I've found something that I dont really like about this whole travelling business. It happens a lot of people too, I think.
You meet these great people..I mean, really interesting, funny, broad-minded, (whatever), people and then you just go your seperate ways, and that's that.
The best you can both do is delay your travel plans by a few days or even weeks to hang out together, but inevitably you will both move on and get back to the business at hand.
It's kind of sad.
Well, in a way it's kind a sad yes.
But of course after a while you get used to it and after seeing them for weeks or months you will probably forget.
it's something you have to deal with. But enjoy time together of course and maybe stay in contact with nice people.
Many people I meet couldn't be friends of mine, lots of travellers have their own strange behaviour.
Utrecht has a point there. I think it happened to all of us; meeting these fascinating, broad-minded, whatever people, changing your schedule to hang out just a few days longer, only to discover that they're human beings too, with their own particular annoying habits, opinions and obsessions...
Wow! You Dutch guys are just full of fun!
You've obviously had a few bad experiences. Ive met the best people on my trip and it's been sad to move on from them. Its both the best and worst part of travelling, I think.
Being on ships that, literally, pass for 3 years does take it's toll, and everyone has made good points in their posts.
I worked on ships where you could spend 6 months with a person, or only weeks, maybe days, depending on when contracts start and end.
What I tried to do is take as much as I can away with me from a person in the short amount of time that I had, in the way of learning experiences, cultural, laughs, jokes, and just all around good times. I absorbed as much as I could from those that I cared most about, and yes, it hurts to leave them. But such is the life. Knowing the moment you meet a person that you are going to have to say goodbye is half the battle, and something I always kept in mind.
But with the wonders of todays communications, I have kept contact with many many people...and those that I don't still chat with, I keep in fond memory.
Yes, this happens, and was indeed one of the less positive things about my whole travelling experience: whenever I'd get to know someone knew beyond the superficial, they'd invariably move on the very next day.
But it taught me to that much more appreciate the friendships that last, that are based on common ground less transient than being in the process of travelling at the same time.
I think one of the more important pieces of a luggage any long-term traveller can have is the knowledge of a few non-travelling good friends at home, ready to just continue hanging out whenever it'll be that you return.
Better yet when such friends can be found in various locations in this world, and you can find a safe haven almost everywhere.
Then again, few things equal the joy of a chance meeting with a fellow traveller you first met many moons ago, allowing you to extensively compare notes.
But in the end, I think I'd say that travelling is a purely selfish endeavour (in a non-negative way) - it's about self-exploration and personal experiences and doing what you want - not letting the strict regime of everyday life dictate your every action. And that just doesn't mesh very well with making long-lasting connections.
[ Edit: Edited at Sep 9, 2006 12:02 PM by Sander ]
Interesting post there Samsara2.
I tend to agree with you. It's actually rather frustrating (in a strange sort of way) to meet such "up" people on your travels only to come home to the usual bunch of people that you hang out with.
Indeed, great post, Sander. For some reason, I always feel most "myself" when I'm travelling - especially if I'm travelling alone. Anyone else notice that? It's as if all the relationship criteria is erased, and you're no longer an employee, daughter/son, coworker, friend, etc., and instead fully yourself - without boundries. And I suppose that's why we usually end up being ships that pass in the night - solitary people who meet up and are completely themselves for a little while. Who else but those strangers get to meet the real us?