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1. Posted by SeeTheSky (Respected Member 558 posts) 10y

Sometimes i wonder, it seems like most cases, people have to make a choice between chasing a dream or being in love. its really hard to try and devote your life to a dream and a person at the same time.. i'm saying its not possible.. im sure there are some people who are in understanding enough of each other to make it work. I don't mean this to be a depressing subject, i don't think it is, both things (pursuing love or a dream) are beautiful in their own right. i guess its not really a permanent thing, you can fall in and out of love and chase or not chase a dream. but it just seems like sometimes you have to leave someone behind to go where you need to, and its a "if you love someone, let them go" kinda deal. or you can decide to stay for them. I don't know, i guess its hard for me to say(never really been in love) the only times ive thought it to work would prolly be if both people had to chase a dream mutually, even if they were different dreams.
ah well, just thinkin out loud, like to hear from ya. i <3 you all
-Evan

2. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 10y

Hi Evan!

I don't think the two are mutually exclusive. You can go off to wherever your dream is, and still be in love and plan to return. That takes something else - honesty, commitment, understanding, patience and what have you - but it is possible. I can't say I'm chasing a dream right now, but I sometimes look at the distance between Neal and I (i.e. the Atlantic) as a kind of blessing: we both get to do the things necessary in our own lives before making the decision to fuse them together. It isn't easy or anything, but it's kinda like having your cake and eating it, too ;).

What was my point...? Oh - don't give up on one or the other. Being in love and having a dream may be a lot more alike than you think!

3. Posted by Pardus (Respected Member 2356 posts) 10y

I am chasing a dream right now! And I know that if would fall in love my whole focus would shift and the dream would suffer. So I stick with my current creative obsession and pay the price for it, which is the feeling of loneliness at times, but hey, through this obsession I found really good friends, and that's worth a lot!
And who knows what the future holds, I just decided not to wait for anything to happen anymore. If you're not looking for it, you'll find it!

4. Posted by beerman (Respected Member 1631 posts) 10y

Hmmm, tough one there E......

Try to find the one for you that shares your dream. If you can't do that, find the one that shares your insanity. If you can't do that, find the one who shares her bank account...

One should never be in a rush to fall in love or chase a dream. Sure, spontaneity can be incredible.....or not. Think with your one true heart, not with the "lower" heart" or "second brain (for men)". Remember, a few short years on this Earth mean nothing. Experience, and more importantly learning from those experiences, is what makes us the people we are. Don't be judgemental of others lest ye be judged........And I sayeth unto thee, bad dog, for thine is not the potty of the carpet.....

Ahem...right, aside from that, just be honest. With yourself, with your companions, with your family (though as much as I try with MY family, honesty is definitely not the best policy). Your honesty will lead to well-being, and well-being leads to....um......not really giving a crap about someone judging you or telling you how they think you should behave.

And hey, who says that love isn't the dream you're chasing? And lifelong dreams can change as you age. Look at me. I used to dream of lounging on the beach with a wiki-wiki drink in my hand. Now I dream of the same thing, but my love is sitting next to me. See? Change.....

Let it happen.

5. Posted by Brendan (Respected Member 1824 posts) 10y

Interesting post STS, I'd like it if I could subscribe to a user to see all the posts they make.

I think dreams can include love and vice versa, what I don't understand is why there is this inate sense of "pairing-off" and procriating. I get why it is there in an "evolution"... or... "ecological" standpoint. But why the drive to find a mate?

To perpetuate the human race? Meh, I could do without.

6. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 10y

Quoting Pardus

I am chasing a dream right now! And I know that if would fall in love my whole focus would shift and the dream would suffer. So I stick with my current creative obsession and pay the price for it, which is the feeling of loneliness at times, but hey, through this obsession I found really good friends, and that's worth a lot!
And who knows what the future holds, I just decided not to wait for anything to happen anymore. If you're not looking for it, you'll find it!

What's the dream you're currently chasing Pardus?

7. Posted by Cupcake (Travel Guru 8468 posts) 10y

Evan, again......I love you. You are one of the most interesting people I have never met! :)
I was going to say how much I agree with Tina, but then I read eermanBay's post...:) and gotta go with his answer!
B? Love and sex are not mutually exclusive to procreation. In todays wonderful world you can love someone and scrump like bunnies and NOT have critters!

8. Posted by Brendan (Respected Member 1824 posts) 10y

True CC - I guess I mean the underlying forces of love (not family love, mate love) are lust.

9. Posted by Cupcake (Travel Guru 8468 posts) 10y

Or lust is an expression of love....not that I would know mind you...sweet pure lil' virginal me...coughbullshitcough...excuse me...now, where was I? ;)

10. Posted by Jase007 (Travel Guru 8870 posts) 10y

E,
Such deep thought for one so young. I'd have to agree with the B.MAN (even though it does seem like a sermon or something like that :)).
We are here for a good time not a long time.
No dress rehearsals, no re-runs.
Have a good one and enjoy it