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1. Posted by Jennifer G (Budding Member 725 posts) 10y

I was introduced to this forum by Hien - my lovely and wonderful cousin. Currently, am facing issue in the family. Hope this forum could really help me with some useful guides. What is the role of a father in the family? How to build a positive relationship with dad when there isn't any mutual respect and communication anymore?

[ Edit: Edited at Jul 3, 2006 10:43 PM by Jennifer G ]

2. Posted by tway (Travel Guru 7273 posts) 10y

Welcome to TP, Jennifer! Hope you're enjoying your time here and that Hien has only told you nice things about us. ;)

Your question is a tough one. Some people say that being a father is genetic, but you have to earn the title of "dad". Friction and misunderstanding is pretty normal, but how - and even if - it's to be worked out depends a lot on people's peronalities. The hard part is accepting that people won't change just because you want them to. But communicating your true feelings is a very good start. Although that's a hard one, too...

3. Posted by mikeyBoab (Travel Guru 5077 posts) 10y

That IS a tough one. Whatever has happened, please remember, Dads are only human - they make mistakes, sometimes big ones.

4. Posted by Cupcake (Travel Guru 8468 posts) 10y

Hello Jennifer! :)
Hien is a peach....just don't leave him alone with your ice cream or chocolate ;)
As far as Dad's can't pick your can only change how you react to them. Sometimes Dad's are nothing more than sperm donors....sad but sometimes true. just have to cut your loses....

5. Posted by Jennifer G (Budding Member 725 posts) 10y

Thank you so much on the response. I find this forum really a place to discover real friendship

6. Posted by Isadora (Travel Guru 13926 posts) 10y

Hey Jenny!

Oh fathers... Once you get to a certain age, they do have a way of testing one's patience! And, the more adult we become the more childish they seeem to behave - especially with daughters.

The role of the father in the family is a hard one to answer as it changes as his children grow. It also depends on what you expect of him - if it is realistic. Respect is earned by both sides and his/your actions will speak as loudly as words, if not louder. A lot of fathers tend to become more and more stubborn as they get older and feel they are not the ones who need to change. As Tway said, just trying to re-open up that avenue of communication is a good start. Nothing elaborate, just a simple, "I would like to sit and talk with you if you would be willing". Do not expect him to take the first step - you will be waiting a very long time.

I found in my own experiences, not playing my dad's games to get a reaction from me, helped. I had to ignore a lot of comments and let them wash over me in order to maintain a relationship. It wasn't easy (wanted to strangle him many times), but it allowed us to talk about the more important things - like that fact they we could agree to disagree and that we did love each other.

Good luck, Jenny!! ;)

7. Posted by Jennifer G (Budding Member 725 posts) 10y

The "father" in this thread is meant to be my uncle and his son is facing difficulty to communicate with his father.:(:

[ Edit: Edited at Jul 5, 2006 6:23 AM by Jennifer G ]

8. Posted by james (Travel Guru 4138 posts) 10y

Sometimes fathers are jealous of their sons....

9. Posted by Jennifer G (Budding Member 725 posts) 10y

Quoting james

Sometimes fathers are jealous of their sons....

That's why he has mistreated them?