?'. As for starting again with the financials - thats the way of life. No matter what decisions you make in life - you will have to start again. Nothing ever goes to plan.
Good luck with your decisions. But like everyone says - 'You only live once.'
Your Mums not wrong but;
Tell her that the world has gone security MAD and people are now being forced to eke out freedom rather than the other way around.
It might baffle her into submission.
"You buy furniture. You tell yourself, this is the last sofa I will ever need in my life. Buy the sofa, then for a couple years you're satisfied that no matter what goes wrong, at least you've got your sofa issue handled. Then the right set of dishes. Then the perfect bed. The drapes. The rug. Then you're trapped in your lovely nest, and the things you used to own, now they own you." - Fight Club
You're only 22, hit the road, worry about furniture later! Trust me on this one.
My situation is very similar to yours, I decided last year that I was going to travel, however, mine is slightly different as I have my own home, a well paid job and my own car ect. My family think that I'm mad as I will have to leave my job (and it will hard to get back when I return) sell my car and rent my house out. Basically I will be giving everything up to travel and when I return I will also have to shack up with my parents until the tennants leave the house! It was a hard decision to make but basically I knew that I would regret it if I never went and as soon as my family knew how much it meant to me and how serious I was they were all totally on my side and accepted my decision! I will stay at work for the next 6 months or so to save some more money and then after that the world is my oyster and I'm going to start living my life before its too late! I hope that this is of some help, if you need anymore help or thoughts don't hesitate to get in touch!