I am 19 years old and I am planning to moving to Rome in April.
Everyone keeps telling me I'm too young and although I try to ignore it, it makes me wonder as well. I'm trying to be confident and believe in myself but when it comes to family and friends..... i can't fight them.
if any one can give me any advise i would trully appreciate it.
the saying goes....." the best time to go is when you are young!"
I am 23 and i have travelled quite extensively in the past years...including a few trips on my own and i can honestly say you end up meeting so many people and you are never on your own!
i think that it really depends what you are planning to do in rome too? Study? Work? When i was there because i didnt know anyone i study the language for 2 weeks - i met so many people that in the end i had a community of friends and found living there to be THE BEST thing i have ever done.... infact i am heading back there in June.
My advice is that i dont think that you are too young... with regards to the family... i almost know the feeling too well - i come from a very tight european family - where my business is everyones business... i think their somewhat disagreeing opinion re your plans stems from the fact that they care about you.. i would say GO FOR IT - explain to them why you are going and ask for there support! its YOUR life and YOUR experience......
book your ticket and GO - i promise you wont look back!
GO FOR IT!!! No doubt about that, 19 isn't that young at all. I personally wish I'd done something like that at 19, guess I was too scared. I'm 44 today, you could be my daughter, and I'd encourage it, if you really want to. Wanting to yourself is the main thing, and Rome isn't that far from Malaga, so again: DO IT. Enjoy it and as Alana said to you, you'll meet loads of people, create a network and it'll be something to remember for the rest of your life.
Just to add my own experience to the chorus. . . I went to Germany to study and travel when I was 18. My travel companion was a friend who was only 17. You will meet tons of people your age in hostels travelling in Italy and other European countries. My parents, thankfully, encouraged me to go and even helped me out. It ended up becoming one of the best years of my life and I don't regret it one bit! I absolutely loved Germany and I got to experience the culture by staying with German families some of the time and travelling around southern Germany. Likewise, you will have a unique experience of Italian culture and I am sure you will fall in love with it. Explain to your family that you think you are mature enough and that you are ready to see another part of the world. Give them your personal reasons for wanting to go. Age has nothing to do with maturity. You can sit on your bed for a year and you will grow a year older but not a second wiser! If you are mature enough to handle being on your own, and at 19 you should be, though everyone matures at different rates, then you should be able to handle going to Italy. Do your research before you go. Read about Italy in encyclopedias, the internet, travel guides, etc. Read fiction/see movies that take place there (besides The Godfather series!). Prepare for culture shock (seriously). Learn about travel in general. Tell your family/friends you are doing this and chances are they will come to see that you really are serious about doing this and they will grow to support you. Remind them that you will do your best to write home and call as often as you can. In Europe there are internet cafes everywhere so a web-based email account like yahoo or hotmail is easily accessible. Some of them even have MSN Messenger. "If you risk nothing, you have nothing," as the saying goes . . .
Good luck! Post in these forums if you have any questions!
You ask a bunch of tiger hunter, whether you should go and shoot a tiger, 9 out of 10 will say "yes". You ask the same question to monk, he will say "no" unless for self defense. You come to travel forum ask if you should travel, most of us will say "yes", while your parents will say "no".
To answer your question, I will kinda hesitate to say "yes". It depends on numerous things. First of all, at the age of 19, you still have much to see and learn in front of you. To move from wherever you're (I assume you might be in North America, OZ or NZ.) to Italy, is a tremendous step to take. It's not like taking a bus trip to another state. There are many considerations you must take into: 1) Do I have enough money? 2) If not, will I be able to find a job to make a living, with the skill I now possess? 3) Do I know anyone in Italy, who can assist me, if I ran into trouble? 4) What I am going to do, once I get off the plane. Do I go and rent a hotel room or should I rent an apartment ahead of time? 5) Do I have enough traveling experience to help me overcome barriers, especially language? Your parents or relatives might be uncomfortable with you going,because they don't know if you have solution to those situations. It's easy for us to say "yes" to you; because many of us have experience traveling, and we are not related. But, if my son (17) got to be your age, asked me the same question as you're asking us right now, I would sit down with him and tell him to find solutions to those 5 things I listed (and more) before I will agree to let him go. I suggest you travel to Italy, and stay for a short time, checking the place out, looking for possibility for long term living, make preparation, then come back to your home. If you still want to move to Italy, after that, then go. By the way, beware of pick pocket at tourist sites and other crowded places. I hate to see a 19 year old guy like you, lost all of your money, on the first day in Italy. (If that happen, what are you going to do?)
You make a very valid point iloveflyin - Roya this is Wise info you should definately consider!
thanks to the travel gurus here that are SO helpful and willing to give fabulous advice!
Well, yes I agree, anyone would be rather silly not to find a few things out and make a few plans prior to arriving in a new city. Giving you the benefit of the doubt and assuming you could answer questions like Where will I stay? How will I learn the language? How will I work? etc. I say "Go for it!!!"
After I graduated from high school at 17 I left home in Eastern Canada and moved to Western Canada - with full family support. I WAS ONE OF THE SILLY ONES. I didn't have a clue. I had a suitcase, an umbrella, a rain coat and a dream (sounds tacky huh?) I wanted to be an actor and had been paid to act since 15 but only in a small city. So, off to the big city I went. I wish I had organised a few things and asked a few more questions before I did it as I would not have been so scared. The one thing I did have was a savings of about 4 grand (helps a lot!) Anyway, when I arrived I didn't know a soul and I didn't even have a place to stay but you still adapt because you have to! I got an acting job in two weeks at a crappy little dinner theatre but at least I had a job and could relax and get to know people etc. Anyway, I remember an "adult" actor colleague of mine who I worked with prior to the move. He said "You'll never get work there, you're too young, what would you want to go there for, etc." Well, I did go and it was those words I would play over and over in my head for the next 15 years. I still play them.....but things have changed....that guy is now doing singing telegrams in the SAME CITY and I am going into my 3rd west end musical in London.
So, be sensible, do your homework but don't ever let anyone tell you that you shouldn't do something that you believe in. You have to have passion in your life and you have to have goals so if you really want it GO GET IT!!!
hi again, I still think you should go, and though iloveflyin stated quite a few things you should check first, I go with miller: do it.
That you're asking your question here also indicates to me, that you have more or less decided that this is what you want.
If your profile is right, then you're from Malaga, Spain, so Rome won't be that big a step and it's only a short flight from "home". You'll be within the EEC and we have free movement of labour, so that shouldn't cause you problems.
I do agree with iloveflyin that it's a good idea to do a bit of research, mainly to find a place to live, maybe start out with a hostel and then join up with other people and maybe rent a flat. Of course you should also have a bit of money to start up with, and if you don't find a job then you're not that far away. But if you really want this, I bet you'll find a job, you'll find friends in no time and you'll have a great time.
YEP... go for it!
Keep the suggestions in mind and go and have THE time of your life!
CIAO! Thank you all so very much for your response! I have taken a lot of time to really think about my travelling and i am so glad to say that i am going despite what everyone may say.
Just to let you all know that i am taking in every single comment, and acting on it. I am researching all the aspects I can think of and it is going well.
thank you all once again
buona fortuna( good luck)