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11. Posted by hil357 (Budding Member 11 posts) 9y

which countries have you guys travelled in that you have been able to find travel companions the easiest? is there anywhere where you didn't have the chance to meet many other travelers and spend time with them?

12. Posted by bennnn (Inactive 93 posts) 9y

I also want to ask, how would you "open" up to strangers?
I was alone in a backpackers hostel, and found it hard to interact wiht others - it seems like they want to do their own thing, plus I don't know how to engage.

I only stayed for 4 days, but its enough to make me feel awkward throughout...

13. Posted by kombizz (Full Member 1416 posts) 9y

I am little bit skeptical to meet your travel mate thru internet.
The main reason would be that you would never met that person who could be anybody with a nicer and kind voice.
So it would be advisable to meet your travel mate on your way to a destination.

14. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Hello Tomm:)

No
I dont think making a plan to travel long term, with a person I have never met is a good idea. Sometimes, even if I know somebody and get along with them, travelling with them does not work out.
One example comes to mind. I met a guy in Thailand, last time I was there, with my 6 year old daughter. We got along with each other and decided to travel in Thailand together. We had not been travelling for even one full day, when he started to give me a bunch of childcare advise, and a list of things I am doing wrongly with my daughter. That heap of unsolicited advise was enough, to make me not want to be in his company any longer.
So keep any arrangements u have to travel with another person loose, whether they are a friend, or somebody u meet on the internet, or somebody u meet while travelling.

Bennn
I think the way to connect with people in hostels, is to just be open to meeting them. Say hello to anybody who looks in your direction, and chat with them, if they start a conversation. Or u could take a more active approach, by going over to somebody and starting a conversation, with them. U can always start a conversation, by asking where the nearest supermarket is, or where u can find a nice restaurant.

Hil
I meet them everywhere. Maybe u want me to name countries, but I really do meet people everywhere. Even remote places have had 1 or 2 people I hung out with. I think, if u want to meet more people, dont spend all your time rushing around looking at tourist attrations. U will be difficult to approach, if u seem busy. Make time, to sit back and relax, in bars and cafes.

Mel

[ Edit: Edited on May 16, 2007, at 8:02 AM by Mel. ]

15. Posted by memelabs (Budding Member 3 posts) 9y

I've definitely met some people who seemed GREAT on the internet but who I didn't get along with in real life. Traveling with someone is pretty intense so I would recommend looking for someone you're really compatible with. (This doesn't necessarily mean friends either... traveling with friends can be torture for your relationship!)

I've had success meeting people off of Craigslist and whatnot - when I'm really specific about what/who I'm looking for - and then I do an interview type thing.

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17. Posted by Mel. (Travel Guru 4567 posts) 9y

Hello Memelabs:)

I would be interested in knowing what was different about them, when u met them in person, which made them not as great as they seemed on the internet.
I have not yet met anybody, in person, that I know from the internet.

Mel

18. Posted by libertad (Budding Member 3 posts) 9y

traveling alone is the only way to experience travel with all the spontaneity that it brings

19. Posted by amorphis (Budding Member 47 posts) 9y

Hi everyone,
Interesting thread, this one. I've been doing quite some solo traveling in all of Europe, Latin America (Brazil) and parts of Asia. There weren't so many moments that I actually was alone on those trips. You simply attract company when you are on your own abroad. And even during periods that I actually was alone, I just did not feel alone (and even less lonesome).
I feel inclined to throw in a somewhat "philosophical" remark at this point. I think people traveling with a previously selected companion with whom they get fed up shortly after take-off, are presumably somewhat estranged from themselves. In other words (true: rather provocative): GIGO, the deploring 'output' is the result of the insufficience of the preceding 'input'.
After having landed back on earth after these abstractions I just want to comment on Tom's earlier remarks. Between holiday makers, yes indeed, there are often loads of 'ice'. Campers on a popular ground in France, for example, can quarrel like animals about half a square metre of 'territory', so to say. But between real travelers these barriers only seldom exist, in my experience. So, "melt down, lonely traveler, or look for a different way to lead your life.

20. Posted by Walkaways (Full Member 106 posts) 9y

I travelled with a friend to Thailand last year - i had known him about 7 years - and he is my best friend. I found the time out there was amazing - having a friend who you can open up to was a big part of that trip and i would never change that time - it was the last time i was truely happy.

I also think that going solo has to be done - i believe the reason i had such a good time with my friend is because we both did whatever it was we individually wanted to do. I drove around an island for a while he travelled around in a boat.

I plan to go solo at the beginning of 2008 for a long time but as a ridiculously shy person have my worries. But i honestly believe that as one of you said earlier, when you are travelling there is a feeling that the adventure is simply that - an adventure, and i found that the most confident i have felt in the last five years has been when i was travelling - no matter whether i was alone or by myself.

I think when you are travelling you have a kind of 'f@#k it' attitude, thats what i probably love most about travelling, and thats why i have been saving every penny i earn since the moment i returned from Thailand.