I know this isn't a travel freature or anything to do with travel, but i'm writing this anyway.
For those who know me, and those who have read some of my posts you will notice a difference in this thread.
For today I have been witness to the burial of my cousins wife, at an age of 34 just 7 weeks after giving birth to a lovely baby girl.
This has been an experience that I wish to share with the family that some of TP have become. Today I experienced the emotions that I could not/should have felt at this time of life.
For one so young and with the fight of life, and leaving a 5year old and a 7 weeks old kiddies and a fantastic husband (my cousin) this was a momentous occasion. I Kid you not, i've been to a wake or two but nothing,like this.
For one so young Kirsty brang together a large variety of people in her death. But the message was clear to me, live life, for you never know when it ends.
The song that hit the spot at the funeral? - Nothing else matters by metallica
What would your defining song be?
[ Edit: Edited at Oct 13, 2006 4:46 PM by Jase007 ]
I am so sorry Jase, sorry for your loss, and your cousins loss, and the two kiddos loss. She sounds like she touched a lot of peoples lives. Words just don't do justice..........
As for your question, this has summed up my life over the last couple of years...because even where there is nothing to keep you going...you still have to keep going....
Move along by All American Rejects
"When all you got to keep is strong
Move along, move along like I know you do
And even when your hope is gone
Move along, move along just to make it through"
Jase, I'm very sorry for you and your cousin's loss. Metallica at a funeral? I'm impressed. Such an apt choice of song at a funeral can play a part, perhaps small in the scheme of things, but still an important part in helping to deal with a loss.
An acquaintance of mine died last year in a motorcycling accident and when they played the song "Down to the River to Pray" from the movie "O Brother, Where Art Though", it took on a new importance and I am reminded of him every time I hear that song now. It's strange, and fantastic, how such things can take on personal importance. For me, even stronger, is the smell of cigars. It immediately conjures up very strong (and good) memories of my grandfather who used to smoke cigars. For that reason I love the smell. I smelt it a couple of days ago while on my bike and happily cast my memories back to my grandfather for a few minutes.
I'm so sorry for your loss, Jase.
My parents went to a funeral of a daughter of their friends and there was a song sung there that is I think the most amazing Icelandic song ever written. The lyrics are in English though.
When I think of angels
I think of you
And your flaming red hair
and the things that you do.
I heard you had left
no it couldn't be true
I think of angels
I think of you.
Godsspeed to you angel
wherever you go
although you have left
I want you to know
My heart's full of sorrow
I wont let it show
I´ll see you again
when it's my time to go.
My condolences to your cousin, his family, you and everyone else who has known your cousin's wife, Jase. It's a harsh blow on all concerned. The poor children...
As for the defining song... I don't believe I have found it yet.
[ Edit: Edited at Oct 14, 2006 5:28 AM by summer910 ]
You have my (our) sympathies once again, Jase. I see by your writings, that you chose to go to the wake after all and I'm pleased to know that. It also sounds as though it did not proceed in the manner you had originally thought it might. Metallica - whomever chose the song was spot on.
Just as these were the songs that highlighted my father's funeral, they wil also be mine:
The Naughty Lady of Shady Lane and Amazing Grace (Preferably played on bagpipes - but any rendition will do).
Jase words fail me - life really knows how to shock you. My deep deep condolenses to you and your cousin, and my heart really goes out to the kids.
To say a defining song - it has to be one by Damien Rice - The blowers daughter - it makes me cry like a baby everytime l hearing it.
Hope you are ok honey, xx
Jase, I'm so sorry. She's so young... and her family is so young...It's made me think of all my friends, who are starting families, and what life would be like without them. My condolences to everyone, Jase.
For my song, I'd pick "Morning has Broken" by Cat Stevens. It's a song my Dad used to sing in the choir, so it reminds me of him, and of my childhood, and of all the things in this world that are small, everyday miracles. My Dad picked it for my Grandfather's funeral, and it was very touching.
Jase, am so sorry to hear about your loss, my condolence to your cousin and family. I know it's not easy to accept the fact that someone we know has left us, I just lost a close friend on Wednesday, she left behind 3 kids with her mother.....
Jase, I'm so sorry to hear about the loss in your family and my heartfelt condolences go to your cousin, the kids and everybody affected. May you have all the strength in the world to cope with the situation. It seems Kirsty was an amazing person who will never be forgotten and I know from personal experience that some very special people might no longer be with us, but a part of them always, always lives on within and through us. And nothing else matters.