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While travelling/living abroad, ever u fall in love?

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1. Posted by happyyo (Budding Member 7 posts) 10y

Hi guys :)

A question from a romantic chick who doesnt show it :) :

How do you cope with having to move on if you fall in love with somebody on your trip/living abroad?

For me, the "good-byes" are the worst part of travelling even if its just a friendship good-bye ....

Looking foward to hear you :)

Cheers,
Laura

2. Posted by SeeTheSky (Respected Member 558 posts) 10y

hey laura,

im sorry you have to deal with that, im sure its rough, but really, i think that you have to just take it as it is. you cant let it hold you back, or make you think your missing something. you have to live your life, and just let the thought of your love drive you forward to accomplish whatever it is you want. the person you love, im sure would want you not to hold yourself back by their account, im sure they want more than anything for you to make something of it.

rather than let that love make you sad or melancholy, let it become a part of your life as it should, and keep it to make you smile evey day as you look at the sun and sky and earth as the beautiful imperfection that life is. becuase its the imperfection, the having had and lost, that will become a part of you and urge you ever onward to fuel your own potential, to keep on believing and making new love and new experiences of everything you do and everywhere your road takes you..

its your life, your path to walk. so all you can do is get up and use your legs.

-Evan

3. Posted by miranda73 (Full Member 76 posts) 10y

I have not had that experience yet but I feel afraid if it happened to me. To avoid, perhaps try to avoid too "deep" in your friendship and travel with many fellow travellers, thus the interactions among them are not just limited by a person only. And it also depends to how to "control" our feeling not to feel in love with other during travel moment. I know it's difficult ...

4. Posted by Gelli (Travel Guru 2457 posts) 10y

How do you cope with having to move on if you fall in love with somebody on your trip/living abroad?

Why do you have to move on at all (i don't mean physically)? I fell in love on my travels once, and despite living in different countries, still managed to have a long term relationship.

The living abroad thing doesn't make as much difference to me, as oddly enough, i've never actually yet had a girlfriend who lives in teh same country as I do, although that probably says something in itself..!

For me, the "good-byes" are the worst part of travelling even if its just a friendship good-bye ....

Agree that that can be really tough, especially on a long term trip when you are in a constant set of goodbyes. But many you will keep in touch with, some you will see again, a few will become your best friends. Virtually all of my close friends, including my 2 best ones are people i met randomly whilst travelling. You just never know how things will work out.

5. Posted by Twinkle (Travel Guru 1112 posts) 10y

holiday romances are are amazing at the time but sometimes no matter how hard you try to keep your distance and not get too attatched its always hard to saw goodbye!!the same with friends you meet on the way...when you are spedning 24 hours a day with someone you become so used ot being with them its auful when its time to go your seperate ways!But i suppose if its meant to be then its meant to be!!!

6. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 10y

That happened to me in Paris two years ago. I was moseying through Pere Lachaise, minding my own business, when here comes Northern Ireland to throw me for a loop. Well, tons of e-mails and phone calls and letters and flights later and, like Gelli's, ours is a long-distance relationship that's working out just fine. I guess the trick is the old cliche of taking everything one step at a time and remembering you each have your own very full lives to live.

And sure goodbyes are hard, but they are always counterbalanced by the next 'hello'.

7. Posted by mtlgal (Full Member 1179 posts) 10y

Quoting happyyo

How do you cope with having to move on if you fall in love with somebody on your trip/living abroad?

Can't say that I fell in love, but I did inadvertently develope strong feelings for another traveller once. I had it pretty bad and it took me almost 5 months to get over him - not an experience I'd like to repeat. My advice is that, if there is a possibility of something between you two, pursue it, try to work around the distance issue. If there's no possibilty of something more longterm between you two, DON'T KEEP IN TOUCH WITH HIM and SPAM HIS LOVEY DOVEY E-MAILS! It'd make the "getting over" part much easier. At least that's what I have learned from my experience. I now also try not to get too close to guys whom I may potentially develop feelings for (thankfully, there are not that many out there), and only "fool around" with ones that I know I'm only physically attracted to. I sure these precautions won't work all the time... but hey I'm learning.

8. Posted by miranda73 (Full Member 76 posts) 10y

If you have a "bright certain future" with the person whom you meet, you can continue. If not why?

9. Posted by lil j (Travel Guru 1303 posts) 10y

I met a few people in Oz and got a bit closer to one but i dont let myself get too involved (thanks to me ex!-well who knows) i just take each day as it comes.

I'm yet waiting to fall in love with anyone-and when that time comes i'll just deal with it. I can imagine it's hard but you have to just move on! I'm just very cynical about relationships anyway!

10. Posted by numero1 (Respected Member 295 posts) 10y

I fell in love in a foriegn country and I keep in touch with her once a week by phone and we email daily. What makes this even more intriguing is that I'm not even a native spanish speaker like she is - my intermediate level gets me through ok though.

When i left her country it was the hardest thing i've done in my life. Lots of tears at the airport as I gave her some gifts and said good bye to board the plane. Lots of emotional hugs and kisses. Today I'm back home single again and hating it. Sometimes we don't really know how hard it is until you taste it then have to let it go. I wonder what it would have been like just to stay and look for work in her country, becuase true love can be difficult to find anywhere in the world. My belief is once you have it then make sure you do everything you can to keep it - don't let it go (learnt this from mistakes i made in the past).

Still, i feel my life is full of "what ifs". What if i'd just stayed in her country and tried to make it work? What if i never went in the first place? I'm sure you get the point.

Anyway, it's time to look up at the future and make it work. I'm going back next year in March. I promised her and i'll keep that promise.