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While travelling/living abroad, ever u fall in love?

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11. Posted by lil j (Travel Guru 1303 posts) 10y

A question that interests...and..intrigues me...what do men get out of relationships??

Obviously as a woman, for most women its the emotional attatchment, someone to confide in i suppose, obviously we all have different views, blah, blah but as a general rule, so i just wondered what men actually get out of them...I try to not let myself get too attacthed and when i kinda did its was all rather comlicated so my views are some what...blurred!

12. Posted by happyyo (Budding Member 7 posts) 10y

Thanks all for sharing your expereinces/thoughts in here :)

Like u numero1, I feel my life is also full of "what ifs"; the best thing is just not to think about it (I know sometimes its hard); anyway the person u are now, all the experiences u carry on with u, all the good people u have met .... is a consequence of the choices u took in your way: the choices u took and not the choices u left away ...

Have all a great day
Cheers,
Laura.

ps: follow your heart wherever u go and whatever u do

13. Posted by tingo (Full Member 94 posts) 10y

there was a similar thread some time ago:

http://www.travellerspoint.com/forum.cfm?thread=3335

14. Posted by carms0808 (Budding Member 7 posts) 10y

Hi Laura

I am still in love with the guy I fell in love with here in London. It's been 5 months since he has gone back home to Brazil and it's been really really tough I have to say.
Some days I wish I had never met him but other days I remember the good times we had together here in London and revel in it.
We are still in contact but it's not the same of coourse. For one, the intimacy is gone.....and besides all of that, it's just tough not having him around. I haven't moved on at all.

Anyways this is beginning to sound like a sob story so I will end here. LOL.
All I can say to anyone that is involved in a relationship where both are from another country and are getting serious about each other, is that none of us know what's going to happen in the future. So they shouldn't just end the relationship before its even began, based on the fact that they are not the same nationality, but that they should however be prepared for the good-bye at the end of the relationship because inevitably we do have our own lives in our respective countries where our families and friends are. Sad but true.
On the other hand some of us may be really lucky and end up with that person for good.

Carms

15. Posted by Clarabell (Travel Guru 1696 posts) 10y

I had a really intersting discussion about this with some other girls. My attitude before going travelling was - don't get attached its not worth the pain. Theirs was - if you find a bit of romance, enjoy it.

I met someone very special quite early in my trip travelled with him a while as erm, v close friends and I tried not to, but ended up falling in love. oops. Not much you can do about how you feel eh?:( He was great....

The thing is I never told him how I felt. Pretty certain I'm just a good friend to him. I met up with him again about 6 months later and still got on great, we talked lots, but not about that- he had a lot on his plate at the time and needed a bit of support.

He lives in Australia for goodness sake. The odds are I'll never see him again, although we email. Can't help wonder what if this, what if that?

But everything is different while travelling. You get very close to people, but its not the same as real life.

16. Posted by SeeTheSky (Respected Member 558 posts) 10y

[quote=lil j]A question that interests...and..intrigues me...what do men get out of relationships??

Obviously as a woman, for most women its the emotional attatchment, someone to confide in i suppose, obviously we all have different views, blah, blah but as a general rule, so i just wondered what men actually get out of them...quote]

yea, people do have different views, and thats that..
but, i guess from what i know.. and from my friends... its pretty similar. i dont know if you'll call it love, or what, but its definatley not sex. i hate seeing and hearing about that crap. im sure there are some guys that are just shallow, but really thats not what its all about. i dont really know what to call it or what to say about it, and im probably a bad example seeing as ive never had a relationship on purpose, but... i know if i did have one, it would just be like a friend. like having a really cool friend to share something special with. i dont know if that makes sense, it probably doenst. i guess you could just say it simpler by saying, were looking for something.
were people too, looking for something similar in a different way.

17. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 10y

Quoting lil j

A question that interests...and..intrigues me...what do men get out of relationships??

A credit card debt, a mortgage, a few kids....

18. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 10y

Quoting Lil Liz

But everything is different while travelling. You get very close to people, but its not the same as real life.

I hate to tell you this, but it's all real life. Whether you're brushing your teeth, taking out the garbage, working, giving birth, winning the lottery, or travelling, all of it makes up the journey of your life. Which means the people you meet while travelling become part of your real life.

In fact, on the flip side, many people choose to believe that travelling is real life, and everything else is the stuff you need to get through. I still think it all belongs together, but it just goes to show you: it's all about perception.

19. Posted by SeeTheSky (Respected Member 558 posts) 10y

I still think it all belongs together, but it just goes to show you: it's all about perception.

indeed.

20. Posted by numero1 (Respected Member 295 posts) 10y

Quoting tway

I hate to tell you this, but it's all real life. Whether you're brushing your teeth, taking out the garbage, working, giving birth, winning the lottery, or travelling, all of it makes up the journey of your life. Which means the people you meet while travelling become part of your real life.

Very true indeed.