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1. Posted by s_hoot (Respected Member 497 posts) 10y

So i have been doing a lot of soul searching lately as I am, for the first time in almost 5 years, semi-settled down a bit, taking a break from the travels and trying to finish uni. I have been doing great with school since January and this semester is almost over. I am only at about my half way point done with my full degree though and still have some years left to finish it but dont know if i will make it. I took a little road trip a few weeks ago to the grand canyon, just a mere 2500 mile drive from my little poe-dunk village of a city here in Texas, and now think it was a mistake.

My feet are now itching like crazy to leave all this insane school work and get back out there. problem is that i dont know really why i do it. i always try and explain to people why i travel so much but i can never do a good enough job of explaining myself and just end up saying "i really cant explain it too good"

So, why do we travel? are we all lost, and trying to find something? is there anything to really find or are we just wasting our time and money going nowhere?

I came across this site, howtogetlost.com, and came read a part of someone's travel blog that read:

"I may never own a million dollar house on the Elbow river. I may never drive a BMW, even a 3-series. But whatever else life has to teach me, I know I will always hunger for that terrifying and thrilling moment of stepping out the door of the train, the bus, the plane, and into someplace new, someplace unexplored."

anybody feel the same way?
why do You travel?

2. Posted by Odysseas (Full Member 1359 posts) 10y

Passion.

Because this world is so vast,this life is so precious,this sky is so beautiful.

And if you stay home,all that you'll see of all of the wonders of this world is the same roof above your head,the same door under your hand every evening,the same bed to lay in,and you'll live your life not for the half of what it could be.

One day though,there must be somewhere we could call home,somewhere to finally feel like the roaming part of the journey is over.Someday,a magic place.

But not now,not yet.

3. Posted by cruisegirl (Respected Member 244 posts) 10y

Excitement of the unknown.

I've been travelling for 3 years now, and like you have just settled down, but feel the itchy feet.

When I come back home, it seems as if nobody understands me, but they are all envious of me. When they ask "how do you do it?" I just say that I did it, just get up and go.

I love to travel and venture out into someone new and exciting. And truthfully, seeing something new can be in the next city over, or it can be 8 time zones away. As long as it is not my city, and I am somewhere new....

A lot of my friends at home have now settled down into jobs, they have cars, they have homes, getting married, etc....and what do I have to my name? Not a penny, but photo albums and my mind PACKED with memories, and an address book filled with friends from all corners of this world. I know I will never own a big, fancy home...I'd rather spend the money travelling.

I guess everyone is different, I know a lot of people who have never left the province, and have no inclination too. They look at me as if I am a freak, for having such wanderlust.

I think that what started me travelling was a bit of being lost, but it turned out to be the most wonderful experience of my life. I don't know if we are all lost, and I don't think we are wasting our money either. If I come home and talk about a country, and it inspires even just one person to take a step and go...then it's all worth it.

(and just think, once you are finished your degree, you will have no reason to stay home, and will be free from the commitment of school. Stick it out and finish, then all the time in the world is yours :))

4. Posted by Odysseas (Full Member 1359 posts) 10y

I love your answer Brianne

5. Posted by cruisegirl (Respected Member 244 posts) 10y

Thanks

I just hope it helped!!

6. Posted by s_hoot (Respected Member 497 posts) 10y

Good answers above, but i am now turing into as you listed above, a travel "freak", everyone is always asking where i am going next, how many of you out there are these "freaks" who are now 45 going on 50 and not married, have no kids, no real homes or constant friendships? do you wish you could take it all back and live the whole working person world, with kids, and house morgages, two cars and a secure job? im just affraid i may wind up 35 and lonely one day, stuck in some God forsaken country that i cant get out of because i spent all my money getting there. what then?

7. Posted by xjadex (Budding Member 5 posts) 10y

i can sympathise with u s_hoot. i am only young but the fact my friends are all in university and working towards there working life future. i does make me think should i be doing the same, it still is an option but it's not me! what i could never realise before but do now is that you have so many paths in life and you dont have to just pick one you can explore all of them. remember if you finish your schooling and then you still want to go travelling you can, but you still have accomplished a goal!! if that was one of yours!
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8. Posted by cruisegirl (Respected Member 244 posts) 10y

I can totally see your worries Stephen!

I've returned home, to find most of my friends paired up and marrying off, having kids, buying homes, cars, etc. And yes, every single one of them is happy.

I still live at home with my parents, which suits the situation just fine. Sometimes I long for a place of my own, and kick myself for not being home and working towards it, but then I settle in for the night, have a cup of apple tea I brought from Turkey, put on the comfiest pj's I acquired in Spain, turn on cd I got in Iceland, and leaf through my thousands of pictures I have taken, while sitting on my bed that is convered with beautiful linens I bought in Turkey....well, life isn't so bad.

All of us will be envious of each other, it's an endless cycle. Your settled in friends will always be envious of you, and they will think you are crazy for envying them!

With the passion to travel in you, you will never end up 35 and lonely!!

And just think, one day way down the road, when all your friends are retired and travelling, trying to see all the things they've only dreamed of, you can rest and put your feet up saying "been there, done that"

9. Posted by john7buck (Respected Member 458 posts) 10y

You know, this is something I've really been grapling with myself lately as well. I'm about to turn 30, have been home from a year of traveling for almost two years now and still all I think about is how I am going to travel again. My car is falling apart, yet I don't want to commit to being tied down to a payment. All of my friends and family think it is time for me to buy a house, but I live in probably one of the more expensive areas in the States to try to do so. All I really want to do, is start saving my pennies so I can travel again.

The other issue is that I am back at my job which I really do enjoy. It's an office job, but pretty damn far away from the Office Space-type environment.

The nice thing is that my boss knows all about my desire to travel and at the same time wants to do everything she can to keep me around and happy. I'm pretty sure if I planned well in advance, I could talk her into some sort of "mini-sabbatical" for maybe 4 months or so.

I guess to answer you're question, I think maybe we are kind of like freaks to some extent in that a lot of people can't understand why you would want to spend so much money and time on something that does not produce a tangible and measureable outcome. I too worry that some day I may find myself broke, alone and "lost", so I think in my case the best situation is to try to balance the two worlds in whatever way possible.

However, like many of the "freaks" you might have known in highschool, they were only freaks until they went away to college and found a bunch of freaks just like them. Then, the way they were made a lot more sense. Hence, when you're travelling, the notion does not seem nearly as "crazy" as when you're trying to justify yourself to those you know at home.

10. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 10y

Quoting cruisegirl

All of us will be envious of each other, it's an endless cycle. Your settled in friends will always be envious of you, and they will think you are crazy for envying them!

Well said! I find myself on occassion envying the friends who've settled down with husband and kids in tow, while they envy me for getting up and leaving every few months. Guess it's human nature!

One friend in particular will, every once in a while, pass a comment about how I'm a worldly traveller and she's just a poor homebody - and I have to remind myself that she makes a lot more than me and simply chooses to spend what she earns on more material goods.

I think a lot of people tend to be overwhelmed or intimidated by the idea of travelling - believing that it's some exotic, almost impossible adventure out into the complete unknown. When, in reality, it's just a question of getting up and going. Unless and until they give it a try themselves, those friends will keep thinking that you're some kind of oddity who owns a money tree and who, for some reason, doesn't fancy the idea of spending your only 2 weeks off in the summer repairing the roof and cleaning out the gutters.