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1. Posted by booboo (Budding Member 14 posts) 10y

Hi there

I was planning to travel to Oz with my fella in the new year but I dont think we are still gonna be together by then!! I know that sounds real bad but its been 2yrs and the relationship is fadin fast!!
Gonna leave Jan 07 and spend the whole year away, was gonna go to Dubai, Thailand, Singapore then to Oz so it will be a little over a year.
I am scared to do it alone and wondered if there was anyone out there doing the same thing, all my family and friends are settled or dont have the money to come along.
Im 23, will be 24 by the time I leave and I wanna get out of my little country bumpkin town and spread my wings and more importantly have some fun and see some amazing sites.
Looking forward to hearing from you x x

2. Posted by Jase007 (Travel Guru 8870 posts) 10y

Quoting lbanks

Hi there
I was planning to travel to Oz with my fella in the new year but I dont think we are still gonna be together by then!! I know that sounds real bad but its been 2yrs and the relationship is fadin fast!!
Gonna leave Jan 07 and spend the whole year away, was gonna go to Dubai, Thailand, Singapore then to Oz so it will be a little over a year.
I am scared to do it alone and wondered if there was anyone out there doing the same thing, all my family and friends are settled or dont have the money to come along.
Im 23, will be 24 by the time I leave and I wanna get out of my little country bumpkin town and spread my wings and more importantly have some fun and see some amazing sites.
Looking forward to hearing from you x x

Don't worry about it, you'll be fine and probably enjoy it more.
TP has a companion thread, just post the dates you're wanting to travel and when. There should be someone about to meet up with you.
Meeting new people and challenging yourself is what travelling is all about.

My sister also travels by herself and she's loves it, so don't be put of because your a woman.
Have a fantastic trip,
enjoy it ;)
Jase

[ Edit: Edited at Jul 10, 2006 4:47 AM by Jase007 ]

3. Posted by herront (Budding Member 45 posts) 10y

to be honest, me and my girlfriend decided too stay together when i came out.. (by the way i was madly madly madly madly madly madly in love with her) and about a week ago she finished it, even though its well quick but i mean sydney and oz is the place too be cos already in this time i have met people who i know for sure i will never meet as nicer and genuine ppl ever again!!! so go for it!!! and ill still be in oz in jan/feb time so if u wna meet up 4 a drink then let me no... X

4. Posted by RobMc (Budding Member 22 posts) 10y

Hey, going and seeing a bit of the world sounds like something you've got to do, whether its with your boyfriend or not. you'll regret it if you dont stick to your plans, especially coming from this country bumpkin town that you talk about!
Ive been a few places but im off to oz soon for the first time and ive decided to do it by myself, and then meet people over there.
You'll have a great time, meeting new people every day, and doing it by yourself will mean you can do everything the way you want and when you want, deciding which people to hook up with when you fancy it.
Whatever happens, you know you got to do it, and either way, on your own or not, it will be one of the best things you do your whole life!....and im sure someone said that 8 out of 10 people go travelling on their own..or that might just be to oz on the working holiday visa...something like that anyway!! so dont worry man!
Rob

5. Posted by lafreem2 (Budding Member 2 posts) 10y

lbanks,
I traveled to Australia and New Zealand alone in 2000 for four months (b/c that's all the American got at the time). The backpacking community is such a welcoming one. You'll meet interesting and fun people in no time -- plus all people in the same boat as you. I met some of my best friends while traveling alone, plus was able to do it all the way I wanted versus needing to compromise with a travel companion. Once I arrived I met people right away to live with and eventually traveled the country with them.

Enjoy your independence!

6. Posted by mandylou4u (Budding Member 73 posts) 10y

Hi hun,
Booked my trip to oz about 3 weeks ago now, leaving in Sept and coming back in December, unfortunately not the same times as you but you never know I might stay longer!
I literally have just broken up with my other half last night so you can imagine what state I'm in today, very hard. He promised me we would go to oz together this year but his £15,000 debt and his lack of ambition prevented him from saving the money. We then decided to put it off until next April but I realised I had to stop kidding myself and plan it anyway on my own. Realistically he wouldn't be able to go for another 3 years atleast and I can't wait that long, I'm 20 and there's things I need to do before I'm 23. He has never understood why I'm in such a rush to do this and atlthough I don't think this is all the catalyst in the break up, he has still pushed me away because of it and seems he is not really willing to work through it. Is it right that he says he loves me but doesn't want to hold me back so he's let me go by pushing me away?! Doesn't make sense to me, sounds as if he's not prepared to work through it. Everything has always been on his terms and I think he resents the fact I'm so ambitious and am doing the things I say I want to do. Moved out of his and his mum's on the weekend :( What to do? We have been together for a yr and a half so I know how you feel babe. Think you out grow people and it hurts.
Spread your wings, do the things you want to do and keep your chin up chick.

7. Posted by joeyonvac (Budding Member 4 posts) 10y

Hey guys,
I should be in sydney around the 1st of sep, planning on travelling to melb also, was supp to go to the gold coast but one buddy's visa got rejected and the other in oz land might be busy with research, so any one wanna join up with me in the mid of sept for a trip to the gold coast would be most welcome,i think a week should be enough there, let me know, wont be able to make it next year cause of studies. Let me know, made this trip mainly cause i wanted to see the gold coast.
Take care

8. Posted by Heather_m (Budding Member 8 posts) 10y

That really sucks, but I completely agree with everyone, Do it anyways! I will be in New zealand with my BF in january and we were planning to do some travelling through thailand, india and who know where else later next year. So If you're ever in new zealand drop me a message!
My only tip for travelling by yourself is give someone back home your itinerary (or at least a general idea of where you'll be) that way you'll feel safer knowing that someone knows where you are that cares about you.
All the best in your travels!
(and good luck resisting the sexy aussie accent ;))

9. Posted by jax_07 (Full Member 76 posts) 10y

Hey Ibanks

I'm travelling with a friend but we've met sooo many people travelling on their own and they're having just as much of a blast as we are. There are pros and cons to every situation but this is traveling the world!!! I can't think of a bigger pro than that!

We've actually met a girl who was travelling alone and the three of us became inseperable within days and are going to be friends for life! You will meet so many different people on your travels, some you'll only know for a few hours, others you'll know forever!

It's a very brave thing to do so you should be really proud of yourself. It's going to be the most amazing experience in your life and I guarantee you'll actually rarely be alone because you'll just be meeting people all the time!

Go for it girl!

Enjoy

Jax

10. Posted by KelJackson (Budding Member 13 posts) 10y

Hi ya

I split with my fella in October last year and decided to go travelling - seems the thing to do!!! Anyhow Ive now booked a trip starting in Jan 07 and doing it on my own. Im in the same position as you - no one I knows wants/can afford to go with me so doing it solo! Ive met someone else now who Im in a relationship with and even though i love him and gonna miss him, my mates and family like crazy im still going ahead with it. Everyone who has done travelling says its the best thing you will ever do so with that in mind im gonna give it a whirl! The worst that can happen is that Il come home early but you have got to give it a go.

Il be going Thailand and then on to Aus in Feb so may see you out there!