Despite being 26, my mom sort of freaked out when i told her my plans to travel in SA. I don't know if it has to do with our culture (south american, lol)... She's mostly concerned about Colombia, but also about the fact that i'll be traveling alone. So, question is:
What do you do to give parents peace of mind?
I, (19 years old an decided last year that I wanted to travel on my own trough europe) told my parents that there is also a change of my getting raped, killed etc in Holland.
And that they needed to trust me, that I wouldn't go somewhere at night where it's unsafe, because I would like to survive my travel..
And further, I don't think you can say so much, it's a feeling of unsafety, and you can't do much to change that feeling, other than coming home in one piece..
And if something bad happens to you, tell that afterwards..
postcards, emails, phone calls and regularly sent photos if possible are the only things that keep my parents from freakin out when i go off travellin.
My parents are exactly the same, especially my Mum. She gets so upset whenever I leave to go off travelling!Even though Ive lived down in London away from them for like 4 years she still gets worried!I think thats a parents job!!No matter what you say to them they will never stop worrying and will only be happy when you are safely home!Make a point of saying to them to trust your judgement and that you will be responsible and not put yourself in situations that are dangerous. When I was away I made sure I sent regular postcards as well as sent emails every coupld of days and made sure I always called when I said I would!And I agree with the thing of not telling them when bad stuff does happen...I encountered a few shady situations and chose to keep the finer details till I got home and could show them I was fine!!!
I think thats just their job, i'm sure we'd all be the same.
It's my dad that chooses to air his opinions, i'm only 20 and went to oz on my own, having never got a flight in my life, but through phone calls i think it put their mind at rest.
Once they knew i was having a great time, meeting people and was safe and well it seemed to work, i'm now going to oz for a year or two-no doubt they'd be worried but hey.
I'm pretty laid back so i think that worries them more. they've got to realise that through my first trip i'm not completely incapable as they may have thought, lol!
I also said about doing Thailand etc, and my dad was trying his hardest to put me off....saying that he knows for a fact that females dont travel there alone! oh he is funny.
yeah .. gettin the same thing from my wee mum too ... less said the better ..
I don't understand?
Are you saying adoptive parents don't worry about their children?
I'm with s_hoot,
My daughter (26) worries us each time she decides to 'go walkabout' (travel). Mind you she has been independant and out of home (on & off) for about 8 years. She has been O/S to Thailand 3 times and the Phillipines for 4 months (working) as well as travelled around Australia in her Kombie & her dog (Kelly).
I'm coming from the dad perspective, just try your best to keep in regular contact with the folks, in this way they can also 'live' your experience. Actually deep down, they will be very proud that you have shown independance & can look after yourself.
They will be bragging about what their kids are up to 'somewhere' in the world (like I did above).
We do worry but only because we care & cannot be there to help if needed. After all we looked after you up till now suddenly you don't need us!! - worrying is our job as lil j said.
e-mail is a godsend, also if possible MSN messenger is good & 'real time'. The occasional phone call is good of course. Hey, why not get them a phone card so they can call you (they can recharge it though). Another thought is what our daughter does, she regularly uploads pics onto a site & we can see she is still healthy & happy - TP has a similar option. And, what about Blogs.
Use whatever technology is available & if possible get them onto the internet.
thanks everybody for your replies and advice.
After all we looked after you up till now suddenly you don't need us!! -
oh, come on, you know that's not true. We'll always need our safe place at home with our parents.