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11. Posted by tallbird (Respected Member 269 posts) 10y

Quoting Brendan

I mean more that - when you ask a child "what do you want to be when you grow up"... it imprints this idea that you are what you do. Let's say we met and we started saying "what do you do?"... and I said I am with the Police. And if you have a predisposed reaction towards police you will automatically judge me and anything I say. (This is all hypothetical).

So again, I have nothing against asking children about the future, their dreams, their thoughts... I just don't like how some of those questions we ask children turn into our "adult" bigotries.

Completely know what you mean, Brendan! A lot of people are put off to achieve what they want to become as children because it doesn't fit in with "the plan" or "pre-notions" of their parents, teachers, etc.....

By the way, I too- like Katie- considered becoming a detective until I found out I would have to walk the beat for two to three years beforehand. And although I reckon I would make a good detective I would make a terrible policewoman!!!!

Quoting GregW

And 16 years later, here I sit consulting on CRM computer systems, stuck inside on a beautiful, sunny day. Just the kind of day that one would like to be out, driving a bus with the windows open and the wind blowing through their hair...

Greg! Quit the job and become a bus driver!!!!!!!!!

12. Posted by Cupcake (Travel Guru 8468 posts) 10y

Quoting Brendan

Let's say we met and we started saying "what do you do?"... and I said I am with the Police. And if you have a predisposed reaction towards police you will automatically judge me and anything I say.

OR in the case of certain holster sniffing badge bunnies....we would be on you like syrup on pancakes.........

13. Posted by kellyb78 (Budding Member 58 posts) 10y

I must not have aimed that high when I was young, I used to watch TV and all I wanted to be was a waitress on roller boots . I got older and my ambitions were to join the Army, Prison service or police. I spent 6 years in the Army and 5 in the prison service, I now just want to live life for myself and enjoy it.
Never managed to be a waitress on rollerboots, but if I happen to come accross a place where this still happens, I may still get a chance

14. Posted by abcdf (Full Member 557 posts) 10y

I read my preschool report card and the comments were so weird. "Is a great student but needs to work on skipping and coordination." To this day I still need to work on my coordination cause I am the clumiest fool on earth. I wanted to be discovered as a great actress but I was/am painfully shy in front of people so that never panned out. I am still searching for that dream job. Hopefully I will find it soon.. the Eight Ball said it would be decidedly so, so I am pretty happy about that.

15. Posted by SeeTheSky (Respected Member 558 posts) 10y

i think this is a really cool subject. i would like to give somet thoughts on it, as i see it to be misinterpreted.

If you became what you wanted to be when you were young, i see one of two things: one, you got very lucky and it worked out perfecctly for you. two, you were too afriad to be wrong or change your path so your stuck with something out of pure familiarity.

The way i see it, changing what you want to do is a good thing. its a human thing. it is proving that your trying, rather than being idle. so many things didnt pan out.. soo what? that just means there's more to try. i dont understand how people can look down at someone who may be still trying to find the right lifestyle at whatever age, saying that they have no direction or no focus. On the contrary, i think they are the most driven. their refusing to settle for anything else. isn't that what it takes to find it, even if it takes a thousand tries? and if you never find it, i gaurantee you've found a number of things you can love, and at least your searched, right?

I feel as though in the wake of becoming 'adult' there is an unspoken pressure to 'know what you're doing' or 'be sure of yourself', so to speak. As if you need to fufill stability and understanding to be a true adult. The truth is, who the fuck is sure of themselves? i know im not, despite all my countless days and weeks and years of contemplation and introspection. and frankly, i dont want to be sure. being UNsure is what makes life what it is. To be sure is to be dead, and to be alive is to be changing, constantly.

i find myself changing at a rate too fast to keep up with sometimes, so i just accept how i feel each moment. for the last 7 years about i though BMXing was what i wanted to do with my life. and it was one of the hardest descions i ever made, but i realized that if i did that for the rest of my life i would be unfulfilled, and that i had to move on. i realized i was chasing it out of familiarity, not love. before that, i wanted to be all kinds of shit as a kid. more and more im just sure i want to travel, to wander and to adventure. now im just finding ways to make it happen.

