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Where to go home?

Travel Forums General Talk Where to go home?

1. Posted by miranda73 (Full Member 76 posts) 10y

I am trapped in situation when my boyfriend ended up our relationship after five years last week. Suddenly I don't know where to go home ... as I am now in my holiday in Hanoi and I can't say I really enjoy my holiday after this incident.

If I decide to go to Belgium, then I have to think about to rent new place to stay. It is difficult for me as I have not find any proper job, knowing that I just graduated few months ago while I keep searching for it. Additionally the rental cost is pricey.

If I decide to go back to my own country and stay with my parents. Oh my, it never came in my mind that after many years I have to live with them again, to become dependent to them. This is not what I want in fact.

If you were in my position, what do you think the better place to go?

2. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 10y

Hi Lanni,

I was in a similar situation a few years back, although I wasn't on holiday and I was living in the same city as my family. I opted to move back home for a few months - enough time to save up some money and seach for a place to stay. It wasn't easy, but in retrospect I wouldn't change a thing.

In the end, though, you're the best judge of what to do. Give yourself some time not to think about it, though. One step at a time, and things will get better and better. I promise!

Tway.

3. Posted by Twinkle (Travel Guru 1112 posts) 10y

It is difficult going back to living with your parents after living independantly for so long however from personal experience it wasnt that bad!Last year, after living my own life with my own flat for several years, i decided to take a gap year from University to go travelling...I needed a way to sort out my money, so I left London and went back to my parents up north and moved into there. I got myself a job and basically still got to live my own life!there were times when i felt harrassed by my parents ie:"keep the noise down", "why didnt you come home last night" blah blah blah but thats just parents for you!
Its hard, I expect you are probably feeling quite down and pretty fragile and maybe staying on with your trip would really help you?it would keep your mind occupied as if you went back to Belgium with no job or anything you would do a lot of thinking and dwell on all the bad things, maybe some time to youself over in Hanoi would help you get things in perspective? However I think if you did decide to go back home I dont think it would be so bad to go back to your parents for a while, it would only be in the short term and would give you all the home comforts whilst you get yourself back on your feet, find a job, look for somewhere new to rent?Hope you feel happier soon!

4. Posted by danalasta (Respected Member 519 posts) 10y

Lanni!Lanni!! Lanni!!! Lanni!!!! Truth is stranger than fiction..........

[dana & raja feel sorry for Lanni as they settle for a round of beer to celebrate their safe arrival in kuala lumpur....]

dana