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21. Posted by kellyb78 (Budding Member 58 posts) 10y

Thanks for the posts, was just curious really!I'm not actively looking for anyone as I'm planning to tavel in Sept and don't want anything or anyone to get in my way, if you know what I mean! (was planning to travel a couple of years ago and put it off because I met my ex fiance,( one of my biggest regrets!)) Just a random conversation at work happened, where I was asked why I had been single for so long and I said it was because I never seem to get approached when I'm out, people at work said it was because I come accross as confident and happy!?!. Where as, another girl I work with has been single for a month and she 'pulls' every week! I think its because I'm maybe to picky and like to get to know people first, (which you can't really do in a club). Was just intersted in what men find approachable or a put off! Or where the best place is to meet people! Where is the most unusual places you have met anyone??

22. Posted by Desiree (Inactive 157 posts) 10y

I do think a lot of men have troubles with confident womans, somehow they are scary, so perhaps that is a reason?

my only advise is, if you do see a nice man abroad, make sure you do get some information, otherwise you regret it.. (like i'm doing now, the only nice nice guy I met recently was in madrid and i have no way at all to contact him and i very much regret that)

just don't be afraid of ending up alone or so, just have fun and see what happens, and do you really want to have a different drunk guy every week?;) if not, don't be jaleous on others who do have that

23. Posted by Twinkle (Travel Guru 1112 posts) 10y

I honastly dont know what it is....when you are really young it seems so easy to attract all these men but I reakon the older you get the more guarded you become. I think you become more aware and a group of me and my mates were discussing this....our conclusion was when you get a bit older you tend to go to different places (ie your probably not going to hang out in the same bars that you enjoyed going to when you were 16 where up for it men were of plenty and drinks were cheap!) another one ,your probably not going to want to snog 5 different guys in a night on the dance floor...but I reakon the biggest one is that you just get more choosy, maybe men are the same, Im not sure its a bizarre one...Sex and The City says it all really!

24. Posted by Rraven (Travel Guru 5924 posts) 10y

i think that too many women expect men to do all the work and then are suprised when nothing happens, i approached my boyfriend originally, theres a long version but the short story is that i told him i found him attractive and bought him a beer, we had a great conversation (very silly one too ) but in the end he asked me out, he said that he normally wouldn't have bothered but that he was intrigued by the role reversal,the fact that i asked him who his favourite action hero was and just kept smiling.....

25. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 10y

Quoting raven

...but the short story is that i told him i found him attractive and bought him a beer...

Bloody hell, he hit the jackpot. I'm surprised he didn't want to marry you there and then

26. Posted by TravelMex (Budding Member 6 posts) 10y

Quoting raven

i think that too many women expect men to do all the work and then are suprised when nothing happens, i approached my boyfriend originally, theres a long version but the short story is that i told him i found him attractive and bought him a beer, we had a great conversation (very silly one too ) but in the end he asked me out, he said that he normally wouldn't have bothered but that he was intrigued by the role reversal,the fact that i asked him who his favourite action hero was and just kept smiling.....

That is the best advice any female could get from anyone. I'm actually a travel writer by trade and don't have the luxury of real relationships. That's one of the reasons that I love hostels. I have to admit that I spend half the day in the gym, and that I do my fair share of teasing the girls . . . but I watch for the signs of interest. That could mean that the girl is always looking at me or I overhear comments (when they think I'm sleeping -- Mixed dorms). That "sign" of interest is what tells me who I should ask out. . . Like anything else in a relationship, the initial attraction has to be a two way street. If you don't show it, he won't know it!

27. Posted by maba (Inactive 227 posts) 10y

On alighter note, check thread 20988, 'Clanger' who started it might be able to give you some tips.

28. Posted by yolandac8 (Respected Member 159 posts) 10y

Think about this: you really want to be approached by a guy in a pub... What kind of guy would he be????? What would he be looking for???? There are some nice guys out there, even at pubs... I don't know, is just so bloody difficult to meet a decent, interesant, funny bloke out there, that I really don't know what to say...

29. Posted by Intrepid A (Budding Member 70 posts) 10y

Don't look too hard...you often find best relationships happen [friendships as well] when you are not looking for them. I guess you are more relaxed & confident about yourself....

Enjoy being single while you can...no compromise required...you can come & go as you like....you have a chance to find yourself & work out who you are.

Oh and good luck xx

30. Posted by BlankFrack (Respected Member 280 posts) 10y

Just go up and speak to people. I mean for one thing the guys who approach girls the most are the exceptionally sleazy types so you're cutting down your chances there, plus if you approach a guy and you look ok/he's not in a relationship then there's like a 10% chance he's not going to be receptive. Seriously, they did a study into it, a perfectly normal woman just went up to random single guys and asked if they wanted to mate and about 75% agreed to meet up later.