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11. Posted by SeeTheSky (Respected Member 558 posts) 10y

I really want to live in Australia or New Zealand, but I think I'm going to have to go back to Uni, at least concentrate on career (but what?) in order to achieve it.It will take a long time. Since I failed to find a husband there! ;)

dont feel rushed to find a career or make a 'life' for yourself. thats just the predisposition you (and everyone) has to the pressure on society to 'make something' of yourself. take your time and find something you'll wanna do, no matter what it is, its your life to lead and no one can tell you what you 'should' be doing.

Evan

12. Posted by tallbird (Respected Member 269 posts) 10y

Quoting james

I was away for 3 years at one point, and walking into my room at my parents palce was like going back in time. My room hadn't been touched, and looking at my CD collection and other bits and pieces from where my life stopped at a point in time was sweet but also bitter.

Must agree with James. Its really weird to go back and discover that not much has changed at all! Mind you, I've never found this a bad thing!

Plus your parents will probably spoil you rotten because they've missed you!

13. Posted by john7buck (Respected Member 458 posts) 10y

It's funny about people not seeming to care too much about your stories and/or pictures. I guess that you just have to understand that in your mind you can still smell the smells, taste the tastes, remember the friends, etc. To the people at home, these are just stories. I remember feeling kind of insulted when I got back and people would feign interest, but now I have a friend who is off on a RTW, and I find myself not being able to absorb his stories anymore than he could mine. I'm just getting the vague overview of what to him is "actual life".

My advice, remember for yourself what it felt like to be a traveler and never stop trying to figure out how to make it happen again. If it's truly a passion for you, explore things such as teaching abroad, studying abroad, working abroad, etc. I've been back for almost two years now and it may take me until this time next year, but I'll get out there again. I can relate to SeetheSky's point, but the fact is "realism" exists. I have had to go back to my career, pay off debts (still in process); but all the while I sit here and try to figure out what my next move is. People may tell me I'm too old, too entrenched in my career to leave again, but I have a feeling things will work themselves out for the best if and when I decide to travel again.

14. Posted by SeeTheSky (Respected Member 558 posts) 10y

its true im not really realistic. but it works perfectly for me

15. Posted by numero1 (Respected Member 295 posts) 10y

My biggest fear is just falling back into the same depressing life I was so desperate to leave.

Not only that, but you'll find that things don't change where you live, and you'll feel you've moved on when it seems as though time had stopped at the place you left behind.

Yep, I feel the same way after I've just returned from a few months OS. i feel i've come back to nothing again or "back down to earth" with a thud.

Don't try to ignore these feelings if you start to feel them (and you will). Embrace them, welcome them and use them as a springbroad to achieving bigger and better things in your life and head in the direction your heart and mind tells you (although they conflict most of the time, don't they?)

16. Posted by SuperBrat (Full Member 107 posts) 10y

In 8 weeks I leave good old Blighty after 24 months of hippy travel, hard work and good friends. I still can't believe it, but I am determined not to go back to what I was so desperate to leave. Travelling has really opened my eyes, and I'm so glad for the opportunity. Therefore I have decided that home will be a short port of call before I head off to find a way to realise what I really really want! Yippeee!

17. Posted by miranda73 (Full Member 76 posts) 10y

Clara,

I have no home

I have been travelling, moving and renting one place to another place in Asia or in Europe region, working in many cities for 13 years (I am 32). Till I don't know where I should stay. I don't like to stay in my own country

Though I never live with my parents since I was 18, to stay with parents, I don't think so it is so bad. It depends on how you cope with them. And how about to stay with your boyfriend?

18. Posted by danalasta (Travel Guru 519 posts) 10y

Hey Lanni,

u are truly a global citizen...as they say, the world is your oyster.

but what the heck ! the important thing is that you must be happy wherever u are...follow your heart, keep your mind in perspective & your thoughts focused !

19. Posted by isisshuru (Full Member 57 posts) 10y

I was actually gonna start a thread on this until I saw yours. I was very happy to be home (Arizona). There really isn't anyplace like the one you grew up in. I was so excited to go see my old haunts and friends. good friends for life. I haven't been home in over five years, and just got back for a month holiday before going back to Europe.

The first week was awesome, friends and family for the holiday (of course a little wine to make it that much easier). But as I began to see all my friends...man. you'd think it was still high school.

People, it's been ten years and the same sh*t is stilling going on. crappy jobs, stuck in bad relationships, and backstabbing and rumor-mongers. Can you tell how disappointed I was. I don't even really want to tell people who well I'm doing, with my career, my school, my travels. I hate that look. You will be glad to see them, but only the true friends are going to appreciate what you've done. Typically, these are the ones you already regularly keep in contact with. Don't get me wrong, these folks are still my friends. But I feel a great space between some of them that was never there before. It's hard to relate to them anymore. I suppose this the growing apart that inevitabley happens to folks.

On a more positive note: There are those select few people that I KNOW I can call up six mos or six years later, go on a road trip, have an awesome time, totally catch-up on each others lives, and not talk or see each other for another stint. These friends are truly priceless. These are the ones I will fight to the death to keep safe and close. Even as I began to get down about the clan, I keep in mind the girls and boys of my past that will always be apart of my future.

20. Posted by Clarabell (Travel Guru 1696 posts) 10y

Hi All,

I've chosen to bring this thread back, because I started it while I was in India and was anxious about coming home, and now I have been back for nearly 5 months........ I really miss being away!!!!

Unfortunatly, a lot of my fears seem to have come true! It took me ages find just a poorly paid temping job, doing exactly what I left home to avoid (office admin).

I was enthusiastic about going back to Uni to train as a Midwife in September, although now the chances of that are looking slim. And I don't know what else I want to do.

Its better now I'm NOT living with parents. But I rarely see my friends, who are almost all either practically married, and are too busy with their other halves/new houses/etc to do anything. And the converstations not what it was, we don't share so many interests. I'm living in a lively area with great pubs, things to do etc and plenty of fit men, but I never get the chance to go anywhere/do anyhting.

Its times like this I wish I'd never come home!!!

I just miss travelling so much- Being able to constantly meet new people, do new things, or just move on when you get fed up.

If I got into University I could go travelling again before course starts. I really wanted to go round Europe this summer, but its looking incresingly complicated/unlikely, and in the meantime i'm tied down to a desk to pay my rent.

This is all going to sound like a desperate whinge, but I feel like getting ot off my chest! There must be more to life than this?

Anyone else in the same situation????

[ Edit: Edited at May 16, 2006 5:02 AM by Clarabell ]