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1. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 11y

What are your thoughts on egg or sperm donation to IVF clinics?

Would you ever do it?

*and no, I'm not considering it, I just read an article on it wanted your thoughts*

2. Posted by moscowmetr (Full Member 267 posts) 11y

How much do they pay?

I met some guys from SOuth Africa a few weeks ago that did a number of sessions in one of those drug testing clinics where you stay for a weekend and get payed a couple grand, just so they could continue travelling.

3. Posted by beerman (Respected Member 1631 posts) 11y

Hmm, tough question, James......

I know there are a lot of differing opinions on IVF concerning morality, ethics, religious implications, etc, and few people are willing to compromise with opinions different from their own. For me, no, I probably wouldn't donate my eggs (nyuk nyuk) or sperm to a clinic. Not because of the ethics, etc., but I think there are just too many people in the world as it is. I'm a biologist/chemist, but if you're infertile, to me, you were meant to be infertile. I don't think child birth is an inalienable right. Besides, there are far too many children in the world that are in desperate need of homes and families already.

Mind you, I'm not saying that people don't have the right to IVF, because they do and I'm not going to try to convince them otherwise. I just don't agree with it.

The eternal compromise.....

4. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 11y

I have to say that Beerman and I are in agreement on this one. And, mainly for the same reasons. I also look at the issue from the "adopted child" and the "infertile woman" point of view. If IVF had been available at the time my parents were trying to have children - where would I be now? Would another family have adopted me or would I have been placed in an orphanage (for lack of a better term)? When I was told I could not have children of my own without the use of IVF (then in it's earliest stages), should I have taken advantage of it just to reproduce? Tough questions with even tougher answers...

Physicians and scientists have created and made this option available to those who, for whatever reason, can not create a life in the "natural" manner. (Again, lack of a better word...) But, also I feel too many people choose this option far too quickly because they feel the need to reproduce on a time line. Not everyone is meant to be a parent. Is it your right to take advantage of IVF - yes and no.

To answer the original question (before going off on some tangent) - no, I would not do it. I would be much more inclined to point perspective parents toward the nearest adoption agency so one more child, who already exists, has a better chance at a better life. Because the option is available doesn't mean everyone should take advantage of it. I know it's just me, but I am totally lost on the concept of "needing to have my own" child. Realistically, if you use IVF (eggs and/or sperm) to conceive, "my own" becomes tenious at best.

5. Posted by samsara_ (Travel Guru 5353 posts) 11y

I think I would agree with Isa and Beerman for pretty much the same reasons. I'm not sure everyone should be a parent, and maybe it's Nature's or God's(or whatever you prefer to believe) way of telling you this.

I don't know. On the other hand, for some people it must be a devastating thing to hear that you can't conceive if that's what you most want in the world. And I suppose it is a good thing that IVF exists for people who want it badly enough.

I dont disagree with IVF for other people, if that is their choice, but I dont think it would be mine.

6. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 11y

Quoting Isadora

To answer the original question (before going off on some tangent) - no, I would not do it.

Though I was not specific, my answer is actually two-fold. No, I would not donate my eggs and no, I would not use IVF as a means of conception. (I'm of the belief that some fates you are just meant to accept and they should be used as a means to making you stronger.)

7. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 11y

That's one of those tough questions - like abortion and euthanasia - that you can't truthfully answer unless you're directly affected. Anything else is kinda just speculation.

But as for my speculation: I have a friend of a friend who decided to go the in-vitro route just a very short while ago. In my opinion, she did it for what I consider the worst possible reasons (which after some consideration I won't go into here). Suffice to say that a baby is not a life balm - it is a sacrifice you love to make.

So I don't know if I'd go this route simply because I can't imagine a non-selfish reason to do it. Then again, I've never been in the position (knock on wood) to test my theory, so I reserve the right to change my mind.