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1. Posted by tanzie (First Time Poster 1 posts) 10y

Hey there!

I have been thinking/dreaming of travelling for the past year and half. most of my friends aren't at the point where they can go so im now seriously thinking of going it alone...I would like to go to south africa, south east asia, oz, new zealand, south america - yeah pretty much everywhere! I am quite nervous about it and i still have to talk my parents around as they will have minor heart attacks when they hear - "a girl travelling alone...oh no no" will probably be their response, while they mentally go through different worst case scenarios of me being attacked or imprisioned or.....!!!!

Anyways along with being nervous of taking the plunge and making the decision of "yes im going to do this" i actually am quite excited - i just feel going it alone would open me up to meeting new and interesting people who i mite miss out on meeting if i was with a group of friends! also it would just be a great way to "find myself"...yes i am quite corny!!

anywho just wondering if anyone out there could lend me some words of encouragement...some1 who HAS done it and lived to tell the (probably amazing) tale!!

tah

2. Posted by louloumacl (Budding Member 2 posts) 10y

Hey,

I'm in a similar predicament too! I want to travel India, South East Asia and Oz for 6 to 8 months but my friends/boyfriend only want to go for a month here and there. My Dad will go spare when I finally tell him, he thinks I'll get hit by a heat-seeking missile if I step out the front door! I've been looking around the net and found a site called Oz Intro who helps you meet people and sets you up before you arrive in Sydney. I'll hopefully be travelling to India with one of my mates for 1 month then it's to Oz on my own...I can't wait...I'd love to hear from anyone who has gone it alone.

Lou.

3. Posted by moutallica (Respected Member 122 posts) 10y

GO FOR IT!

That is all I can tell you. You'll have a great time.

While travelling alone may not be the best all the time, there are many advantages to it. You do whatever you want and you don't have to worry about doing things or not doing things just to make someone else happy. You'll also be more inclined to meet new people.

As long as you can be independant, they'll you'll be fine. You'll learn a lot about yourself and really gain some skills as you won't be relying on anyone for anything.

As for the safety part, I'm sure you'll be fine. Of course something could happen to you, but it could also happen when you're with a friend too. I travelled alone (although I am a guy), but I've met many girls travelling alone and they were fine.

4. Posted by lorina916 (First Time Poster 1 posts) 10y

do it!!! I did,..i'm a female...travelled over 3 dozen countries alone and made it home fine...

most of europe, asia and India...for 4 months...alone...a touch of africa too...

Let me know if you have any specific questions...happy to encourage you to go for it!

Lorina

5. Posted by Gelli (Travel Guru 2457 posts) 10y

Whilst admittedly i'm not female, i've met many solo female travellers who have had the time of their lives. I'm also a solo traveller and have essentially been travelling alone for the last 15years. Sometimes i arrange to meet up with people beforehand for a few days, and occassionally i arrange to meet somebody (either random or a friend) to travel with for a bit, but it's normally alone.

It's not actually that often that you are truly alone, anyway. You meet people everywhere. Sometimes it's just in passing, sometimes you end up becoming great friends and travelling together for a while. But in such cases, you both know that you are together as long as it is convenient for both and yopu are enjoying it - There is no fixed commitment as there might be if you were with a friend from home.

What I would say from a female point of view is to be cautious of otehr travellers as well as locals. Not paranoid, but naturally your guard goes down around other travellers, which can get you into trouble. In places with few people who speak your language or are travelling etc, you will often latch on to others for "security", which is often great, but be aware that other travellers can also steal from you etc. Jsut because they have a backpack does not make them trust worthy.

Also try and hone your gut reactions about people, and make sure that you don't get pushed into things you don't want. In SEA, for example, much of the accomodation is set up for 2 (or in Vietnam, up to 4) people in guest houses. Therefore it's cheaper to go in with somebody, and sometimes you can get pushed into it by guest house owners/tour operators who try and maximise customer numbers. Don't get stuck with somebody you fell dodgy with. Having said that, in the last couple of months i've twice shared a twin room with a girl i'd met barely 2 or 3 hours before on a bus, and once a double bed (without incident) with somebody i'd met about an hour beforehand as it was cheap and available, and we'd both travelled enough to understand how things work.

I love solo travel, and wouldn't do it any other way

(Rich, currently in Hua Hin, Thailand, 13months into his latest solo travel)

6. Posted by tommy g (Budding Member 17 posts) 10y

Hey,

Again, I'm in a similar situation, and although I'm a little daunted by the prospect of going it alone, I figure it's far better to do it that way than not at all (and I'm also fairly convinced that it'll work out for the best anyway, in terms of doing what I want to do when I want, and meeting new people etc etc...!).

Obviously I'm a guy and it's possible that I don't share all of the concerns of you or your folks, but one thing I do know is that pitching up in India alone and making my way will be one of the most terrifying/rewarding/liberating experiences of my life. I'm not really the kind of person who finds it particularly easy to approach or make chit chat with new people so I can't wait (sort of...!?) to be forced into situations where I HAVE to develop myself in that way.

Anyway yeah, currently sat at work and counting down the days (too long, still another 4 months or so to go...!) and I do know one thing, most of mates what love to do something similar, but for whatever reason they don't think they can (girlfriends, careers etc etc) or they just can't (financial obligations)...surely if you have the desire to travel and the time is right, there's nothing to stop you from going and having an amazing time...!

7. Posted by Shepwad (Budding Member 19 posts) 10y

Yeah i'm in the same boat, all my mates are busy worrying about marrage, kids, houses, etc and no one wants to come around the world with me! However, many people have advised me that going it alone is the best way to do it, this is started in a few guide books too!

The prosepect of going alone is quite daunting, but I've come to terms with it now and am just counting down the days until I go! 5 months yet!

8. Posted by paullus (Budding Member 6 posts) 10y

I too am a male, so I don't have as much fear as most girls do in this situation. But I say go for it. I was kind of afraid about going it alone at first, but now I'm more excited about going alone. It's definitely a better way to meet people, and like Gelli said... I'm sure you'll meet people everywhere you go. And if you meet a lone traveller, it'll be easier to befriend them if you aren't in a big group that might scare them away!

9. Posted by GregW (Travel Guru 2635 posts) 10y

Do not fear telling your parents, for you can't really control their reaction, but you can control your reaction to their reaction.

I have found that in general people might be worried, but usually they are supportive of your decision to travel and often times a bit envious.

Quoting tanzie

also it would just be a great way to "find myself".

I once lost myself in a bar in Santiago. I returned to the bar the next day, but sadly someone had picked me up and wandered off with me. I have since been wandering the world without myself. If you see me, please write.

10. Posted by Rach23 (Budding Member 55 posts) 10y

Hi although I've not done it yet (Ileave end of June) I was worried about travelling on my own but read all the comments on this site and others saying its better to go it alone etc...so go for it.

I was also worried about telling the parents I'm 23, female and thought they would try stop me but I was quite surprised at how supportive they've been you maybe surpised. All I would say is find out as much info as you can so can answer all their questions when you do tell them.

Good luck and Enjoy it!!