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1. Posted by johnnyr (Budding Member, 17 posts) 4 Dec '05 16:23

I thought I had everything sorted, looking forward to my RTW trip, its not the first time going away so I'm really not too apprehensive, just safe in the knowledge that I am going to have an amazing time. Then what do I go and do??? I meet a girl 2 weeks before I go that I really like. It may not sound like much but one of the main reasons I go away is because I am young, free, and single. The young bit I'm afraid I can't control, but the rest I can. Is anyone in a similar situation, I don't want to get too close to her yet I just can't help it. 5 days before I go I would never reconsider going just that I hate goodbyes! (Why do I travel then???). Any advice??? Cheers!

2. Posted by HafJafMark (Respected Member, 291 posts) 4 Dec '05 17:54

If it was me mate, Id definately just go.

But if you really like her, then you could just fork out some money to yer travel agents and put it off for 6 months or so.

You never know, if your still with her by then, maybe shell come along...

3. Posted by Scrotum (Budding Member, 23 posts) 4 Dec '05 18:13

You poor bastard.....

Yeah, i´ll agree with Mark here, if possible, postpone it for a couple of months (just make sure you dont lose anything on it, IF you do, just go ahead and leave).

Traveling and experience last you a life time, a woman is hardly a stable thing man :)

4. Posted by J9travels (Budding Member, 15 posts) 5 Dec '05 03:50

2 blokes advising you to stay - softies!!!!

Don't change your plans. I said the same thing to my friend - if there's something special there then it will work out somehow. She could always save up to come out and meet you or she might be willing to meet up with you when you get back...

If you stay and it doesn't work out then you lose.

5. Posted by Gelli (Travel Guru, 2457 posts) 5 Dec '05 05:39

I say just go. You'll only have known her 3 weeks when you leave, which isn't long. And if it really could be something serious, things will work themselves out even whilst you are away. Goodbyes are always tough, but unfortunately part of life

6. Posted by GregW (Travel Guru, 2634 posts) 5 Dec '05 06:47

Have you ever thought that the fact that you have found someone you really like just 2 weeks before you go away is just jitters about your trip? I know before I went away on my first solo backpacking adventure, I went through a few periods of cold feet. It's such a daunting thing to walk away from life for a period of time. Perhaps this is just a subconscious attempt to find a reason to backout?

Just a thought...

7. Posted by Scrotum (Budding Member, 23 posts) 5 Dec '05 09:39

Naw, i blame the woman.. Look at it historical man, if you have a girlfriend, SUDDENLY you have flocks of interested woman everywhere (my experience). If your single, as dry as the Gobi Desert.....

Still, Travelling is better then wasting it on woman, you´ll find someone else nice to jiggle your chain out there :)

8. Posted by Twinkle (Travel Guru, 1112 posts) 5 Dec '05 18:53

Theres nothing to even think about!!!Go on your trip!!!youve known this girl 2 weeks, get a grip!If its meant to be then it will be...if shes really the 'one' or you have something special then it will all turn out good when you get back...or she can save up and come visit you!Seriously if shes really worth it, you can pick it all up when you get back!!!!same thing happened to me about 3 months before i went away, got together with a really nice guy who I had known for a very long time, he appreciated that i wanted to go away travelling and in the grand scale of things we had only been together 3 months which isnt a long time!we emailed occasionally whilst i was away, saw him for a while after i got back then things just ran their course!Men can be really romantic I suppose when they want to, thats quite a grand gesture to consider not going away for a girl!

9. Posted by johnnyr (Budding Member, 17 posts) 6 Dec '05 09:25

Don't worry I'm not a hopeless romantic! I just love spending time with this girl, and the early part of a relationship is always so exciting. I would never though consider not to go travelling. Its more that I wanted to get accross no matter how much you plan, you can never plan for something like this. That is why I travel - I love surprises! So yeah if in a years time we meet up and we still have the same spark, and of course we are both available! There will not be much thinking needed... Thanks for the responses guys I know I'm never alone in how I feel, its just nice to occasionally confirm that.

10. Posted by johnnyr (Budding Member, 17 posts) 6 Dec '05 09:28

Oh and Greg W, forget being a travel Guru, you should be a travel therapist. Your thoughts are pretty useful. Cheers mate.