I will need some Indian help !
Me and my 2 friends are going to India for 3 weeks (last week Sept - first 2 weeks Oct)
The main point of the trip is 2 attend my Indian friend's (3-day) wedding in Kolkata - which I'm VERY excited about!!
I have absolutely NO CLUE WHAT TO GET AS A WEDING GIFT. I only know the groom - we are quite good friends from when he was on exchange at my university and I was taking care of foreign students.
I was thinking of something European (I live in Holland) - something that they would really like as it would be different / difficult to get in India etc...
I really do not want to make some horrible faux pas with this .
Shoudl we give them 1 present form the 3 of us, or shoudl each get our own one?
Please, I'd be VERY grateful for Indian(expert) tips!!!!
Thank you in advance
Well you know the gift is the thing that beats the hell out of everyone. It sure is a tough stand to take on gifts but going from my experience it actually depends from person to person and region to region. What i have generally seen in kolkata or calcutta is that people usually give gifts singly unless you give a very expensive gift then you can combine. You have a very good choice there since everyone just loves new things which they cannot find in their country so go ahead and do try out something unique, (just remember that you have to get it past customs
Well if you have thought abt the gift then you can mail me the description and i could advise you further. Depending also on your friend's religion, lots of things are accepted and many unaccepted so a little heads up would be good.
The good thing is whatever you give is accepted with gratitude and i am sure your friend is more than happy that at least you are going to be there at his wedding.
Let me know how it goes and also watch out for my next mail.
[ Edit: Sorry, no personal contact details in the forum please. Use MC instead.... ]
thx 4 a quick reply!
well... it's also tough for me 2 figure WHAT woudl b UNIQUE in india... i've never even been 2 Asia, so its a bit beyond my imagination have 2 say
My friend actually lives in Mumbai (him & the future wife have already been living 2gether for some time). He is a Hindu (but not at all strictly sticking 2 the faith), from a rather high cast my guess would b. He is thinking in a more European way than an average Indian would, I think... that's all the info i have...
is it by any means bringing us closer 2 the idea ?
I'm also an Indian and i want to tell u that as u only know the groom and is from his side then u can give something for a wedding gift like:
-Some household item. e.g-crockery,cooking range,silver spoons set.
-Silk Bedcover or some branded bedcover.
-Some electronic item. E.g-microwave
-Shirt for the guy and some saree(Indian dress)for the bride.
-A set of bath salts,lotion,shampoo etc-a basket full of all this plus some scented candles.
-Silver Candle stands
-A good photo frame
In India ppl give such gifts which can be used after marriage and are good for bothe the groom and the bride. It's ok if u people pool in the money and 1 gift can also be given from 3-4 people's behalf.
Or if u don't want 2 give any gift then u can even give money in a nice envelope.
I hope this information will be of some use for u...
enjoy the wedding !!!!!!!
Since the wedding is taking place in kolkata, I assume your friend is a bengali. As per bengali custom presents are given to the bride when the groom takes his friend to see the bride, you should be ready with your present to give it to her. All three can club together and give a present( single present) . Just say this present is from all three of us. Another ocassion to give present is when the groom hosts a party after the wedding is over , mostly the next day called "bou bath" in local language, which basically means you are giving a party to the girl side. What to present ? give her a golden chain or a golden ring if it suits ur budget or you can present her with a benarasi sari, or some cutlery if your budget is low. present something which they will use in their daily life . here volt is 220 in case u want to present some electrical items.
Dude - Its what ever you give brother! Whatever her fams gets! Welcome to the FAMZ - Deepest Sympathies my brother!!!! and welcome to the family lol