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1. Posted by Q' (Travel Guru 1987 posts) 11y

Ok, I'm sick and tired of reading about how to break up. I know this girl in one of my classes. She's gorgeous, smart, caring, atheletic, good conversationlist, etc. etc..... I want to do something spectacular to get her to notice me ! You've all been through this I know. What's the most amazing thing a guy or girl's ever done for you that made you absolutely fall in love with them?

2. Posted by FionaNZ (Respected Member 903 posts) 11y

Star Gazer Lillies & a bottle of Veuve Cliquot and I'll
go out on a date with you Q

3. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 11y

Quoting Q_Zhang

...she's gorgeous, smart, caring, atheletic, good conversationlist, etc. .....

Then what on earth would she want anything to do with you ?

Seriously, you don't have to do anything specatcular; simply start talking to her and strike up a friendship, then ask her out somewhere like to a party.

Let us know how it goes.

Good luck!

4. Posted by SeeTheSky (Respected Member 558 posts) 11y

just be outgoing. brave... you have a real good hold on who you are, i know that, so just dont lose that feeling just cause of your attraction to her. basically, think of the fact that your making a friend first, and potentially more than that later. all that sums up to a much overused saying 'be yourself' ... cause its true.

5. Posted by FionaNZ (Respected Member 903 posts) 11y

What would they know Q, their males... stick with the flowers
and champagne

6. Posted by jackflash (Inactive 84 posts) 11y

Erm... do something spectacular so she will notice you?

How about walking along a tightrope balancing a Tibetan Monk upon your head?

You should be able to tell a lot about a girl if you gaze into her eyes, If her pupil dilates then she is opening herself to you, or she is on drugs, either way, your in really.

Just ask her out on a date you Chicken!;) pakaa pakaa pakaa

7. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 11y

Quoting Q_Zhang

What's the most amazing thing a guy or girl's ever done for you that made you absolutely fall in love with them?

I would have to say he was the perfect gentleman - in the "old-fashioned" sense. Opening doors, walking on the street side of the sidewalk, pulling out chairs, asking what I was going to order - then ordering for me (yes, the "the lady will have" line), all those chivalrous things. Superficial? Yup. But it was the cherry on top of the sundae. What really won me over - being outgoing, adventurous, a conversationalist, and best of all - treating me as though I was the most important part of his world when we were together. Twenty years later - nothing has changed including the chivalry.

Ask her out, period. Don't be afraid of being rejected. Look her straight in the eyes and ask her to do something you think she would enjoy. Not something you want to do and hopes she will like it too, something specifically focused on her likes. Obviously if you know she is a good conversationalist, then you have an idea of things she likes to do. Pick one. Don't forget to open doors, pull out chairs and all those other "old-fashioned" things! They still work.

8. Posted by Q' (Travel Guru 1987 posts) 11y

Yeah, thanks guys. I'm already planning to ask her out dancing. I'm just deciding about the right moment to do it. Just a bit of self doubt at the moment. One minute we're arm-in-arm like old buddies and the next she won't even look at me in the eye.

9. Posted by Rraven (Travel Guru 5924 posts) 11y

Quoting Q_Zhang

One minute we're arm-in-arm like old buddies and the next she won't even look at me in the eye.

maybe she likes you too and is wishing you would ask her out, go for it !!

10. Posted by john7buck (Respected Member 458 posts) 11y

Sky-writing dude, sky writing. I saw it on the Simpsons and it worked like a charm for Apu.

In all seriousnesss, all this talk about relationships, them coming and going and whatnot, has me wondering if this traveling thing has me completely stuffed when it comes to relationships. I honestly believe that over the last couple years I tend to purposely keep any sort of relationship from developing because I think either

A. This will end badly when I decide to take off for another year -or-

B. This will go great and I never will take off again.

Is that completely nuts or what?

Anyway, back to Q. Lacking the funds for sky-writing, I say you just bite the bullet man. Since I don't know you, I'm going to guess you're like me and 90 percent of the other dudes out there who just don't put there cajones on the line enough.