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Hate and Love

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1. Posted by Odysseas (Full Member 1359 posts) 10y

I know it is not a pleasant subject and I expect the almost zero posts,but...

If someone without reason insult you or beat you,sure you will at least hate him (even for one second),probably insult him in return,probably beat him in return.
But if someone without reason tell you I love you or kiss you,will you love him(even for one second),tell him I love you in return,kiss him in return?

Very probably not,it will be hate insult and maybe beat again.

Why are we so fast to give back hate ad so reticent to give back love,even to accept it?

WHAT'S WRONG WITH US?

2. Posted by helsbells1 (Budding Member 70 posts) 10y

I think maybe because love has the possibility of hurting more than hate!

3. Posted by Rraven (Travel Guru 5924 posts) 10y

i agree but i also think its easier to hate then love, with love you give a part of yourself that you may not get back, you leave yourself exposed, unfortunately it is normally easier to think negative

4. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 10y

Didn't our mothers teach us that hate and love aren't opposites? To love someone or to hate someone makes for a very passionate response. But indifference - that's the kicker. No one wants people to be indifferent towards us. We only know we're over a past reationship when we stop loving/hating the other person and get on with it.

Wait, what was the question again?

5. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 10y

Both love and hate are primal emotions - though I tend to believe that "hate" has been around longer on the emotional scene than "love". Now, look at the definitions for both words and love you will notice that love is a much more complicated emotion than hate - which is pretty clear cut and simple.

Unless you are talking about food stuffs, etc - which you aren't - hate is usually an offshoot of anger and/or fear. You example shows someone being insulted or physically accosted. Either, and/or both, of those actions stimulate anger/fear, which in turn, fuels the emotion of hate. People are more easily angered (primal response) than they are delighted, happy or prompted to express any positive emotion. Ultimately, we don't have to work hard to be angry or afraid, but we do have to work a bit to be happy or to love.

Love, again, unless you are talking about non-human things, is complicated and comes with a variety of conditions attached. You can love your dog - easy. But loving a human is not so, and for many people, is very scary in of itself. It hasn't always been this way, but at this point in time, saying you love someone means you have an agenda. The other person immediately concludes you want sex, or to date, or have some type of commitment with them. We, as a society, have forgotten that one can be loved just because they live and breath - nothing else added. No one can understand how another person could utter those words and not be wanting something in return, or not be just out and out "crazy". Love requires trust - something humans have conditioned themselves not to have much of - and sometimes for good reason. In the long run, we have forgotten the simpler things in life. Our days are filled with so much "crap" and the bad bahavior of others, we tend to fall into the same trap. We reserve our love for a select few - those we know, trust and feel comfortable having around us.

Isa steps off the soapbox and sets it aside...

6. Posted by Jase007 (Travel Guru 8870 posts) 10y

hate is a defensive emotion.
Love is an emotion that if not returned or lost, can cause more pain than anything a beating or nasty word can do.
so we have a guard/defensive front up.

7. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 10y

Excellent question Odysseas.

I'd say it's easier to hate or hit someone as it's like self defence to do so.

8. Posted by Q' (Travel Guru 1987 posts) 10y

I'm in total agreement with james! It's much easier to hate than to love. To love, you must be willing to open yourself to the possibility of being hurt. To hate, you take no risks.

9. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 10y

Quoting Q-Tip

To hate, you take no risks.

And gain no beneifts!

10. Posted by sally8585 (Full Member 64 posts) 10y

What we give out to the universe we will get back. Nobody should hate another person because we control how we choose to react to situations. Love can be scary but if you believe you deserve it, love and life can be anything you wish for!