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41. Posted by Cupcake (Travel Guru 8468 posts) 10y

Hi Flo!
I believe James was kidding...he has an awesome sense of humor, which sometimes gets lost in the written word.
p.s.
Welcome to Travellerspoint! :)

42. Posted by NobodyAtAl (Budding Member 7 posts) 10y

I know what you mean, but I think there are a couple of really important differences between meeting people at home and meeting people travelling.

I think it is relatively easy meeting people when travelling. Lots of the people travelling will be on their own themselves, and as such will be very approachable. Say you go to a hostel, you are likely to find plenty of people travelling alone, and they will be open and receptive to chatting to new people and making new relationships. Groups of people are likely to be more receptive to meeting new people, just because they are on one big holiday.

At home, people tend not to go out alone, but in groups. That safety net means there is no need to go and meet new people, you don't have to do it. Even if I went to a pub on my own and tried to talk to a group of people, they probably wouldn't be that interested. The chances of there being another lone person in there about my age is also highly unlikely.

I find it hard to meet people here in London, outside of workmates. I could probably go out and meet some women if I put myself out of my comfort zone, but what would be really difficult would be to go out and meet some blokes to be mates with, cos then it would be REALLY weird me going out on my own and talking to guys in bars!!!

43. Posted by s_hoot (Respected Member 497 posts) 10y

Quoting Flo Jo
where is the romance and RELATIONSHIP. Damm guys please

I was not necessarily talking in that manner...dirty minded people:)

Take for instance, on this one trip to Rome last April, holy crap i just realized it was one year ago yesterday.... well on this trip last april i met this amazing irish girl who was staying in my hostel, we had an amazing night out just drinking and having a good time, i think we fell in love with each others accent more than anything, me being texan, her irish..wow think of a kid that had two parents with those accents, hed be quite unique for sure. but we just connected for that one night, hung out the next day and then whoosh just like that i was back to england she was back to southern italy where she was teaching english. if i could go to a web site and meet people like her and actualy plan a trip together to see if we could hit it off or not that would be amazing. with me and im sure just like a lot of you out there who are on this site, dont really care where you end up living in life, as long it is far away from home and somewhere really cool, i dont plan on living in america for the rest of my life and would totally love to meet some foreign girl, fall in love, travel the world with her and live happily ever after. im all about the romance and relationship Flo Jo, its just finding the relationship that is the problem.

i totally think a world dating forum would bring some great things to a lot of the great people at this site.
so any young ladies, preferably in the 20-24 range check my profile out.;)

44. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 10y

Quoting flo jo

Quoting james

Quoting s_hoot

....but most of them just turn into one nighters cause your goi.....

And the problem with that is ......?

where is the romance and RELATIONSHIP. Damm guys please

Dammed guys? Last time I checked, it took two to tango

45. Posted by Clarabell (Travel Guru 1696 posts) 10y

I'm convinced I couldn't have a relationship with someone who had no interest in seeing whats outside his home town.

But the problem with meeting people travelling is they always end up living on the othere side of the world etc. A dating forum would be fun, but it would probably just be that. And I don't want a virtual boyfriend I want a real one, if you get my drift.....

46. Posted by flo jo (Respected Member 414 posts) 10y

hi clarabell I join you completly on this one. Wont go out with an no traveller but when you meet a traveller, he is off to somewhere far from you. So what´s the solution.? inextricable question.

47. Posted by Desiree (Inactive 157 posts) 10y

Quoting flo jo

I think travellers are a race apart. I love travelling because I love to meet new people and see countries which will open my mind even wider. When I come home, I normally enter into depression, if it wasnt for the organization of my next trip. I really dont feel connected to most of the people around me. They born, live and die in the same place. I guess it´s why I havent meet anyone because when the big adventure is to go to the local. I admit that I switch off.

I agree with that, a lot of people think i'm insane for travelling alone, especially because i refuse to go to salou or so and that i save now most of my money just to travel again..
that i know for sure that i won't stay here forever, that is for so many people unbelieveble! I can't believe that whole idea of having kids and living in the same place forever

and i think the best thing would be just keep on travelling and let people who stay at home, donate the travellers money and in return we try to make world peace

48. Posted by sunset1999 (Full Member 108 posts) 10y

James and s_hoot, you two are hilarious!!!

Kelly,

I totally agree with you that it's hard to meet people. I've got a job that sends me off to different countries for short periods so starting a relationship would be hard. For example, I was in Aussie for about a year and then was back in NZ for 2 weeks before coming here to Honolulu (shock horror it's a hard life).

I don't know how long I'll be here, but I've started to get myself into gear and DO stuff. Like I went to Walmart the other day to buy some snorkelling gear and meet another girl doing the same thing and found that she's here for another month so we exchanged phones to meet up one weekend and go snorkelling or something.

Next week I'm going to be volunteering at this book and music festival and hopefully meet some more people. There's actually a website that allows you to join groups that do stuff and I think it's free except for the event so you just have to pay your own way.

As for guys... Well can't help you there since I have as much trouble as you, but then I don't go out and look and I'm not into the pub scene. I also agree with the people here who questions the quality of guys that goes to the pubs.

Anyway good luck.

49. Posted by Gelli (Travel Guru 2457 posts) 10y

Gawd blimey!

I go away for a few days and TP degenerates into a dating site. Disgusting.

Oh well. If it's going that way, let's see what the clever folks of TP (James, that probably means you) can put together for me. I can't be bothered to read the exixsiting pages of entries, so its possible that my soul mate has already replied here without my knowing.

I'm a sad, old, lonely, single British guy looking for something which doesn't involve sheep (am currently hit with too many legal problems to want to keep that up full time), and with somebody who doesn't object to the presence of the aforementioned animals. I've travelled occassionally, but not much and don't really like it. Anybody?

So, people, do your work

50. Posted by zags (Respected Member 370 posts) 10y

Quoting Gelli

I'm a sad, old, lonely, single British guy looking for something which doesn't involve sheep (am currently hit with too many legal problems to want to keep that up full time), and with somebody who doesn't object to the presence of the aforementioned animals. I've travelled occassionally, but not much and don't really like it. Anybody?

So, people, do your work

Gelli you're getting crazy because of too many legal problems...or too much travel?