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Why is it so hard to meet people?

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1. Posted by kellyb78 (Budding Member, 58 posts) 17 Mar '06 18:51

I am only 28 but been single (and celibate I may add)for the last year. Although I do not want to blow my own trumpet I don't thinkn
that I am 'ugly'. I never seem to 'pull' in any environment. What kind of quality do you need to have have to make men 'drool', Or even to approach you on a night out? What do men find attractive? or un-attractive in females??

2. Posted by Brendan (Respected Member, 1824 posts) 17 Mar '06 19:40

perhaps flipping the coin and approaching them?

3. Posted by Q' (Moderator, 1987 posts) 17 Mar '06 22:49

That all depends on what you're looking for doesn't it ? There are certain bars, where I guarantee if you walk in wearing something low cut and tight, you'll get approached.

Never was into that scene. What do I find attractive in a woman ? The willingness to be a partner.

4. Posted by none (Full Member, 70 posts) 17 Mar '06 23:22

Just be yourself and don't worry about that. (That's what I find attractive)

5. Posted by james (Travel Guru, 4123 posts) 18 Mar '06 01:31

Are you approachable?

When a guy does approach you are you:

A) Snobby (i.e hard work)
B) Quiet (i.e hard work)
C) Boring (i.e hard work)
D) Not interested (i.e hard work)?

A guy drools mostly over looks, and to a lesser extent, over how a girl handles herself.

It either takes a bit of courage, or a bit of alcohol, for a guy to approach a girl, so if you're not interested at least be friendly.

6. Posted by mally (Respected Member, 199 posts) 18 Mar '06 01:58

just try and be a nice guy . happy helpfull and not the ones with i want sex tatooed on there forehead! you'll find its the more discreat ones that get all the women.don't be afraid to look silly laugh with the others even if it's about yourself. a good friend is sometimes better than a good lovr . after all a person looks better with another of the oposite sex than one on their own - so friends can come in handy good luck and get out there

7. Posted by Jase007 (Travel Guru, 8868 posts) 18 Mar '06 02:02

Could say the same thing about all the single women.
I just think it's society today, we just don't seems to be getting out enough to sociable places.
Work, keeps interfeering with things.
As well most guys just don't know where we stand anymore.

8. Posted by miranda73 (Full Member, 76 posts) 18 Mar '06 03:22

You suppose not to worry about not to meet good people as long as you consider yourself good enough.
Then I am sure you will meet them.
Well, it is just a matter of time.

9. Posted by Clarabell (Travel Guru, 1696 posts) 18 Mar '06 03:46

I can totally identify with this.

When I was travelling, I was surrounded by people with similar interests, and it was really easy just to get talking to someone, and if you fancied each other, you'd find out, but it didn't matter if you didn't, cos you're just being friendly.

Its a completly different way of doing things back here. Nobody talks to new people unless its to try and pull. I don't even know how dating etc works! I was single for a year before I went travelling, and wasn't looking, and before that I was with someone for 5 years, so I can't remember!

It doesn't help that my friends have different interests to me, so when we go out its always to bars with bad dance music and rough chav blokes. In the UK, it seems that people meet by getting drunk, snogging (or more if you're like that), then swapping phone numbers. It just seems nasty!

I recommend a bit of light-hearted flirting though. Cos most people never realise if someone likes them, and so its good to drop a few hints! Most of all lots of smiling

10. Posted by none (Full Member, 70 posts) 18 Mar '06 04:31

Quoting Clarabell

In the UK, it seems that people meet by getting drunk, snogging (or more if you're like that), then swapping phone numbers. It just seems nasty!

That's everywhere, I think

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