its real simple, if you want something, you can get it. just don't let yourself get off track or lose the dream, just keep yourself in check. who is to say you still can't accomplish it? its scary to try again, but it feels good, so good to know your trying.

ok i love you all that got real long, thanks for listening to more of the Evan Chronicles
peace~

16. Posted by abcdf (Full Member 557 posts) 10y

The only thing that is constant in life is change. I agree that the unknown of choosing one path, one career is def a scary choice for me. I have lived in one city all my life. The thought of travelling to unknown places was frightening. Then I just got tired of doing the same thing and seeing the same people. I was going to travel and do the things that scare the shit out of me anyway. It has been a great experience so far and I love life and I have a greater appreciation for what I have in my life. Fear either motivates you to do something or immobilizes you to not do anything at all. Thus just by making choices you are doing something at least even if it isnt your dream job it may lead you to your dream job. Im glad my dream job doesnt include writing cause I suck at it but hopefully you get what Im trying to say.

17. Posted by Brendan (Respected Member 1824 posts) 10y

Quoting Cupcake

OR in the case of certain holster sniffing badge bunnies....we would be on you like syrup on pancakes.........

Uh Oh! Will you still like me if I don't get in!?

18. Posted by Rraven (Travel Guru 5924 posts) 10y

when i was young i wanted to be a fireman because you got to swing down a pole, then a pilot because i wanted to explore the world at my own pace, then an accountant to finance my travelling, then an air traffic pilot - well it paid well, then a dancer - because someone offered me a job and i thought why not, and now i'm in business planning.... emmmm mostly dealing with stats & finance...... but as i'm still young i'm now saying when i grow up i want to be still giggling !

19. Posted by GregW (Travel Guru 2635 posts) 10y

Quoting tallbird

Quoting GregW

And 16 years later, here I sit consulting on CRM computer systems, stuck inside on a beautiful, sunny day. Just the kind of day that one would like to be out, driving a bus with the windows open and the wind blowing through their hair...

Greg! Quit the job and become a bus driver!

Ah, I wouldn't listen to me. 75% of what I say is fluff anyway.

Besides, you can always look outside and dream that there is a better life, but it often is just idealizing the other. When I was a landscaper, I remember cutting the grass at offices around Toronto, and looking at the people inside in their air conditioned offices, working on their computers performing their important. Damn, I thought, I can't wait until I'm in there and not out here in the hot sun, baking doing a crumby, mind-numbing job.

Now, sometimes when I am in a meeting, and the pressure is coming down because deadlines are being missed, and my skin is pale and pasty because I never see the sun and my stomach is expanding because I never get any exercise, I look out at the guys cutting the grass and think to myself, "damn, I wish I was out there, enjoying the wind and the sun and the low stress and high physicality of landscaping."

It's easy to romanticize the other side, and easy to forget or ignore the real pains. I'm guessing I probably have a much more romantic vision of Greyhound bus drivers than actually exists.

Work is work. Any job is going to have hassles. You are going to wind up dealing with people you don't like, getting bogged down in the politics of dealing with people and organizations and finding yourself having to make compromises that you don't want to make. But ultimately, if you can say that what you did today was important, then I think you've done a good days work, and you can be satisfied.

Greg

20. Posted by Clarabell (Travel Guru 1696 posts) 10y

quoting ilovelucy
I wanted to be discovered as a great actress but I was/am painfully shy in front of people so that never panned out.

That's me too!!! I had an Oscar speech in my head...

I recently just decided to go for something that I'd always interested me but never seriously considered- nursing or midwifery- cos I'd have to do another three years studying, the pay's not great hours are long, etc...But how worthwhile! I can't stand being cooped up in an office, with no contact with real people.

So I'm in the middle of a long and drawn out admissions process for University, a lot of waiting! In 6 months time I hope to be a penniless student!