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11. Posted by cikusang (Respected Member 1361 posts) 10y

I remember sex education in Year 10 (when we were about 15).

The teacher asked, "so boys, put your hand up if you have ever masturbated."

No one put their hand up.

So he asks, "put you hand up if you have never masturbated."

No one put their hand up

Lucky you! My students have known what is 'top' and 'bottom' and the usage of phrasal verb of 'fxxx'. I heard Singapore government has started the sex education (later my country too)and last time I joined in one of the mission to 'publish' some sex educational books for kids but the parents (many!) complained that this should not be done during their happiest childhood...

Imagine the topic about masturbation arised in our childcare and primary schools...can't really imagine the atmosphere in the classrooms...:(

12. Posted by penna (Full Member 110 posts) 10y

things like this are th reason why when i have daughters i plan to lock them up in the basement until they are 18 and then arrange their marriages for them

13. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 10y

Quoting angela_

Quoting Isadora

Though this may be an interesting "headline" in the news - I don't see it's relevence to travel.

To quote the header of the "Off Topic" page:
"Talk about whatever you like.. a chance to get to know some of the other members who visit this site regularly"

I don't see why this post has to be anything travel related any more than any other post on the "Off Topic" forum.

At the time I posted that response - the thread was still in the General Talk forum. The "Powers That Be" have moved the thread so my comments are now irrelevent. I have no problem with the subject matter and OT is a better place for this discussion. (The General Talk forum is there for travel-related questions that don't quite fit anywhere else.)

14. Posted by SeeTheSky (Respected Member 558 posts) 10y

i do believe the chances at miscarraige are much higher when younger, so that also is a possibility. what i cant believe is the fact that the girl was so ok about it, i mean jeez im about to be 19 and i havent f**ked and it wasn't out of lack of opportunity, its just how it worked for me. i mean i think people should start when it feels right, but something tells me that if your under 15 theres some issues there.

but i agree, by not letting kids know alot about sexuality and making it seem a taboo-ish subject growing up, alot of times it only drives kids to be overly sexual. i know thats quite the case in america.

15. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 10y

Quoting SeeTheSky

i do believe the chances at miscarraige are much higher when younger, so that also is a possibility.

The statistics show that anywhere from 8-30% of teenage pregnancies end in miscarriage. Adult women range from 20-30%, though it could be as high as 50% since many women may miscarry without knowing they were ever pregnant. The accuracy of these statistics is tenuous, at best.

what i cant believe is the fact that the girl was so ok about it...

At the age of 11 or 12, young girls do not see the "big" picture. As the girl stated, she thinks she will be able to cope because she has had experience taking care of her brothers. For a child that age, it is playing with dolls. The more dysfunctional the family life, the more young girls view pregnancy as giving them something that they can love and will automatically love them in return. Their reality is just wanting someone to love them and give them attention - first that happens with the boy, then the baby - but reality sinks in just about the time labor begins. When there is a strong core family bond, there is a decrease in teen pregnancy. (Core family meaning supportive, available and attentive.) From the way the news story is written - the young girl has little of those, if any.

I worked for a Pediatric Neonatology Department for 5 years. The majority of the babies in the neonatal ICU were children of teenage mothers. Most of the mothers were under the age of 16 and most believed their child was going to be the answer to all their problems in life. Reality would begin to sink in when their baby was fighting for it's life.

Personally, I find teaching abstinence a useless tool in fighting this problem. The message does not reach the children who are the most at risk. I have no problem with sex education in schools and making condoms available. Someone needs to get with the program - just saying no doesn't work.

[ Edit: Fixed incomplete sentence. ]

16. Posted by cikusang (Respected Member 1361 posts) 10y

and it seems condoms has indirectly led many societies in the world to have more sex, less chances on getting pregnancy...the mindset problem is hard to uprooted so far...

17. Posted by Jase007 (Travel Guru 8870 posts) 10y

The old story is about to rear it's old head.
Everyone is responsible for their own actions and should accept the consequences.
(unless your mentally ill that is)
Not expect others to bail them out, this should not be the states problem, but the families involved and therefore they should bare any costs involved.
If there is no consequences this sort of thing will only get more common. Tough luck, sort it out yourselves 'we' should have no part in paying for this sort of thing.
Is the goverment going to pay for my panadols after a heavy night drinking?

[ Edit: Edited at May 16, 2006 7:53 AM by Guinness ]

18. Posted by mally (Respected Member 199 posts) 10y

Quoting Jase007

The old story is about to rear it's old head.
Everyone is responsible for their own actions and should accept the consequences.
(unless your mentally ill that is)
Not expect others to bail them out, this should not be the states problem, but the families involved and therefore they should bare any costs involved.

interesting viewpoint but in u.k. you can't get bllod out of a stone ( but they can find money in general for drink drugs and sex!!!!) it all comes down to values

[ Edit: Fixed quote ]

19. Posted by yolandac8 (Respected Member 159 posts) 10y

I was never prohibited to have boyfriends or male friends by my parents. But I have my first boyfriend at the age of 15!!!! And I will never do that with my children, but I would never let them be so irresponsible and inmature.

I think the new is just so sad. Even more when the mother, or the granmother to be is proud of ther daughter. In any case I can understand how the girl got pregnant having a mother with such ideas...

It is just insane... smoking that much and having a baby at 12, what would be here life like when she turns 20 or 30????? I can't imagine really!!!!

20. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4136 posts) 10y

Quoting Jase007

The old story is about to rear it's old head.
Everyone is responsible for their own actions and should accept the consequences.
(unless your mentally ill that is)

Then you're excused