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21. Posted by Purdy (Travel Guru 3546 posts) 10y

Whilst l totally agree on the what the dont know wont hurt them theory,what we do with our parents is that on the day we travel or night before we email them our itinerary - flight details hotel etc etc. Because of 9/11 they need to know our travel whereabouts (so l have been told) and not telling them to the last minute cuts down on the guilt and ear ache!!

22. Posted by Gelli (Travel Guru 2457 posts) 10y

I do admittedly have the issue that because i travel so much and nobody ever knows where I am, every time there is an incident (except, obviously, flying) or disaster - natural or otherwise - I get a whole ream of emails/SMS's/calls checking that I wasn't there [I have been on a few occassions, or very close], which whilst sweet in a way, can also be really annoying as you have to reply to them all or they start to freak.

23. Posted by Purdy (Travel Guru 3546 posts) 10y

It is hassle Rich but still at least you know you have people out there who care!;)

24. Posted by Gelli (Travel Guru 2457 posts) 10y

READ: Think they will be getting a chunk of my inheritance if i snuff it.

25. Posted by Trupioneer (Budding Member 35 posts) 10y

The older generation didn't have travel accessible to them, as it is for us, when they were young.

It's really hard to have someone understand something they've never done or have no interest in.

26. Posted by SeeTheSky (Respected Member 558 posts) 10y

yeah dude, what they can't accept you don't have to tell.
seriously, just do you're own thing.. don't tell em..
and then, when or if they flip out on you, you say this...

'the day you respect my descions will be the day i let you know what those descions are.'

its your life.. its not worth the breath others would spend telling what you should or shouldn't do. its a excercise in utter stupidity. fuck it, you live to what you want, thats it. if you have to step on a few love's toes, you do it.

take care John.

27. Posted by john7buck (Respected Member 458 posts) 10y

Quoting Trupioneer

The older generation didn't have travel accessible to them, as it is for us, when they were young.

It's really hard to have someone understand something they've never done or have no interest in.

The annoying thing for me, is that my parents did (and still do). It just seems that as they have gotten older, they have become much more conservative in their thoughts, actions and beliefs.

In fairness, I guess they are just being concerned parents, and like some of the other posts here are mainly concerned that I choose to "go it alone". I think that is what they cannot understand; not so much the travel itself.

Anyway, thank you all for answering the question of the post.

28. Posted by mariqué (Budding Member 15 posts) 10y

Man, do I feel lucky reading this.

I'm leaving for a year for the second time and the only thing my mom is asking me is: Do you feel happy doing this? Is it a consequence of having hippy parents?
I can (and have) tell her everything bad that happens. She only wants to know where I am just in case. Maybe it's cause she travelled too when she was younger, I don't know. As for my dad, he left forever (that's what he says everytime) 3 times in the last 20 years, so he's in a bad position to criticize!!!

29. Posted by numero1 (Respected Member 295 posts) 10y

I share the sentiments of most on this post regarding issues with parents.

here's an interesting little story on this topic some may enjoy....

After working for 6 years straight without venturing overseas (poor me), I finally decided that enough was enough, quit my job, travel again for a lenghty time.

I'd done Europe, been to the united states as a kid, live close to Asia, so I thought South America was the perfect spot for my next major stint abroad. A good friend of mine whose mother immigrated here from Argentina told me I actually might enjoy it over there and I should give it try. So I took basic Spanish lessons and booked my ticket.

3 weeks after I booked it and paid in full, i was over at my parents place for dinner discussing my need for holiday, not telling them I'd booked already. They told me good, I needed one, but whatever I did I should not go to Asia or to South America. I just kept quiet. Then another friend of the family at dinner that night quipped up at how South America was fine as long as I avoided Colombia. I had no intentions of going there (or so I thought at the time), but I still kept silent.

2 weeks later I tell them I'm going to New Zealand, a white lie becuase I was stopping in Aucland along the way for 2 days before heading on to south america.

for the first 6 weeks i wrote and called saying i was in New zealand, when in actual fact I was in Argentina. Then one day it dawned on me that this charade could not continue. if they weren't happy with where I was or what I was doing, then they could personally get the hell over to where I was and physically get me out, which I realised they weren't going to do. So I told them 6 weeks was too short a holiday, considering I'd been working 6 straight years, and I was now speaking to them from Buenos Aires. I was greeted with at least 10 seconds of silence, before "oh, and what's it like over there? where are you calling us from?"

I told them I was teaching English in Buenos Aires and traveling around Argentina as well. I told them I visited Uruguay as well, Panama and Cuba, but I never mentioned to them I was in Colombia (they surely would have freaked out). I told them I had travelled across from Panama to Mexico by plane, when in actual fact I was on the ground in Colombia.

When I got back home safely no-one seemed to really care anyway. It was just "good you've had you're holiday, now it's time to get on with life".

[ Edit: Edited at Aug 29, 2006 4:53 AM by numero1 ]

30. Posted by john7buck (Respected Member 458 posts) 10y

Quoting numero1

2 weeks later I tell them I'm going to New Zealand, a white lie becuase I was stopping in Aucland along the way for 2 days before heading on to south america.

for the first 6 weeks i wrote and called saying i was in New zealand, when in actual fact I was in Argentina. Then one day it dawned on me that this charade could not continue. if they weren't happy with where I was or what I was doing, then they could personally get the hell over to where I was and physically get me out, which I realised they weren't going to do. So I told them 6 weeks was too short a holiday, considering I'd been working 6 straight years, and I was now speaking to them from Buenos Aires. I was greeted with at least 10 seconds of silence, before "oh, and what's it like over there? where are you calling us from?"

I told them I was teaching English in Buenos Aires and traveling around Argentina as well. I told them I visited Uruguay as well, Panama and Cuba, but I never mentioned to them I was in Colombia (they surely would have freaked out). I told them I had travelled across from Panama to Mexico by plane, when in actual fact I was on the ground in Colombia.

When I got back home safely no-one seemed to really care anyway. It was just "good you've had you're holiday, now it's time to get on with life".

Ha! That made me laugh, because I'm going to be going about things in a similar way. Though kudos to you; New Zealand when you're actually in Argentina? That's a doozy!

Yeah, I'm heading off to SE Asia at the end of September and I've told my parents all about my plans for getting off the beaten path in the Kelabit Highlands in Borneo and they seem excited about that. But I still can't get the words MY-AN-MAR out of my mouth, because I know this is going to freak them out.

So my plan is to get out of dodge, do my several weeks in Borneo then head to Myanmar; afterwhich time I plan to send an email something to the effect of doing great, alive and well. Hey, I ended up going to Myanmar and it's amazing. Like you said, at that point, what are they going to do, personally fly over and drag my ass out of there.

Maybe I'm just being paranoid, but I think I'd rather have this conversation over email than on the phone.