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41. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 10y

Quoting Isadora

Quoting tway

Hmmm. What if it was the other way around and his partner chose to give up what she loves about home and travel.

Maybe the partner isn't a she?! ;)

Hee hee! I actually started out writing "he" and then went back and chaged it. Should have stuck with the annoying "s/he"!

42. Posted by Brendan (Respected Member 1824 posts) 10y

No it is a she... but "girlfriend" sounds so stupid.

43. Posted by beerman (Respected Member 1631 posts) 10y

Why does everyone always dwell on being "tied down", when really, being "tied up" is so much more interesting....or so I've heard....

Don't overthink things, don't imagine that you know what your prospective partner is thinking (you'll probably be wrong and you don't really know them yet anyway), and just be yourself. And try not to pick your nose when they're watching. Don't be shy. If you want to know something, ask tactfully.

44. Posted by Q' (Travel Guru 1987 posts) 10y

Quoting beerman

Don't overthink things, don't imagine that you know what your prospective partner is thinking (you'll probably be wrong and you don't really know them yet anyway), and just be yourself. And try not to pick your nose when they're watching. Don't be shy. If you want to know something, ask tactfully.

As a friend of mine says, life would be so much easier if we weren't smart.... I have been guilty of over analyzing things in the past....

45. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 10y

Quoting Q_Zhang

As a friend of mine says, life would be so much easier if we weren't smart.... I have been guilty of over analyzing things in the past....

Don't jack-story yourself!!!

Jack-story: A guy is driving down the road and gets a flat tire. He opens the trunk, just to realize he has no jack. He remembers seeing a service station back down the road and starts walking towards it. As he walks, he starts thinking about the flat tire and that the station may not have one for him to use. The father he walks, the more he convinces himself that the station has a jack but won't let him use it. The longer he walks, the angrier he becomes. By the time he reaches the station and see the attendant, all he can say is, "Keep your f**king jack! I didn't want to borrow it anyway!"

Or something along that line... ;)

46. Posted by FionaNZ (Respected Member 903 posts) 10y

Quoting Q_Zhang

Quoting FionaNZ

Well, Stalker sprang to my mind before Romantic

Actually, the more I think about this, the more offended I become. I know you meant it as a joke, Fiona, but this is one of the biggest things I hate about modern dating.

Well I'm sorry if I offended you Q, this was a joke to James & I'm sure he took it for what it was.. but on saying that you really are going to need to harden up if you want to join the dating/relationship world;)

At the end of the day it is the woman's right not to give you her phone number. I do this all the time as I don't want guys ringing me or txt'ing me. Its one thing to enjoy someones company on a night out in a bar or club, & another entirely to want them in your every day life! But you need to be honest about this, & I am

Quoting Q_Zhang

How can good relationships develop when everytime a guy uses his creativity and resourcefulness to find a girls number, he's automatically a "stalker"..

Hmmm, perhaps it is just not the best way to start a relationship by being creative about a phone number you need to ask for it & if she wants you to have it she will give it to you or give you enough clues to find it.. I think James getting the number off the phone happened along time ago & was a lot more acceptable.. these days, no its not! There are just way to many weirdo's out there for a girl not to take precautions

FiNZ now runs for the door after offending a few more of the male species

47. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 10y

Quoting FionaNZ

Quoting Q_Zhang

Quoting FionaNZ

Well, Stalker sprang to my mind before Romantic

Actually, the more I think about this, the more offended I become. I know you meant it as a joke, Fiona, but this is one of the biggest things I hate about modern dating.

Well I'm sorry if I offended you Q, this was a joke to James & I'm sure he took it for what it was.. but on saying that you really are going to need to harden up if you want to join the dating/relationship world;)

At the end of the day it is the woman's right not to give you her phone number. I do this all the time as I don't want guys ringing me or txt'ing me. Its one thing to enjoy someones company on a night out in a bar or club, & another entirely to want them in your every day life! But you need to be honest about this, & I am

Quoting Q_Zhang

How can good relationships develop when everytime a guy uses his creativity and resourcefulness to find a girls number, he's automatically a "stalker"..

Hmmm, perhaps it is just not the best way to start a relationship by being creative about a phone number you need to ask for it & if she wants you to have it she will give it to you or give you enough clues to find it.. I think James getting the number off the phone happened along time ago & was a lot more acceptable.. these days, no its not! There are just way to many weirdo's out there for a girl not to take precautions

FiNZ now runs for the door after offending a few more of the male species

I think I have a pretty good sense of what's acceptable and what's not. I'd do the same again today if the circumstances were the same.
If she became offended that I noted her number, or thought that it was unnacceptable, that's fine. It doesn't mean what I did was wrong, it simply means that we have differing views of acceptable behaviour.

By the way, about 6 months into the relationship, I did climb the gum tree out the front of her bedroom window one night. It was 2 storeys up, and I remember leaning precarioulsy from the tree to the window. It was the only way past her father. When I look back now, I must have been nuts. If I fell I would have broken my neck.

48. Posted by FionaNZ (Respected Member 903 posts) 10y

Quoting james

By the way, about 6 months into the relationship, I did climb the gum tree out the front of her bedroom window one night. It was 2 storeys up, and I remember leaning precarioulsy from the tree to the window. It was the only way past her father. When I look back now, I must have been nuts. If I fell I would have broken my neck.

Now for that, I will give you Romantic..

49. Posted by Q' (Travel Guru 1987 posts) 10y

Quoting FionaNZ

I do this all the time as I don't want guys ringing me or txt'ing me. Its one thing to enjoy someones company on a night out in a bar or club, & another entirely to want them in your every day life! But you need to be honest about this, & I am

But you're assuming the guy is going to be ringing or txt'ing you constantly. You don't know that. Even if you "legitemately" gave the guy your number after meeting him at a bar. What guarantee do you have that he isn't some weirdo that likes to go to bars ?

What I would do is ask for one date. If she says no, the number goes into the trash bin. No different than if I was asking her face to face. What if James had showed up at her doorstep the very next day (remember he knows where she lives) and asked her out ? Any difference ?

Quoting FionaNZ

I think James getting the number off the phone happened along time ago & was a lot more acceptable.. these days, no its not! There are just way to many weirdo's out there for a girl not to take precautions

Exactly! That's what I'm getting at. I'm not saying girls don't have a right to look after themselves. Women haven't changed. Men haven't changed much either. Were there weirdo's "back then". I bet you there were. So why this change ? People are afraid, that's why. Too much evening news, too many horror movies. People are too afraid to take even the slightest chance. All any guy wants is to be met halfway.

Anyway, I'm sorry, Fiona. I'm getting all worked up about this. I know you meant it as a joke, and I appreciate that. I know I'd pull the same stunt that james did, for the same reasons, and I just get offended that I'd automatically be called something I know I'm not.

50. Posted by FionaNZ (Respected Member 903 posts) 10y

You are getting rather worked up Q, just chill out a little and ask her out, you'll be fine

So I'm going to refrain from responding & believe me,
I'm itching to