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1. Posted by john7buck (Respected Member 458 posts) 11y

Help me TP psychiatrists, I'm so confused!

Here's the deal (and yes, I realize this is a repetitive concept around here). This has a slightly different twist, so bare with me.

2 years ago, I did the year abroad deal. Well, money ran out, I came home and went back to work. This past spring I was able to put together 2 1/2 weeks down in Peru and Bolivia. Super, but not nearly enough time. Then back to work, work, work. But here's the kicker, I actually LIKE my job. I'm not conducting brain surgery or inventing a cleaner burning engine or anything, I basically get paid to goof around which also allows me to ski A LOT (as high, if not higher, than traveling on my list). And frankly I'm good at what I do. But still, there is this nagging, driving, thump in my head that tells me I need to go off on yet another year-long world adventure. So I've been looking into teaching in Japan and a few other things. My boss knows this is driving me crazy, doesn't want me to leave, and has just given me a raise and 3 weeks paid vacation (doesn't sound like a lot I know, but good for over here).

So here's the conundrum: Why, if I'm perfectly happy where I am, enjoy my work, get paid well and can now take a month off every year (one week would be unpaid); do I still want to leave this all behind and in the words of Vincent from Pulp Fiction "decide to be a bum"?

I guess I'm not looking for any answers, just venting my frustration over being such a basket case. So here's where we are up to now:

1. Chuck it all, move to Japan next September to teach English, travel for a while after that, come home broke again and start over.

2. Keep plugging away, take a month in May to travel SE Asia, life continues in financial stability and hopefully take another month "vacation" a year down the line.

Set me straight oh wise ones. . .

Oh and a few clues into my psyche:
Turn 30 in May
Still single
Afraid to commit to a new car for fear of being "tied down"
Will hopefully have elimiated credit card debt from first trip shortly

2. Posted by john7buck (Respected Member 458 posts) 11y

Okay, just read Kai's post. Maybe I just need to shut it and be thankful for what I have.

My best to you, Kai, if you read this.

3. Posted by Cupcake (Travel Guru 8468 posts) 11y

I don't know what to tell you John...I wish you much luck and happiness whatever you decide....and thank you for the Pulp Fiction reference ;)

4. Posted by mim (Travel Guru 1276 posts) 11y

Why be happy with pedestrian if you can have the extraordinary

you're happy at home but you're young, you're (I hope) in good health, take advantage and go get some adventure

good luck!

m

5. Posted by auspolak (Budding Member 36 posts) 11y

You got a raise for 3 weeks paid holiday from having nothing!!!! yer that must be good over here, our base Annual leave here in Australia for any full time worker is 4 Weeks paid holiday plus many extra's.... If you think come to Australia and see what work and the conditions for work you get here, for USA thats a real shame i would say.....

6. Posted by auspolak (Budding Member 36 posts) 11y

You got a raise for 3 weeks paid holiday from having nothing!!!! yer that must be good over there, our base Annual leave here in Australia for any full time worker is 4 Weeks paid holiday plus many extra's.... If you think come to Australia and see what work and the conditions for work you get here, for USA thats a real shame i would say.....

7. Posted by bibs (Full Member 89 posts) 11y

Just don't leave the job as it is. take the paid vacation.....go out .....search for a better job where ever you like....if you get....then only quit the present job...or else join back... and again....try next year....
You are 30 ...so plenty of time to experiment with life...
I did that mistake 10 yrs back and still searching for a better job, which can susutain my travel expenses.....lucky to be have my wife's job as backup...
life is like a maths...one step wrong and you can't get the right answer...so be carefull..just listen to your own conscience...your circumstances are yours...no one can fit in your shoes...
wish you good luck....

8. Posted by angela_ (Respected Member 1732 posts) 11y

OK, you don't really say what your job is, but couldn't you get a similar job somewhere else.. Maybe in Italy or Swiss? It would be a good place to start travels in Europe.

9. Posted by GregW (Travel Guru 2635 posts) 11y

Quoting john7buck

Why, if I'm perfectly happy where I am, enjoy my work, get paid well and can now take a month off every year (one week would be unpaid); do I still want to leave this all behind and in the words of Vincent from Pulp Fiction "decide to be a bum"?

I have read a book by Po Bronson called "What Should I Do With My Life?" Very good. To summarize the entire book in a single sentence (which, of course, really over simplifies things), what you should do with your life is what you feel is important.

It's not about being happy, it's about being fulfilled by your work. Work is work, and no matter what you do or where you do it, you'll probably end up having to deal with crap. People you don't like, tasks you don't want to do, pay that doesn't meet what your worth. But if you are doing something you feel important, then you are willing to put up with the crap because you are making a difference in the world.

The key thing is figuring out what you think is important. Perhaps for you it is travelling. Therefore, you are torn between being happy at home, or doing what is important and possibly making less money and exposing yourself to more frustration. But in the end, if it's what's important to you, then the money and the frustration are secondary.

Greg

10. Posted by canuckgirl (Budding Member 14 posts) 11y

Thats the same situation that i find myself in right now. After traveling around the UK and Europe last year I feel like i NEED to travel more and for longer. My best friend and I are planning the big move to Australia in Feb. for at least a year with working visas. But same thing I've got a great job that is going really well. I think im just getting scared too and need to vent. A quote that comes to mind,

"Courage is doing what you're afraid to do. There can be no courage unless you're scared."

the best results come from doing something you were afraid to do.