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1. Posted by eschn3am (Budding Member 8 posts) 10y

I'm spending a semester studying in Florence before taking a couple months to off to travel around. I'll be away for a total of 6 months and have been absolutely psyched about it for some time now. That is UNTIL I went to a pre-departure meeting this afternoon.

I think the purpose of this meeting was to scare the hell out us. Here are the highlights.

- I will fall into severe depression soon after arriving due to culture shock

- I won't be happy again until it's almost time to leave. Upon returning home I was fall into a deep depression again and stop hanging out with all my old friends.

- There is a 90% chance of me falling in love and cheating on my girlfriend, whether I like it or not.

- Guys: You will get in fights for being American
- Girls: You will get raped if you go anywhere alone

- Have sex with anyone = STDs
- Drugs in Amsterdam = jail for life with a roomate named Big Bubba

I could go on, but I think you get the idea. So for those who have studied abroad, any truth to any of this? How was your experience and how did it affect you once you came home?

2. Posted by Soledias (Budding Member 2 posts) 10y

Studying abroad is always very tricky, but above all... very personal.
There are 3 main important lifesaver requirements to have a successful studying abroad experience:
1. Get yourself busy - never stop doing something, especially volunteering somewhere, helping others, doing something for the local community ( it is also a great way to improve the language and make friends). Don't stay in your room - that's the beginning and the only way to get depressed.
2. Study hard and be the best - show others and yourself you are there to succeed, and straight As is the way to go!
3. Improve your faith - if you have a religion, go for it! If you don't, then learn how to trust yourself, believe yourself and look only for "good people". And to be honest, the only trustworthy people I met when I lived abroad in 3 countries were the ones I met in the church and in the prayer groups. But, if you don't have a religion, that's an opportunity to learn about one, and make friends.

Well, the most important is keep your mind busy - at all times. Don't waste time, and you'll have a great experience.
People talk about the 3-first-month crisis. It happened to me, but it passed after a day - I had no time to think about it!
Good Luck

3. Posted by Twinkle (Travel Guru 1112 posts) 10y

Hey!
A ray of light here......Two of my friends who are from the US have just spent 6 months also studying in Florence and they thought it was a wonderful place to study abroad, they had a great time, met so many people, went to a lot of exciting places!I say go for it and make the most of it, you will have the most amazing time!its an incredible opportunity...if youre worried about any of the shadier aspects, just have your wits about you!have a fantastic time!
em x

4. Posted by heff (Budding Member 63 posts) 10y

- Drugs in Amsterdam = jail for life with a roomate named Big Bubba

I though you could do aything you want in amsterdam. isn't that the point of going

5. Posted by coldwarspy (Travel Guru 1108 posts) 10y

W-o-A-H!

Guys: You will get in fights for being American

That is so funny! Well, Im an american , and havin lived and studied abroad for almost 2 years now and never got into a fight for being Americano :) just hav thick skin for the constant Bush Bashers ;)...hey, and Join in! Its Fun!

There is a 90% chance of me falling in love and cheating on my girlfriend, whether I like it or not.

Nice one! this may be true - atleast for me anyway as euro girls with accents are so much more attractive to me than a Bostonian Girl with a Southie twang.

I will fall into severe depression soon after arriving due to culture shock

It was shocking to me how much i loved european culture more than american, and became depressed on thinkin I had to return to home at some point.

I won't be happy again until it's almost time to leave. Upon returning home I was fall into a deep depression again and stop hanging out with all my old friends.


Im hopefully never goin back for good - but I DO miss my old friends alot!

Have sex with anyone = STDs

Same rules apply everywhere - condom/play it safe!

Drugs in Amsterdam = jail for life with a roomate named Big Bubba

Well, been there, done it, got the tshirt....never got caught - thats the trick I think, dont find out what the jail term is.

hope this helps..by the way - what group or organization gave u this crap, US propoganda?

6. Posted by maridod (Full Member 114 posts) 10y

Most of that meeting was complete exagerated bull...trust me. The only people I have known that have become depresed when traveling to another country were those that were not really willing and ready to open their minds to something different. If you are ready to travel to another country...then I am sure you will be fine. Yes, occassionally you will miss your family and friends, but ust remember that they will all be there when you get back...and they are just a phone call or e-mail away....technology is great. In addition, you might call your friends to find out that you have missed "the party of the century" or so they say...I guarantee it will not be any better than "the best party ever" that happened while you were in town....there will be others.

You will be as happy as you allow yourself to be while studying aborad. I lived in Italy for almost 6 months and loved every single minute of it...the Italians are great. When you get back home..there will be some adjustment...there always is. The reality is...your friends will get annoyed with you if you talk too much about your experience....but they get over it.

I could not tell if you were a guy or girl from your profile, but yes ....from my experience...if you have a significant other...get ready for temptation...Italians are some of the sexiest people I have ever met....women and men....its almost scary. WHile I would not suggest walking my yourself on a regular basis...I did it quite a few times while living in Rome and had no problems. Maybe I just got lucky, but I would say that you are probably safer walking at night time in Europe than in the US.
Alright...well sorry if I blabbed forever. I think that if you keep an open mind you will have a GREAT time! Just make the most of your time there. Quick note...if you have never traveled to Europe..keep a couple airlines in mind for travel....ryanair.com, germanwings.com, and easyjet.com....they are great alternatives to takinga train and sometimes significantly cheaper!
-Grace Marie