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1. Posted by meditation (First Time Poster 1 posts) 11y

Hello to All,

I am new to this website but happy i found it.

I travelled Asia for two years (stayed in a commune for 18 months) about 6 years ago and also for 6 months a few years further back.

I now live back in Europe and have a great job, a lovely girlfriend, money accumalating nicely in the bank, live in a nice hot country by the beach and yet i am again planning a long trip.

That means leaving the job and my girlfriend as she is settled here.

Why am i doing this ?

After 3.5 years working in a office and at 35 years old im screaming to give it all up and just stroll around the planet for a while. People here (where i live) will no doubt think me crazy (i know my mum does) and sometimes i think maybe they are right.

However i just KNOW that i must go and take time out.

Any thoughts from anyone on why i feel this so keenly ?

Should i not at 35 , great job, lovely woman be content to just live as i am right now ?

I guess im writing this in the hope for some support from one or two of you reading this but honest opinions please.



2. Posted by moscowmetr (Full Member 267 posts) 11y

Well, this has been a sorta theme recently here. People not sure whether or not to drop "life" and hit the road. It seems that you do well at your job, there is no reason to suggest that after travelling around the world or places for extended periods will make you less competant. Most firms feel that these experience actually help as an asset of sorts. So finding work when you get back doesnt seem like it will pose to many difficulties.

So, it comes down to the girl. I mean, Im sure she is a real sweetheart. There are alot of women in the world though. This question you gotta know yourself. If she will definetly not come with you, and she is at a point in her life where she wants to like settle down, it aint fair to her or you. If at 35 you are thinking you need to do this, then at 50 it will be worse at you will regret it.

quoting you:
"However i just KNOW that i must go and take time out."

you even made the know part in big letters.....I think youve already decided. Have a good trip. Maybe she'll even wait for you.

3. Posted by klangeluk (Full Member 146 posts) 11y

you can still have a great life where you are and hit the road every now and then if you know what i mean it doesnt always have to mean pack and leave...maybe do it on frequent basis one country a month or something


4. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4138 posts) 11y

Quoting moscowmetr

Well, this has been a sorta theme recently here. People not sure whether or not to drop "life" and hit the road.

Yes, a bit of a recurring theme from one-time posters....

5. Posted by kellyb78 (Budding Member 58 posts) 11y

I think you already know the answer or you would not seek advice or re-assurance! I think you can not be truely happy if you are seeking change! I have a great job, car and house, I also gave up all of my travel plans over a year ago for my ex boyfriend, consequently it all went wrong and we split up and I now regret not going last year (if we could live with hindsight life would be great!)Looking back I totally regret that decision and wish so much that I had gone but all I can do now is learn from my past experiences and not do the same mistake again. However everyones life is differant so all I can advise you to do is to think about what option you can take which will benefit you in the long term without regrets! I wish I had followed my head instead of my heart! Maybe later than planned but I'm now off travelling next year! I hope this is of some help! But remember its your life to live, as you see fit!


6. Posted by bibs (Full Member 89 posts) 11y

Hi Marcas
This happens to all travel addicts every now and then. Life becomes boring and monotonous when you get stuck at one place for long. You should remember, nothing is permanent in this world. Not even our preciuos life. You don't know what will happen tomorrow morning. if you don't go out,there is no guarantee that you can hold on to these
vicious things for ever.
So decide yourself whatever you think is best for you. After all its your have to live... no one else can.....

7. Posted by Brilu (Budding Member 8 posts) 11y

I have to say it is very encouraging to read that there are other people out there, that are a bit "older" and still want to travel. I travelled Australia for a year when I was 26 and since I came back, I tried to "make a career" and settle down and all that...but I have to say, I am sooo bored and all I want to do is leave again. But the longer I stay the harder it gets and the more I am worried about finding a job afterwards and spending too much money and then the age-thing as I turned 30 recently. Anyway, now I decided to just go for it. I booked a flight to Asia in November and another one to Brazil next year and I hope once I am on my way again, I will be fine.

8. Posted by SeeTheSky (Respected Member 558 posts) 11y

hey marcus,
you seems to have made a good life for yourself,in solidarity and in travelling. so its seems that you have this craving for something more, to explore more and just travel. (well this is a good place to be for people like that, nuturing travel addictions) well, im not gonna tell you what to do, but its obvious that you know how you feel. do what you want to do, dont let the fear of leaving a life behind hold you. if she wont wait for you, that just means that you might not be right for each other (or i could be totally wrong that kinda just makes sense). but really the bottom line is just do what your hearts tellin ya, if not you might regret it. one way or the other, good luck

9. Posted by moscowmetr (Full Member 267 posts) 11y

Quoting james

Yes, a bit of a recurring theme from one-time posters....

Yeah really, wonder if they one hit wonderers actually show up again to read what people post as a response.

10. Posted by coldwarspy (Travel Guru 1108 posts) 11y

dont do it man!

u have a nice life it seems!

Too much to into the system....Choose life. Choose a job. Choose a career. Choose a family. Choose a f****g big television, Choose washing machines, cars, compact disc players, and electrical tin openers....

"Your revolution is over, Mr. Lebowski! Condolences! The bums lost!"

no really....go away...often